My best friend is my ex s-i-l, and the whole family has extended warm invitations to my fiancee. It's not like my ex will be there. If that was the case, I wouldn't even be attending.
2006-12-22 04:12:22 · 15 answers · asked by Happy Wife 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You can ask, however, if he chooses not to attend, you should just accept his answer and not make a huge deal of it. This is a great deal to ask. God bless****
2006-12-22 04:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your ex's family has extended invitations to both of you, then I see nothing wrong with asking your fiance to attend the event with you. He might actually feel more comfortable to go and see that you're still able to be close with the family even though you don't maintain any relationship with your ex, and he might feel more comfortable going himself to see that your ex isn't there.
It would be wrong to INSIST that he attend the party with you. It could make him feel unbearably uncomfortable knowing that this is your ex's family, and he might not wish to go. However, he shouldn't try to stop you from going, if he understands the situation.
Happy holidays!
2006-12-22 04:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by JenV 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is your day and your wedding party so, you should have the right to invite anyone in your wedding. If you think your fiance will have a problem, then tell him some of the reason. I would not tell him that she acts like a 12 year old especially if he does not see it that way. I would probably put my foot down your throat (his sister will do it maybe others for that comment).
2016-05-23 15:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why put your fiance` in an uncomfortable situation?
If you feel you MUST go and you'd like to include him, extend the invitation. Don't be surprised if he chooses not to attend.
2006-12-22 05:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by BB 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you explain that you are attending because of your previous son-in-law, then your new fiance should be able to appreciate that and not hold it against you.
Now, it'd be different if it was your ex husband, but it's not, and you said he won't even be there. Just because you divorce the man, doesn't mean you should have to divorce the family.
2006-12-22 04:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to go to my husband's ex in-laws for anything! Would you want to go, if the tables were turned? I don't know if it's wrong, I say it would be wrong for me, but everybody's different. If your Fiancee is uncomfortable, then I would say you already have your answer.
2006-12-22 04:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by kalamibe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is a time for joy. Any spats with anyone in the past should be forgotten. You only live once, therefore enjoy the party.
2006-12-22 04:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by Mike E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should go with out your fiance, i think if you had children with your ex the kids should go to see their relatives but you will be putting a strain on your knew relationship.
2006-12-22 04:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by g-day mate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're asking alot personally....if your fiance has no problem with it, then go for it....but if he is uncomfortable i would not push it....i certainly wouldn't want to hang out with anyone related to my husbands ex wife...even if the ex isn't there, with his whole family there his name is very likely to at least come up....bad situation
2006-12-22 05:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well put yourself in his shoes. How would you feel if he invited you to his ex's family's party? Ask him but don't hold him to it. If he doesn't wish to go that's his choice.
2006-12-22 06:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋