How long should we wait before we try for another baby?

Question

I am now 28 weeks pregnant. We are having a girl. My husband really wants a boy but was also delighted to find out we are having a girl. We want to try to have a boy soon after having our little girl. Any tips on how to concieve a boy would also be appriciated.

Answer 1

Well, you will see once you have your baby... whether or not you can have another right away. Every baby is different. I personally can't have another for a while. My son was colicky for the first two and a half months- it seemed way longer than that... but it was VERY hard... and then he was the happiest baby ever, but once he started teething, he was almost like he was when he had colic. He's now 14 months, and I'm not sure if more teeth are going to come, but he will wake up at least 2 times at night time. It's so exhausting, I feel 25 yrs older! lol I'm only 24- so not that old... anyways, he is a blessing, and I love him with all my heart. But I think we should wait a while because he still needs lot's of attention. We just went to the mall a couple of days ago, and for some reason he wouldn't sit in his stroller at all, so I had to carry him the entire time... he's 26lbs, so that gets really heavy after a while! lol If I had another baby right now, there's NO way I'd be able to handle it all. Again, not all babies are the same, so I know a lot of people have it easier- and their babies do just fine during teething, and aren't colicky at birth.

So do whatever works for you. If you feel you can give your daughter enough attention while taking care of another baby, then go for it! My grandmother had another son when my Dad was 14 months old... she said it was so hard. But she got through it... anyone can, it may be hard, but it can happen.

See if this calendar works- it was acurate for myself with my son- it's the month you conceived your baby with your age... for myself, it said I'd have a boy, and we did. Not sure if it works for everyone though. You'll have to let me know if it's acurate for your baby girl you are about to have :) Goodluck and congrats!!!!

http://www.thelaboroflove.com/chart/cal.html

P.S.- if you end up in c-section, as I did, you will want to wait a good year to have another so you can fully heal. That's what doctors told me.

Answer 2

My uncle has two children that aren't even a year a part. His son followed in his footsteps and got his girlfriend pregnant twice. Their first child was born April 09', their second March 10'. If you're well enough "down there" and didn't have a C-section and can have sex, I'd say that's soon enough. But seriously, think about it. Do you really want to carry another baby while trying to tend to your other child? They may be close in age but that's a lot of stress. Some people can handle it, though, while it's harder on others. Your decision in the end.

Answer 3

studies show that it takes longer for the male sperm to develop then t takes the female sperm, so try not to make love very often once you are ready to concieve. Know your ovulation dates, based on your menstral cycle, and only make love on those dates. And 2 years I think is a good spacing, though if you have your children closer together, they are more likely to be closer friends, as opposed to 5 years apart. But most importantly, it depends on how you feel. It is great that you want to try for a boy, but don't get the cart before the horse. Make sure you are up for the challenge.

Good luck with your delivery and future conception

Answer 4

I have a friend who got pregnant 2 months after giving birth so her two kids are not even one year apart. Think long and hard about that. Your body cannot fully heal in that time. I didn't wait long enough and when I was pregnant with the second child my stomach muscles couldn't handle the weight of the baby and my private areas felt like they were dragging the ground and that if I stood up it felt like the baby would fall out on the floor. It hurt so bad and I was on bed rest because of the pressure down there. Give yourself time to adjust to being new parents and let your body heal. Baby's are wonderful, sweet, snuggly, unsleeping little bundles of stress and you may feel differently about having two kids so close once you spend a few months with the first one. You lose sleep, you lose brain cells, you lose alone time with your man. Give it time!

Answer 5

1) You can't do anything to guarantee having a boy. It's a 50/50 chance either way. God didn't give us the ability to choose the sex of our babies for a reason.
2) Most material that answers "how long should I wait?" says the ideal time to wait is 24-36 months after delivering to ensure your body has adequate time to recover.

Answer 6

There is no sure way to concieve what you want, but from what I have seen..(with eeveryone I know) when their kids are around 3 years apart they end up having one of each. Although it doesn't mean anything, you could go online to http://www.baby-parenting.com/baby/predictor.html? and click on view calander... then you can use that to decide when you want to concieve... It may not work, but it is fun.

Answer 7

Friends of mine who have children close in age seem to have a lot more stress then those whose children are further spaced. Financialy this is also a burden if the children are close in ages. My children are 6 years apart. At one point of time, I only had one in diapers...one in high school...and they will be nicely spread apart when college comes around.

Answer 8

You will change your mind to have another one so soon. babies are a lot of work!! Space the time out so the baby get enough time with mommy and daddy before you bring another one into the world so she knows that she is sooo loved by her mommy and daddy.

TO: CAREBEARS THE PERDICTION CHART WAS WRONG FOR ME IT SAID BOY AND I HAD A GIRL BUT I WAS FINE WITH THAT!!

Answer 9

I spaced my children about 2-1/2 years apart, and it seemed to work well. Your body needs time to recoup from the pregnancy as well.

Answer 10

Many people like to have about 2.5-4 years in between children. You cannot affect your chances of male/female children; that is generally sperm-related and it's pretty much a 50/50 chance unless he works with certain kinds of chemicals.

(Morticians tend to have daughters, for instance, because they work with kind of nasty chems.)