I formed a bond with my ex boyfriend's son while we were together for 3 years. When we broke up, I felt like my child was being ripped away from me. My ex hates me now and since he left me to go back to his ex wife, I can't go see his son. The ex wife and I don't get along anymore. But I love that child so much and it is killing me that I haven't seen him in 4 months or heard his little voice or listened to his little laugh. He is only 6 years old. I feel like I lost my son even though I didn't give birth to him. I haven't stopped looking at his picture since he sent it. It sits on my desk at work right next to my kids' picture.
2006-12-22 03:44:33 · 15 answers · asked by thewhalehunter12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't let go of a child just the man attached to him. Send him a christmas card back and a small gift.
2006-12-22 03:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I see no predicament with sending every different a card. Nevertheless, i do see a couple of other issues here. One, you weren't absolutely sincere with your wife from the starting. Omission is a lie, if this omission have been in reverse it will hassle you greatly. 2d, that you sneak out a card to send to this lady. Sneaking is one other form of lie. If you can't do it honestly and in front of your spouse, with wife's full abilities, than you will not be doing it. You will have to come easy and tell your spouse the whole thing. Full disclosure. Provide an explanation for you have got loved seeing this lady and her household develop by means of the years as a pal and nothing extra. If it truly is nothing extra to you, that is. Once you tell your spouse the whole thing, ask if she's pleased with you sending out a card. Inform her you want truth. If she doesnt' love it however will take delivery of it might determine. But when she says obviously not, then you definately ought to come easy along with your friend and say you feel your wife is foremost and ought to stop the contact.
2016-08-10 02:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by martinek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cherish the picture. Even though things didn't work out with you and his father, this little boy still thinks the world of you. Some day he may look you up when he becomes an adult and thank you for being there when he needed someone years ago.
2006-12-22 03:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know your ex helped him send it right? A 6 year old is not going to address an envelope, put on postage, etc. I guess your ex approves and is also still thinking about you. Sorry to confuse things, but he (your ex) sounds like a flake. You have to seperate your feelings for the kid from feelings for him.
2006-12-22 03:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by boredperv 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children are the hardest to let go of when you have a relationship that doesn't work. He had to have permission from someone to mail you his picture. It's hard. If you are a praying person Pray for him. Maybe it isn't work out with the ex?
2006-12-22 03:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it must be really tough, but you have to let go. If he were older it would be different, but he is 6. It isn't like he is going to come visit you on his own or anything. How did he send you a Christmas Card? Did his dad not help him with it? Anyway, you are going to have to let it go as hard as it is to do so. Good Luck.
2006-12-22 03:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with your ex, not his son. If he was older it wouldnt be so hard, but since he's so young it is. Your ex would have to be involved if you want to see him. I would still respond to the card from him though. It's probably just as hard for him (if not more) than it is for you. He is still too young to understand.
2006-12-22 04:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by phgl83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one.
You need to get permission from his parents to keep in touch with him. Even if it is only by e-mail/snail mail. From what you said this will not be easy but it may be the only way.
Eventually he will grow up and be able to choose to see you on his own.
Good luck.
2006-12-22 03:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by r s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal the hurt you feel. Time and being surrounded by ones you love. Your family, friends and eventually a new bf.
So be patient and tough and you will get through it.
Others have gone through the same thing you are going through right now. You will also get through it.
2006-12-22 03:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by wldctpete 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the kid has also been affected with what has happened between you and his dad.he misses you too so better continue communicating with him so he won't feel you left him too,that's a not so good experience for him and eventually as he gets older he'll have other priorities and wouldn't be bothered much by the situation he is in rght now.
2006-12-22 03:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by warrior is a child 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋