why do most people have trouble thinking of their parents as sexual beings?

Question

Even adults I've talked to have a problem with this. I, for some reason never have, even when I was a much younger person.

Answer 1

I never had a problem with my parents having a sex life.I would rather know that they are happy with each other than always fighting.My parents have always had a good relationship and I think that gives a good example of what being together is all about.

Answer 2

I'm going to approach it from two angles: first, it's a defense mechanizm built into our brains to keep us from incest. People that we grow up with get locked into the non-sexual part of our brains early on.

Second, the mechanizm is actually genius if you ask me. Love is all grouped together in the mind, so that feelings of putting family before self are the same if you're putting the family that raises before yourself, or the family that you raise before yourself. But the action that activates these feelings is different: in the case of a family that raises you, it's the nurturing and discipline that causes it, in the case of the family you raise, it's the sex. But the two are like trying to enter through doors on oposite sides of a room. When someone you love as a result of being raised with them tries to go through the sexual door, it is actually leaving the love "room" of your mind, and since you start to feel like you're loosing the love, you instinctively back off.

Of course, that's entirely different than just realizing that the person has sex, but a lot of people have a hard time scaling that difference. (Myself included.) It may have to do with how open the family was about sex, because my wife has no trouble with scaling that difference.

Answer 3

the reason why is : just like if 2 people were making out. kids just don't want 2 think about their parents being sexual it just seems wrong. i know cause i have the same problem i don't like 2 think about it, so i try not 2 it just seems wrong. for me i wouldn't want 2 know if any one else was sexually active. that's just me, some people can't stand it if some one isn't. i hope this helps u, okay

Answer 4

Because mom is God to their children.

The thought of my mother getting busy makes my skin crawl, as would hers at the thought of me doing the same.

Logically I can accept that she's a sexual being, but it's not dinner conversation, or any other conversation I EVER want to have with her.

Answer 5

The same reason that parents have trouble thinking about their grown children as sexual beings - they just don't want to. I know I can't do it, and my parents can't either.

Answer 6

To think of your mom and dad sexual kinda freaks people out a little . I am not sure why but I would not want the mental picture of my mom and dad in my head.

Answer 7

Because it's kinda gross.. no one wants to think of their mother or father in "compromising positions" so to say because people put their families up on pedestals. I'm sure most people have seen their parents doing it once or twice in their lives, but it's not something you want to face everyday or think about.

Answer 8

Because no one wants to picture their parent as real people, I am 36and still don't want to think about my parents having sex. Its just gross. I am sure my kids don't want to think about their dad and I having sex.

Yuck, it just puts a bad picture in my head. Private things should be kept private.

Answer 9

Because

Answer 10

I think we vision our selves and how we are sexually and it is hard to imagine our parents in that same role.