If a child is only three years old and his grandparent doesnt punish him for mis behaving until the parents get home many hours after the child has done wrong. If you punish him then will he even understand what it is he is getting punished for?
2006-12-22 04:26:57 · 21 answers · asked by TFK 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No. A child that age needs to be punished when the bad behavior happens. Consistency is the best way to get a child to behave. Make sure his grandparents know your rules and what to do if he doesn't obey them. Let them know you want them to be consistent each and every time. Good Luck!
2006-12-22 04:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by 2boysmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have a 4 year old and another 2.5 years old and I come from a traditional family and I was disciplined as a child. But punishments do not work at that age, especially physical punishments. You & grandparents should always come down to their level and in a firm voice tell them the behavior is not right and more importantly tell/show them the proper behavior and praise them when they are behaving properly. This must be done consistently even when you're exhausted from the day's work.
2006-12-22 04:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Shaman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he does not know and understand the reason. Childrens memory and time span is nothing like ours. He needs to be punished or given a time out AT THAT TIME, because to him, hes happy to see his mom and dad home, but every time they come home, hes getting punished by them, and he hasnt done anything...he has been really good. If he did something first thing that morning, went all day having a good day with grandparents, and then parents come home and spank him or time him out for something he did 12 hours before, he s not going to remember that. Hes only three
2006-12-22 04:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because a childs attention span at this age is only a few minutes or so...even if you punish them right after the fact...by the time the three minutes is up / spanking (not recommended) they won't remember what they did...
But, why would they wait several hours to punish the child...do they get a kick out of adding up all the things to be punished for and then doing them all at once?
2006-12-22 04:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He understands he has done something wrong at th time but hours later he has only a memory of doing it. I would think the logical thing would be to punish with time out as soon as it happens, if it continues then call the parent and ask them to come then to punish the child further.
2006-12-22 04:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - children need to be punished as close to the misbehavour as possible so they can link the bad behavour to the punishment, for a child of this young age its too late after a few hours.
get the grand parents to start discipling him!
2006-12-22 05:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only indirectly. You can be angry with him, withhold your warmth, and when he wonders why, say, "I understand you walked all over your grandmother this afternoon. You know better than that. You should listen to your grandmother. She loves you and wants what's best for you."
Kids don't always understand every word, but they get the idea. Punishment in the traditional sense would be a bit harsh, but showing your disapproval and disappointment is perfectly reasonable and quite what is needed. And extract a promise that he will listen to his grandmother better next time.
2006-12-22 04:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's three years old and knows how to take advantage of grandma and grandpa. Stick him in a corner for 3 minutes and tell him WHY he is there and that he knows they won't punish him for being naughty and by now he knows right from wrong.
2006-12-22 04:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no its best to punish right after the act. that way the child knows what he did wrong. other wise the child thinks that he is getting yelled at for no reason.
2006-12-22 04:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age punishment has to follow unacceptable action very quickly for the child to really understand. Within minnutes at most. Discipline him when you have him and he'll learn he has to behave for you, even if he doesn't have to behave for grandma and grandpa. Maybe they'll learn too when he's a monster for them.
2006-12-22 04:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by tabithap 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋