why is it I'm always feels insecure and nervous when I'm not with my close friends like when I am with someone else with many people also during that time I'm so quiet and when some activities are on going,I'm the one who always ended up doing some crazy stupid mistakes and some of them backstabb me that I'm so dumb...and I'm in love with a guy who is super kind,talented,math and computer wizard,responsible,maybe I'm not good enough for him???
2006-12-22 04:11:34 · 8 answers · asked by unhealty teenager 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
don't worry about it. Guy like it if girl shows interest in them. Heck, most people do. But don't over do the attention thing, it kinda freak people out if there's too much too soon. And if you're unconfortable in group, then... I no idea what to suggest cuz i'm in the same situation. But what i've found to have work is that you don't have to interact with the whole group equally, just interact. And don't worry about people gossip about you. Even monks gossip. Good luck.
Also, putting out help.
2006-12-22 04:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by my alias 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's because you are out of your comfort zone, and your friends are your comfort zone. The best way to get over that is to first be confident in yourself and not worry about what others think of you. So what you make stupid mistakes, so does everyone else. People that try to bring you down you don't need them, but if you stand up for yourself and let them know that hey nobody is perfect not even you. Talk more don't be quiet, and maybe that guy you like will notice you more. guys like girls that are confident and can carry on alittle conversation, not saying that you have to be super talkative. You may not know or can do all the things that he can do, but opposites do attract, and who knows you two may click and he can show you somethings he know and you could show him somethings as well. Remember he maybe smart, but he doesn't know everything, and you may know something he doesn't. keep your head up girl and get some confidents that will boost yourself esteem. Good luck!
2006-12-22 12:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by ryvetteus2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you have low self esteem. Focus on making yourself the best you can be FOR YOURSELF. Do things like work hard in school or sports to improve your self image. Set goals and accomplish them. Forget what others think. Be the best person you can. Also, helping others is a great way to improve your self esteem.
Only hang around people that make you feel GOOD about yourself. If you leave an interaction with another person feeling bad about yourself, that is a sign that you should NOT be around that person. Don't give backstabbers a second chance to hurt you.
Please remember, a guy does not determine your value as a person, you do!
2006-12-22 12:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound very immature to me. How old are you? Most people feel insecure around people they don't know, I do. I also am quiet when I'm not around people I really don't know. Most people have made crazy mistakes in their lives, its what you do with those mistakes that counts, not the making of them. We are all imperfect humans, and if anyone thinks they don't, then they are full of pride and stupidity. My Dad used to tell me, "You can please some of the people some of the time, but never all the people all the time." People love to talk about other people, and run them down, and back stab, because it makes them feel smarter and brighter. You are as good as you allow yourself to be. If your boyfriend thinks you are good enough for him, then you are! Quit doubting him! It's his choice to have you in his life; I'm sure he could have someone else if he wished, so allow him to be responsible enough to make that decision for himself, esp. if you really do love him.
2006-12-22 13:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not dumb. Maybe you are just shy around certain people. I am sometimes. There is nothing wrong with you. If you want to change, maybe try to join the conversation of the people you are around. If someone just makes you uncomfrotable, don't hang around them. I am sure you are good enough for your boyfriend.
2006-12-22 12:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by R_H_P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way... I act like a super dork and am so lud around my friends but at work im always the quiet one... I dont know why this is... weird huh?.. but you know some guys like it when you are not throwing yourself at them. Let him know here and there that you are interested, flirt a little but dont throw yourself at him... most of them like it that way.. be yourself because you cant be anyone else....
2006-12-22 12:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by ABC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have same probelm as u.but u should not worry about your friend.he should accept u as u are
2006-12-22 14:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by UnderstandingLife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're just a big wierdo. get out and live life, freak.
2006-12-22 12:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by mikey g 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋