actually i got crush over my best friend and right from the day i proposed her, she is changed,........she says , she likes me,......but now her behaviour is entirely changed.. i m not getting even 1 call in whole month, which was 4 times a day before also i m out of city now
as i have taken admission outside. my studies r ruined , and everytime i think of her
whenever i call her , she behaves calmly but i dont c that previous spirit. please help me ........suggest me.......i dont wanna loose her.
i lost a sweet relationship just in search of a sweeter one
she says dat there is no one in her heart ..............and we need some more time
i know its a polite way to say no.......
i cant live without her
2006-12-22 03:40:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly speaking, M really scared of ur situation coz being self experienced what I can judge is that girl had never ever loved u in her life. Its justv that she dint want to directly say no at that point of time, Also, She wanted to give it a shot.(lets see what happens). Now if m rite u r getting more & more serious abt that girl day by day & she is kinda major part of ur life BUTTTT the problem u r facing is that u r not getting the desired payback of that love,care, affection which simply means one thing that she is trying to get out of everything & she is trying to make u understnd that there is nothing. I'll tell u what ... just stand in frnt of a mirror & ask urself "does she loves u ??". M sure ankit that u will know ur answer on ur own & if u dnt wanna make ur life a living hell like what I have done from last three mnths. I know that at this point of time its simply not possible for u to even read what Ive written here but the pain is gonna be as less as soon as u will know the reality. We simply cannot do anything more then accepting what god has decided for us, We really have to,have to, have to live with the facts wheather we like them or offcource if we dnt. We dnt have any other choice. Listen to ur heart, m sure u know it & if u r afraid of the pain then IT HAS TO BE THERE DUDE.
LOVE=PAIN. Best of luck.
2006-12-22 05:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by luckykom83 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well buddy u lost a good friend due to ur stupid act. Who told u that if u have a crush on someone, she also has to have the same? Yours has been what people jokingly call 50 per cent love - 100 per cent on ur side and 0 per cent on her side. U admit she has been ur best friend and u could not differentiate between a friendship and a crush. All ur fault. U should have broached the subject rather carefully. i am sure u just blurted out something like 'i can not live without u'. How many people could not live cuz a gal left them? do u think gals dont understand about such emotional outbursts? the fact that she says that she has no one in heart is ample proof that she is not interested in such intimate relationship, at least with you. Also she says she needs more time. Cant u even give time to her? let her resolve her feelings first and in the meantime u concentrate on your studies. if she is calm, its great of her. How can u expect the same spirit of friendship when she is in a dilemma. If u know its a polite way to say no, then why not accept it? may be u will at least retain ur friend and a friend is anyday more important than a girlfriend. True friends are rare and hard to come by. Lastly, stop whining and saying idiotic things that u cant live without her. ur very much living and she is right here in this world and has also not stopped talking to you. Dont be a sissy. Be a brave guy
and move forward in life.
Good luck to u
2006-12-22 15:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sumit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Ankit...
she does not love you dear...
And that is the only fact... the person who loved a person without any bonds can't live without each other..
Believe me she is not in a love with you any more dear... this is not to break your heart... But this is reality... Stop this all and try to concentrate on your studies or Job... The most important part of your life is your parents.. Whatever they will do for you will be the correct one always.. Don't avoid your parent's at all and you should not get worried about this foolish case...
Your parent's will find the best girl for you...
Its not a joke... its the only reality of the universe, that, parent's are the two souls who just live for their children after marriage
God Bless You
All the best
Sur
2006-12-23 04:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen young man there is no such thing as not being able to live without someone life goes on. Yes, we must Indore hardship at times when things do not go our way, but you must press-on. You need to stop thinking so much about your situation, and concentrate in what is important to your future and that is your studies. Women will come and go in your life, but it does take a mature person to handle them if she is not responding to your feelings and the agony that she is putting you through then I feel she is heartless and better for you to reed of her!
2006-12-22 11:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to her. Calmly tell her that even though you like her, you don't want to force things, and that you value her friendship and that you don't want to lose her as a friend... something along those lines, something honest that won't freak her out. Then back off and give her some time. The more she feels like you are pursuing her, the more she will probably continue to pull away from you.
2006-12-22 11:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by cyanide_kisses81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try too hard, give her some time, when u re in town, jus make sure u meet her and make her realise that u might have feelings for her, but u would love to see her back in the normal way cos jus tell her in a good tone that 'u know it wud have been great to see u as my girl friend but that girl who is my best friend would be great, please return her to me, i miss her a lot' it might work, will cheer her up, cos it seems she is also feelin bad after she heard ur feelings and is feeling that she might not be able to behave with u in the same way. give her the same comfort zone as previous.
2006-12-23 00:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by Rachna S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural, You said she used to call you four times per day ,tell me how many times you called her during that time ?. Spend some time with her more than usual and make clear whether there is any misunderstanding. Love will always grow when we express it.Most of the girls have a kind of insequirity feeling ,I think it is the same with her.Make her confident that you will be always there for her.
2006-12-23 05:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by RkM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to ask her, point blank, is this over? You will drive yourself crazy trying to guess what she is thinking. If you think she is giving you the "kiss off" then let it be known. You cant move on till you know what you are dealing with. Dont sit back and pine over her... the next one will be even better, and will give you exactly what you need. Dont waste to much of your time trying to make it something, if its not... it should come naturally if it is meant to be. Good Luck!
2006-12-22 11:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by DitziD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, do not push for anything. Currently she is in the drivers seat and she is not quite sure where this is going, nor does she sound like she knows where she wants this to go. Give her time, and respect her decision no matter what. You have your studies to concentrate on, so do that. Hate to say it but you may need to just get over this one, as it sounds like she is over you.
2006-12-22 11:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
better u leave this matter for a certain amount of time such as 1 month or more
2006-12-22 11:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by AJITH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋