After 2 mounths of going back and forth w my ex we keep on talking to each other. I still love her. She says she doent want to think about us like that anymore and try and work things out. Last night i called her and i we kept talking till i sliped i was planig on proposing to her in june she was shocked. The whole thing ended up with both of us crying. Why would she cry she is the one that dumped me and i am the one pursuing this. All i want from her to think about all of this. I am stuck now cause why would she cry.
The relationship lasted 4 yrs and we both always talked about kids and marrige. The break up came from no where only that she felt no romantic connection. I always gave her my life i gave up parts of my life to be with her. I always told her how i felt and now this. Niether of us can stop calling one another. my only question is why would she cry over, if this is what she wants?
2006-12-22 03:48:32 · 11 answers · asked by ken hill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you know buddy..females get easily tired to physical side of a relation..she is now back..get her ,,thats ok...but watch out for her next boredom turn around....
2006-12-22 03:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by s g 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First I want to say that I am sure that there are quite a few people that have decided not to answer this question because they have been in your situation and there is not an honest answer that you will be happy with. But, I will try.
She is done with you. Plain and simple. I know that sounds really harsh, but you have to believe it. I have been in your shoes and the hardest thing for me to realize was that I was not in control of her feelings. You guys were 16 when you started dating. You are both 20 now and much different people. At 24 you will be much different than you are now.
Let her go, deal with the hurt, move on with your life. You are young and you have so much to experience. Get in your car and get on the road, go see and experience some things for yourself, you will be much happier in the future for it.
2006-12-22 04:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by jspphotos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex, and we did the same thing. In counseling I was told we both just kept throwing these little "hooks" out to the other.
If you both can't get together and try and make it work, then it won't work. And it won't work if you try to make her see how it can work. That attitude has to come from within her, if she has to be told you can work it out, she really doesn't believe it.
Might be best to cut off all talks and move on, let her know it's not out of anger, but because you're both hurting each other (and not on purpose).
Best of luck, I know moving on will hurt. But trying to make something out of nothing will hurt even more in the long run.
2006-12-22 04:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by Daniel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you're both in difficult times right now, but maybe if you could take a break from one another than do so for a couple of weeks just ot give each other space. Then get back with her and you'll both realize how much you two mean to each other.
2006-12-22 03:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Jeff - It is what it is ☺ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, without knowing the people involved, and more information about the relationship... I would have to say that she is sorry that she broke up... be careful, i have a feeling that she's going to start to try to ease back into the relationship without admitting that she was wrong for what she did... shes going to want to just pick it back up...
i would be careful because she threw away something wonderful rather easily now, what would stop her from doing the same again in the future?
2006-12-22 03:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still in love with you. She knows she made a huge mistake... She was with you for a long time and it is really hard to get rid of that feeling of being in love. For her to hear that you were going to propose to her probably brought back all of those emotions and memories, and that would be enough to make her cry.
2006-12-22 03:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by lin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because she still cartes about you and doesn;t like to see you hurt. But as you mentioned, the romance is not there for her and to her that is enough to not continue with the relationship. Breaking up is hard to do especially when you still care for the other perosn. That's why she cried.
2006-12-22 03:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is this book called he's just not that into you. it's really sad and funny but true. some people just can't be together unless one trys harder to keep it to gether than the other. good luck, happy holidays!
2006-12-22 03:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Emmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she still cares about you, but came to realize that she cannot be with you.. just don't act like a stalker, you need to go out find some puss and get over it. don't keep asking yourself these questions about you and her, you'll just end up disapointed.
2006-12-22 03:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mike W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your both confused and don't really know what you want, You could both be young I might suggest persueing other relationships.
2006-12-22 03:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by jrcctexas21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋