how do u get a 3 year old to do something when told?

Question

i have a 3 year old and she will not lisen to me at all she will not pick after her self. it hard doing it all by yourself. you moms no what i am talk about. hope you can help

Answer 1

You have to be firm and consistent. She has to know you are the rule maker. When she choses not to listen then there are consequences. My kids know depending on their bad choice there are consequences--depending on the offense, determines the punishment. And when they make good choices they are rewarded accordinly. If they continue to not listen, then the concequence becomes more severe--spanking, and sent to their rooms. But no matter what you ahve to be consistent. Until she learns that you are boss, then you have to be her mom and not her friend. She might be going throught her Terrible Twos a little late as well, so that means you need to be evermore vigillant.

Good luck and hang in there, you won't be the bad guy forever.

Answer 2

I hope I can help, but I will tell you, I have a 3 1/2 year old that is the same way. I think that when it boils down to it, I get really upset after all day of back talk and not listening to me, I would reccommend that you set limits for her, if your child decides to not pick up after herself, then have the child go to bed early and let them know why. Next time, threaten that idea. I would say "remember when I made you go to bed early because you dicided not to listen and pick up your mess? Well I will do it again". It seams to me that that works, for the mean time, remind him of Santa Clasue and the upcoming birthday presents they will recieve and say they wont get any. I hope this might help a round or two. Good luck!!

Answer 3

Try positive discipline.Your 3-year-old behaves as every other 3-year-old and that's nothing uncommon.Now you decide if your relationship will become into a war or you will bring up the child with love.There are books which may help you a lot.One of them is named 'positive discipline for preschoolers' - it's just for your child.The book is written by Jane Nelsen - a famous positive discipline follower and child psychologist

Answer 4

i totally disagree with spare the rod, spoil the child.
how long can u use the rod on her ?

maybe you should build up on your communication.
besides, children who are three years old wont be able to understand why are you even using the rod on them.
something that is very obvious to us, might not be as obvious to them.
there are many things in the world that these children(mere age of three) still do not understand.
you should use simple but clear sentences to talk to them.

you could also model to their through dramatic play to help them visualize an expected behavior.
talk to them in a non threatening way to get a point across.
careful not to communicate negative expectations.
but rather use positive language.
positive words helps the child to see the consequences and they will be able to think consciously and behave in the right way,more appropriately

Answer 5

I think most people would agree with me in saying that yay for you in actually caring enough about raising a responsible adult by making your child understand rules and doing what is asked and respecting their elders. If you tell your child to do something and they don't do it then you pick the child up and put them where they need to be to do the task you have asked. If you say to pick up her books and she says no and stares at you, you pick her up and put her in front of her books and put on in her hand and move her over to the book shelf and make her do it. Do not reward her if she does not do it. Good job to you again by realizing your child doesn't listen and working on that. Not enough parents today make their kids listen.

Answer 6

You have to be consistent. You stand there with her and tell her to pick her toys up. Stand there for as long as you need to with her until she picks them up, but whatever you do do NOT pick them up yourself. You will have to have a lot of patience, but I promise this will work. Don't let her do anything until her things are picked up. She will get the point after a few days of this and start picking her things up on her own.

Answer 7

I tried to tell myself - Kids are not robots.

Unlike dogs, rabbits are pretty smart - they don't do what you tell them to do, just because I am it's master. That's is why I rather have rabbits than dogs or cats - They are closer to being human. So if I want my rabbit to do what I want I got to think like a rabbit.

Similar to a 3 year - yes 3 year old! not 30 year old but 3 year old. They certainly have feelings more than logical thoughts.

I hope this helps.

Answer 8

I've used the "Countdown to Timeout" technique. I.E."Sissy, you need to pick up your book and put it away for Mommy." If she doesn't do it, then, "If you don't pick up your book, Mommy will put you in time out, 1.....2.....3." If she still doesn't do it, then it's time out for a few minutes. Have patience because this will not work right off the bat. It's going to take several instances of disobedience and you following through on the punishment you say is going to happen before she catches on and starts doing what she is asked to do. If she is especially stubborn (like my little girl), it may take a few weeks, but it will catch on, especially when all this goes down right in the middle of one of her favorite shows, for instance. :)

Answer 9

You have to be sure to make her do what you say every single time for a while so make sure thats what you want then go over to her and take her by hand and start picking up the toys for instance. Be consistent once you make a rule stick to it.

Answer 10

You need to join some parenting classes or learn something about positive discipline.There are books,you need Positive Discipline for Preschoolers