I have a very big anger problem with a smart mouth and i'm trying to learn how to control that but i don't know exactly how to. And when i try to control it i hold it in and i heard that wasn't good for your body or yourself. And i've tried meditation and that doesn't work i don't know if i'm doing it wrong so any advice on how to meditate correctly or how to control my anger without anger managment???And aslo how to stop letting people get to me?
2006-12-22 04:14:52 · 8 answers · asked by Mariku 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The dynamics of anger management are as follows.
1) seeking control over something you have no control over
2) frustration over the lack of control
3) anger results
4) anger builds
5)violence can result
Stop trying to control what cannot be controlled. Alter the manner you relate to things and avoid attempting to
control them.
2006-12-22 04:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by momonster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have taken the first step by realizing that you have a problem that needs work. Controlling this is much better for the body and yourself than the utter lose of self worth and disrespect that you feel when you lose control. When someone is getting to you focus on something else... something happy, fun, or worthwhile ..... put on a cheerleader smile and laugh at the situation .... this will help break the anger waves spiking in your brain. You can always excuse yourself for a moment and walk away. If you try these things, you will get to the point where the urge for anger starts to fade.
2006-12-22 12:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by stargazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While holding it in can lead to stress down the road, sometimes it's better to hold it in and avoid immediate trouble. That being said, try exercise to calm yourself down. Running is a great way to get out aggression, and weight lifting can give you a goal to work towards. Maybe martial arts would be good, also, because it's all about discipline and focus. Meditation is not for everyone-I find that for me, doing something physical to get out the aggression works better than meditation or yoga. The great thing is that you know your anger is problematic and you're working on it...bravo. As far as letting people get to you, I think that comes with time...you just need to realize that by letting people get to you, you're letting them have control over you and your actions, and that's not ok. You're in charge of your reactions, and you need to do your part to stay calm and focused, and not let other people control how you react. Good luck!
2006-12-22 12:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kate L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could try seeing a therapist. Meditation takes time to learn. I have been frustrated with it myself. When you are upset you could write about your angry/negative thoughts or do a drawing to let the anger out of your system. Also try to see if there are any situations that make you anger. Self-awareness is key.
2006-12-22 12:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by R_H_P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't interact with people! but that get bore easily, so go out and pose as a challenge against your friends. Not everything people say will be true, thought they may believe it to be true in the conversation's context. Just let thing people say slide, or exaggerate it to a point that it would be ridiculous, then laugh and move on.
2006-12-22 12:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by my alias 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are going to constantly be trying to bait you to see if they can "get your goat". Getting mad at every person that does this only means that you waste time and energy on an irrelevant situation.
2006-12-22 13:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could ask God to take it from you and help you deal with things like he wants you to
2006-12-22 12:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by earthgirl766 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-22 12:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋