You're at a party with your girlfriend/boyfriend and your friend. Your friend then asks your gf/bf to dance, and takes her/him from your side. Shouldn't there be some sort of mutual respect? Like "This is MY partner and you should acknowledge that." Who is at fault? The friend for asking or the gf/bf for accepting? Does anyone view this as ok? By the way, the friend doesn't hang out or see your gf/bf that often.
Scenario:
1. You're sitting with your girlfriend/boyfriend and friend. Your friend asks your gf/bf to dance, and they both leave you sitting there alone ...
Scenario 2: You leave to get a drink then find them dancing and you're left alone doing nothing.
2006-12-22 03:35:14 · 8 answers · asked by Tommy_Turrican 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think it's rude, it's fine
at least my friend has a good taste in girls
2006-12-22 03:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Yulia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're friends what's the problem. They're not screwing. they're just dancing. If you trust your gf/bf and your friend then there should not be a problem. But if you feel it's a repect thing then maybe you should express that to your friend so they can be aware. Maybe the friend didn't feel they were doing anything wrong. Same for the gf/bf. Communication is the key.
2006-12-22 11:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a few things. Did the SO express desire to dance and you declined? What kind of dance where they doing? I would only find it inappropriate if they were grinding/too close or too touchy feely, they were being too flirtatious, or they were out there for an extensive amout of time. But really out of courtesy the friend should've asked discreetly "hey do you mind if I take so and so out for a dance?" since each couple has their own boundaries. My bf will sometimes take his friends gf or wives out on the dance floor when we go out as a group cuz he is a dancin' fool and his friends aren't so I share him with the ladies. :) But he doesn't dance with them the way he dances with me and I would not be comfortable with him dancing with a stranger. When we first starting dating we talked about it so we know where things stand.
2006-12-22 11:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*scoff* That is like super rude. And by the way it's both of their faults. You're friend for being inconsiderate enough to ask and your bf for being thoughtless enough to accept. Though if you bring this up with your bf definetly will start a fight over trust issues. Tell your friend. And then do it to him ask on of his friends to dance and then he'll understand how you felt.
2006-12-22 11:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by ayumilover1028 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think if they are just dancing (not sexy dancing) then it is o.k. If you start to see other signs that they might be doing other things together, then you might start to worry. It really isn't very nice of them though to just go out while you're getting a drink and leave you all alone.
2006-12-22 11:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no etiquette or right/wrong issue involved here. But, what is going on is an attempt to screw around behind your back. You should deal with it accordingly.
2006-12-22 11:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think it's rude of your friend to do that. My friend did that recently to my boyf and he politely turned her down. Which made me smile.
I would never ask someone's SO (significant other) to dance.
Tell her/him it makes you uncomfortable.
2006-12-22 11:38:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say they are both at fault.
2006-12-22 11:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by Tedo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋