im 20 years old, my mom still beats me for no apparent reason, she is violent and gets into rages.
yesturday she smaked me up right before i had a final exam 12:00pm and my final was at 145pm.
becouse i was in my room getting ready, and my room was messy.
she smaked me up and i started crying cuz she said she was gonna take my room away from me , and my clothes.
so she looked through my bag and my wallet, so when she was about to look through my phone book to get to my guy friends numbers i distracted her and yelled out "i hate You" , she flipped out started smaking me around. then i said "your being a *****"
she smaked me around till my face was black and blue.
My life is crazy, my parents control me, my mom drops me and pics me up from school and i cant go out without them around, not at nights . I am with them 24/7. i have no privalages, no privacy no nothing.
is there anything i can do.?
I wanna move out and call the police,. my firned offered my her place.
2006-12-22 04:40:47 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she said i can move in with her but i dont know how am i gonna leave the house,
if i call the police they might lock up my mom, cuz my face is black and blue.
+all my stuff, clothes and makeup, and personal belongings they wont let me take, like my passport social security card and .
+ if they try to find me and look through the detailed call history of the cell fones, then ill be in more trouble for talking to boys (names times and hours on the phone with numbers), when im supposed to be on lockdown, . They could go to sprint online and look up phone records, which im most scared of.
-Should i just go to the police>? are they gonna lock up my mom if i show them my face?
-i would be fine taking another beating but if they take away my colthes and makeup which is the only life i have, since im locked up with no life i cant take that anymore. I wanna leave But im scared of them trying to find me .
can i just call the police and tell them im being held agaist my will im 20 ?
2006-12-22 04:46:08 · update #1
my situation is this,
im 20 living in a lavish house,
im in college, i graduated community collge with my assosiates.
They drop me and pick me up when my classes are finished,
I cant go out period, without parents. i never been out at night without them.
im with them 24/7.
Other teens drink and smoke party do all of that.
They support me financially, they never let me get a job before, i have no work experience.
i just go to school , school is the only place where i have freedom and could do whatever i want to do. So im always sneaking around to get some freedom.
but my parents are controlling me i cant go out, talk on the phone, go to the movies, mall with friends none of that.
Its been like this all my life, im scared cuz they been abusing me all my life im scared and tired of it.
i tried to taking to counselors about the abuse but anytime they sent people to my house , my parents denied it and it ended up being a closed case.
2006-12-22 05:23:57 · update #2
Honey, you MUST call the police, what your parents are doing to you is just illegal and evil, you need to report this or you will never be happy. If you want to make sure that they are prosecuted for a long time, you should present some proofs of what you're saying it's true, any bruiser on your body or a video tape, anything.
I know it's hard, 'cause after all, they're your parents, but what they're doing to you is wrong and you're the only one who can stop them.
Otherwise, you can escape and hide somewhere, after all you're 20 already, but from that day on you'll have no life, hidden and scared.
Good luck
2006-12-22 04:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by Abbey Road 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your friend up on her offer as a safe place to stay, take pics, and call the police. You might not want to tell your parents you are leaving for good because they might try to stop you. No one deserves to be treated like that. I would never do that to my children. That is not love. You are in a controlling abusive enviornment and that will only break you down emotionally, physically, and spiritually- if not already. I use to work full-time to pay for my rent and bills and went to school full-time. There are girls at my job now that work full-time and go to school full-time (some with kids). If they can do it, I am confident that you can do it, sweetie! Please don't be "afraid" of change and the unexpected. I know people that have been in your situation. My 17 year old cousin we found out was always getting beat and one time got beat with an extension cord by her mother and this time she ranaway to my grandma's house (she also could not go anywhere or talk on the phone, watch tv, go out with friends and family. Very controlling mother!) After that, her life slowly but surely got better. Depending where you live, there are organizations that will help you. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-safe (7233). You derserve to live a normal life. Good luck and do the right thing for yourself right now.
2006-12-22 05:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are SICK. They are mentally and emotionally damaged. After 18, you're legal. Get the hell out and DO call the police. You'll either have to call them just after being abused, because they have to "witness" it, or have a friend take pics of you immediately after. I am SO sorry you are being treated this way. There's nothing you could do to deserve this...IS there? Even if there is, it's no reason, no excuse. Call the police and when they arrive, say you want them arrested, not just spoken to. That they've done this countless times. Assualt, harrassment, aggravated harrassment, there are plenty of counts they can be charged with. And, make sure you DO press charges or they will be out and after you. You MUST have pics for evidence. Good luck, poor little thing. I wish you the best and happier days.
2006-12-22 04:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by Iseult 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 20 years old.... pack your **** up and move in with that friend.... Your parents have no right telling you what you can and can't do since you are an adult.....
As for the beatings call the police and press charges against her for domestic battery..... it is about 2 nights in jail and a 500.00 bail to get out an then court costs and she will be on probation for atleast 2 years.... along with that get a retsraining order against her to keep her away an if she don't have her arrested again......
If you don't do anything to stop this even though it will be hard then the abuse will never stop.... so consider what I have told you and get out fast and live your life you only have one and it goes by fast....the police will assure that you get all of your belonging without getting hurt and they will make your mother hand over your SS card and all that so just call them and get out
2006-12-22 04:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be locked up. How long have you been abused? She is obviously mental and needs to be away from you. And the only way you will get away is to call the police. I would talk to a teacher at school and have them call for you, and then maybe sneak out of another door with your friend and never go back...
2006-12-22 04:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by Rhonda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out. Report the abuse. Trust me my son reported me and I am a better person for. At the time I didn't look at myself as an abuser. That was many decades ago and I know that love and kindness is the key not a strong arm. There is a difference between discipline and abuse and maybe your parents don't know the difference. However make sure that what you say is true and you are not just looking for a scapegoat for wrong actions.
2006-12-22 04:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by LOLO W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are old enough to move out and be on your own. Get away from it. If your friend has offered you her place, take up the offer. Just dont ware out your stay. get a job, start saving up for at least half the rent and food. I wish you the best. I dont know what the police would//could do since you are no longer a minor.
2006-12-22 04:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious. I guess your parents dont think that mentally your ready to move out. You are a full time student. You didnt mention a job or any other means of supporting yourself. If your parents are buying your clothes you can keep your room clean. I guess theyre treating you like a baby because your acting like one.Grow up and move out you are over 18 and should be able to take care of yourself . You disrespected your mom by calling her out of her name you are still under her roof and rules.Pic is used when you are talking about a picture..pick is the one you wanted spend more time doing school work and looking for a job. I am sure your friend offered you a place to stay but not for free.
2006-12-22 04:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Awe sweetie, I wish i could be there to give you a big hug...But heres the thing you can leave from school, yes you will be missing a school day, but you cant leave when school lets out bcuz your mom will be there waiting. if you carry a book bag to school just put an outfit in there! But it is the only way to do it... As for the socail security card you can call the social security administration and get another one its free, they will send you an application fill it out send it back have it sent to your friends the number is 1-800-772-1213. As for the rest of the stuff, call the police and tell them " I live at my mothers she has assaulted me on numerous occasions and i do not want her to be arrested, but i really need to get the rest of my things like my birth certificate and passport, and she has it, and i really need someone to go out there w/ me for protection and so i can get my stuff and i am very very scared to go out by myself. Can somebody please go out there w/ me?" And DO NOT let your mom know where you are staying!!!! But i would be watching out for yourself when you are at school, but i would have a few people w/ you..You can email me if you want...and all the best of luck to you. I would really like to know how things work out please keep me posted
2006-12-22 05:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by laci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be strong girl. the chance you have getting out use that advantage. and if you have a car put some clothes in the car and go somewhere or in a friend house. first you need to trust some one. then if you are in a safe place call the police. try if you can to get some evidence.like secret video video hitting on you so if you go to court you will have evidence to back you up.
stay safe.
2006-12-22 04:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋