I am 24 years old and still a virgin and have never been on a single date. The reason for this is not because I am ugly because I’m not ugly I am very good looking actually and I am not shy either. The reason I am single is because I am afraid of getting my heart broken and don’t want it too happen to me. Although it has happened when I have had crushes on a few girls but their either seeing someone or not interested. Because this happens too me all the time I have decided never to fall in love again. Because every time I do so it hurts so much when they tell me their not interested or seeing someone. Why do I fall for girls like this? Is this Gods way of telling me that I am meant to be single forever?
2006-12-22 04:11:59 · 24 answers · asked by Zeus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just dont get serious w/ a guy n u wont get ur heart broken...n its not bad 2 be a virgin when ur 24...wiat til ur married 2 have sex...then ull know its w/ the right guy
2006-12-22 04:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by cool chic 2no 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all you described your self as very good looking. This implies a certain pride, maybe too much. Women can smell this a mile away and it turns them off. Average looking guys get lots of dates because they are interesting, listen and have something to say...this is what really turns women on. You say you are not shy.... well afraid to fall in love is the definition of being shy. So you develop a crush from afar (in love as you say) and then ask? And still a virgin? Same thing, women just know. You are giving off all the wrong signals. So first of all admit to yourself that you just need to chill. Think friends with a women first. Instead of a crush just ask someone out for a drink or something but say we should get together sometime. No pressure. Or just simply ask someone out right away. Women appreciate confidence. Make some friends with a group of girls and they will start trying to fix you up once they see you are not trying to hard.
2006-12-22 04:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that getting hurt is a part of the dating process. Most people are dating to try and find that certain someone that is "right" for them. It's a two way street. The problem is that people don't take into account that rejection isn't necessarily someone telling you that you suck, but that they don't feel compatible with you. It's all a growing process. In my opinion people start dating WAY too early. I often look back and wish I would have spent more of my time playing video games and hanging out with my friends instead of worrying about girls. You on the other hand are now 24 years old. You don't have to be alone, but at the same time you DO have to take chances. You just have to find the right combination between your personality and anothers. In the end it will all be worth it. Good luck!
2006-12-22 04:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by furiousfoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! why would god want you to be single forever? YOU choose what you are, you just said that YOU choose to be single because YOU are afraid of getting your heart broken? The truth is, every time you let yourself be vulnerable to pain you take a risk - the relationship may work out or it may not- you never know. If you get hurt in the end, time passes and you will get over the pain eventually, and from each experience get stronger and grow as a person - if you just avoid the pain, you will never get to experience of falling in love and feeling the happiness. The truth is feeling a little pain sometimes may actually be healthy, being upset and feeling emotion is being alive...there is nothing wrong to have those feelings, we all do...so take a risk, I'm sure it will be worth it!
2006-12-22 04:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by filtertea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question: How can you fall in love when you are a virgin and have never been on a date with a girl before? Answer: You can't, whatever way you look at it, mate, it is just not possible. The emotion you seem to equate with being in love is, in fact, infatuation. Infatuation is a one-sided emotion, it is only love when your feelings toward a person is reciprocated by that person.
I think your problem is that you are too obsessed with the idea of falling in love instead of just letting nature take its course. At 24, you are still a young man with your whole life ahead of you. There is plenty of time for falling in love, so don't concentrate all your efforts on getting yourself attached quickly simply because all your peers have done so. We are all unique beings and mature and develop at different rates. If we were all the same and grew up at the same rate, then this would be a boring world! Relax and enjoy the other many things Life has to offer. Get out and socialise generally, not necessarily looking for romance but just to build up a social circle. Try and have an even mix of male and female friends and just enjoy being with them. Love will come when you least expect it and often from a completely unexpected source.
If you think the worst thing that can happen to you is to be turned down by a girl then try having your heart ripped out by a partner when you find that she's been playing away from home. You have to realise that love will not happen unless there is chemistry between you and the girl. You have to take time to get to know a person and allow her to get to know you well before even thinking about falling in love.
It may well be that the reason girls have turned you down in the past is because your driving desire to find love has scared them. Girls don't like to be smothered in this way, so try and chill out, relax and just let nature take its course. That's my advice to you and I hope you find it useful.
2006-12-22 08:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by colliedug111060 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few comments.
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 24. Do not apologise (Not that I thought you were, but just to be sure)
The reality of life is that you cannot avoid hurt. It is the penalty of loving.
You lose parents, siblings, friends, etc and IT HURTS.
The only way you can avoid getting hurt is not to love anyone or anything.
But the price is too high....you have to abandon your humanity.
You may even get your heart broken, but the isolation of ensuring that it cannot happen is much worse.
Plus...it may happen however you try to avoid it....you just meet someone (apparently) casually,,,and WHAM, you are hooked.
Take the risk
Whatecer the cost love is worth it.
2006-12-22 04:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that that is a bad thing being single and being a virgin at 24.........i think that you should just wait for the right girl.........i believe that there is a special person for everyone and im sure there is someone that will love you for you!! Dont give up! When i feel that i hella like someone i tell myself not to get to attached cause i know that there is that possibility of getting heartbroken if something goes wrong. Life goes on and i think that love is a risk worth taking!!
2006-12-22 04:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by jenny_b2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are looking in the wrong places. Or the problem is YOUR looking. I had many relationships in my time. None of them were good. I was the one doing the looking most of the time. My point is, wait and let God bring you the person he wants you to have. I think that is fantastic that you are still a virgin at 24. Do not settle for someone who is not right for you just because you are tired of waiting. I did not find the right person for me until I was 33. It was a long hard journey to that point. A lot of heartacke, plus one failed marriage. I am the happiest I have ever been now in my second marriage. The difference, I let God bring him to me. Dont lose hope!
2006-12-22 04:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by cindy H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry you have been hurt horribly in the past,but dont worry you will find the right one when you are least expectin to,its the holiday season so get up to the clubs and bars enjoy yourself you are only young once,dont let the past spoil the future,its there loss if they are not interested im sure you are a really nice guy so get out there and enjoy yourself, hope this helps, happy xmas and a gr8 new year to you from all in glasgow.xxxx
2006-12-22 04:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by LYNDA M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, God doesn't care if you go on a date or not. You aren't afraid of getting your heart broken because you can't get your heart broken if you just go on a few dates! Sounds like there is something else going on here. Being a virgin at 24 is one thing. You might choose to not have sex with anyone. But to not even date is just weird! Maybe your gay?
2006-12-22 04:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i know how you feel, its like dateing and having your hart broken for so little is not fair at all, its just so painful!!!( i just got dumped for my boyfriends ex.) i hate it,, but even though the pain is so great being with some you love and not be lonely is the best thing in the world! everyone need someone and i am positive there is some for you to love and love you back. my advice is if you want a relashionship to last dont date the hottest girl you can find, look for some less pretty(less likely to cheat, or lever you for ther ex.) and more loyal. dont date someone who goes throuh guys like its a game to see how meny they can date!!! go for some sweter and less lose. thats my advice!!!
2006-12-22 04:21:04 · answer #11 · answered by nade63090 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋