Sense of worthlessness-How to shake it off?

Question

I am a pretty good person, I think, but not perfect. Sometimes I lie and I dont even know why. Its dumb stuff too.
Sometimes I say bad things about people because I am aggravated with them. Sometimes I am snappy and impatient with my kids. Sometimes I act against my own nature. I am not sure why I do that either.
Lately my husband and I have been distant. I feel it is because he is always so grounded. He tells me I am just a "little girl" and "flighty". Its hard to hear because I want to be a woman, not a girl. I feel awful. I am at odds with myself. I dont want to be all dark and depressing at Xmas. Help.

Answer 1

prayer and meditation at least twice a day worked for me.

Answer 2

Robin said it best you have achemical inbalance (serotonin). Go to a clinic a tellthis to a doctor about what you wrote. If you can't see a doctor now bcause it's Friday 2pm then go to emergency because it is an emergency the way your suffering and don't be embarrased about going to emergency. Just tell the doctor I couldn't get an appointment today and I can't do it any moreNo your not crazy and no your not alone if you think you have a problem or you feel weak about doing that then just imagine how hard it was for me (a guywho supposed to be and wanted to be a mannot a little boy just like you who wants to be a woman not a little girl) to go to a doctor and talk to him/her about what your going through. What your going through is extremely serious, yuou need a chemical intervention just like a diabetic who needs a chemical intervention to survive. If you were a diabetic and you were to pass out they would perform a barrage of tests to see what was wrong and they would find it.
what your suffering from is just has serious and I ask you to believe me and go to a doctor now he'll say things to that you'll relate to. There are no tests to perform for what your going or I shoould say what we're going through which makes it harder so if your still at the computer go to the hospital now your not being weak and don't wait till regular clinic hours. If you were a diabetic and passed out if they woke you up the doctors wouldn't tell go see your regular doctor during clinic hours What I'm telling you is your problem is that serious. GO TO EMERGENCY NOW he'll prescribe you meds take once in the morning 8am one at and no later than 2pm or it'll keep you awake all night . The doctor put me on one in the morning I should have been taking two twice a day but was scared of the meds because of the way they work now I realized I should have been taking two. What are still at the terminal leave now for the emergencey clinic if there are no walk ins where you are go now and you'll have a great weakend not one full of tears.Also have some thing to eat when you start your meds it makes a big diference

Answer 3

What does Christmas have to do with it? I only ask that because you shouldn't want to be "all dark" and depressing at any time of the year.
We all have bad days and and we all have good days. To me worthlessness is feeling like you don't deserve any thing good in your life, like love, family, and good things! If you are feeling that, then you are depressed, and need help! Depression isn't something you can make go away without help. If you are feeling just a little down, or sad, that you usually can self talk away, but depression is another story all together.
Knowing that God loves us, he gave us his Sons' life to prove to us how much he does love us gives us hope for a better tomorrow. Personally, you don't sound any different from anyone else. We all have things about ourselves that isn't perfect, and never will be in this day and age. The only person that was ever perfect is in heaven with his heavenly father. I don't know of anyone that doesn't want to say bad things about someone that they are aggravated with, and sometimes does! It is because we are all imperfect and "fall short of the glory of God" that we do these kinds of things. I'm not saying these are good things to do, but if you know you do them, then set goals for yourself to not do them. Pray for strength and wisdom to help you be able to accomplish these kind of goals, as they are very good ones. None of us ever do every thing just "right" all the "time.' Tell your husband how it makes you feel when he calls you a "little girl," maybe you are taking him too seriously?! Ask him "why" he calls you that! If he is calling you flighty, are you flighty? Sometimes the more upset we get about something like this, the more truthful it is! And we don't like to hear it! However, it also sounds like for some reason, it is making you feel guilty about something, like maybe you do feel like a "little girl" and if you do, why? Being called a "little girl" doesn't make you a "little girl", it would be your behavior that would make you one. Being a woman is in our behavior as well, not just our age. So maybe you need to do some journalling and honest self analysis to figure out why this is upsetting you, and finding out what your husband really means! Maybe to him its a compliment. When my husband and I were first married he used to call me a doedoe bird. I didn't like it, I thought he was telling me I was dumb. Well, when I finally found the courage to ask what he meant, he laughed, and he had seen a picture of a doedoe bird, and he thought they were cute! That is what he meant when he called me that, but he stopped calling me that because I had the wrong idea of what he meant, and it still made me feel uncomfortable even after he told me what he meant. Its called communication. (we've been married 20 yrs.)

Answer 4

Get contoll!!!! You think your pretty, thats a good start!!!!! Think about you and don't let others bring you down. Look in the mirror, and tell your self all the good things about you!!! We all bad talk people at one point or another. Focus on the good your life. All Moms get impatient with their kids, take a deep breath and chose your battles. Christmas and New Years is a good time to start over, a new beginning for us. Cheer up!!

Answer 5

YOU ARE HUMAN! You will get and feel better when you stop being so hard on yourself. Work on yourself, learn meditation, get counseling (you don't have to be mentally ill to get counseling - it is a luxury every human should seek). Being a parent is REALLY hard (it kicks my ***). Everyone is snappy and impatient with their kids sometimes. Just don't take all your "stuff" out on them. Find other ways to get it out like exercise/walking or music or something.

Find caring, supportive people to be around every day. Find other mommies you can relate to. It is up to YOU to make your life improve, but you can't do it alone - get help and support.

My best wishes for your happiness and inner peace!

Answer 6

sounds like you have a few issues to work on...a sense of worthlessness, depression, and a husband who doesnt treat you like an equal....
you might benefit from some counseling...but here's some other suggestions...
start meditation...i think with some time and practice it will help you to keep from getting so stressed and aggravated and snapping at people....also try deep breathing
i also suggest you make a gratitude list and a self esteem list to help with feelings of worthlessness....every day write 5 things that you like about yourself and 5 things you are grateful for....try and make it 5 different things every day....do it for a month and i think you'll see a difference
good luck

Answer 7

Look in your phone book under Mental health clinics and find one near you - tell their counselor all this stuff. From a web post it's hard to judge whether you just need cheering up or if you are one of the millions of people who have a chemical imbalance that needs medication to be corrected. Either way, try not to be so hard on yourself.

Answer 8

First take a few deep breaths threw your nose and exhale through your mouth. Sounds like you are under some pressure. Take time out for you and you alone. Maybe go to counseling. Or go to the Doc and get a mild tranquilizer.

Answer 9

helpings others in need helps me.
i'm helping my sister by, helping around her house, watching the kids - so she can be ready for christmas.
obviously u have ur own family - but maybe an elderly person, relative or neighbor may appreciate any help - run to the store,
pick up groceries, etc.
i really hope you find something.
have a great xmas and happy, healthy new year.

Answer 10

You brain has been working okay. Each experience since birth has made your brain chose the best route of action. How can you do better. It may be that somepeople are being less than helpful in your life and its not the fault of your brain. How could people be so clever to do that.?

Answer 11

you are human, and are just brave enough to admit what the majority of mothers and wives wont. Being a wife and mother is HARD... try and put yourself first for once.. do something that makes you happy, go somewhere without the kids... you deserve it!!!!!! lift you head high and know that YOU matter and that YOU are someone!!!