I am with a someone whom I really liked and I still do, I dreamt of her and wished she was mine. Now that we have been together for a six months, I have started finding other girls attractive too. Is it normal?
I know that she is the one for me but still I get attracted to other girls. Why is that?
2006-12-22 03:29:32 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So what do you suggest i do now?
2006-12-22 03:43:09 · update #1
Its a common Economical problem for example You open a brand new bag of bite size Snickers, Eat the first one and its fantastic, so good you grab another one or two, those are still good but for some reason not as good as the first time you had it. By the 5th or 6th snicker your tired of them and Don't want them anymore. Its a way of life, The thing to remember is how great it was when you first met the person and try to remember the way you felt, because they are still that great of a person but its just that you are used to it, Spark it up, Try new things.
2006-12-22 03:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by hieroglyphical15 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're sure that she's the one for you then it's probably normal. But if you're finding that you want to actually take action with the others you find attractive, it's a bit of a problem. It's all natural though. I'm getting married in four months and sometimes I'll interact with some men that I find attractive and think about how much I would like to be single. But then I think of my fiance and how great he is. It's natural though. Also, because you wanted the girl you're with now, the "forbidden fruit" has been eaten so you look for other "challenges". Don't worry. Just make sure you're strong and faithful so you won't hurt the one you love!
2006-12-22 03:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by Tulip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like this. I found more enjoyment in the chase and the rebellion than in the actual relationship. However, my problem was solved when I finally had a relationship I enjoyed more than the chase and rebellion against the relationship.
Six months establishes a good relationship. It shows you're not just in it for action but also because you really like the person you're with. However, six months is also quite a long time and you start to pose questions such as "am I ready to commit for the long-term?" "is this the last person i'm going to be with?" "is this really the person i'm supposed to be with?" and the like.
You're probably finding other girls attracted because you're threatened by the committment you're considering making to this one girl. If you truly find her beautiful, consider the reasons you're so attracted to her. Consider the pros and cons, so to speak. If she's worth the committment, stop looking around and focus on her. =)
2006-12-22 03:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by *Kelly June* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes that is the difference between love and infatuation? Typically, in the beginning of a relationship it can be very easy to idealize the person you are attracted to or project upon that person qualities you are looking for in a love interest but that are not really present in that person.
Currently, you are starting to see your girlfriend as a real person, warts and all and maybe you are doubting whether or not the real person is as desirable as the fantasy girl you dreamed about before you got together. Maybe you are looking for the perfect woman? In that case, I encourage you to consider that the perfect woman is usually looking for the perfect man. Do you fit that description?
2006-12-22 03:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by kvcar2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being with someone for 6 months, that initial white-hot thrill is leveling off into real life. Relationships change and you have to be willing to ride the waves or you get out. Just ask yourself if it is worth it to leave her and chase other chicks, knowing you might not ever get her back? Is that a risk you are willing to take? We all find other people attractive from time to time but, if you are committed to your mate, you don't act on it.
2006-12-22 03:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have found "the one", attraction to other people never goes away, unless you're dead. It's normal and healthy to find other people attractive. What's not normal and healthy is cheating on your girlfriend, so if you get the urge to do that, she isn't the one for you. Enjoy being sttracted to other people and if this upsets your girlfriend then she needs to be a bit more mature. You can damn well bet she finds other guys attractive!
2006-12-22 03:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by nicole l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we are all non committal. If we are committed to a girl and the girl has the same attitude towards u then u can be interesting.
Otherwise if you find her boring she will find u boring too and girls are intelligent enough to find out. Just imagine if she is also looking out.
Attraction is common as such there is no love between girl and boy.
2006-12-22 03:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by suma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just a natural occurence. It happens to everyone. Theres always going to be attraction to someone else but you have to be happy with the person you are with. Remember how hard it was to have her, appeciate her and respect her. Theres nothing wrong with it, just dont cross the line. I hope this helps.
2006-12-22 03:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by lOvInG mOmMiE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thik it's ok to be attracted to other women while in a relationship. Its normal. But if it ever crosses into physical attraction then thats where you have a problem. Though if you are faithful to your girl, then you should have nothing to worry about.
2006-12-22 03:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG that is the same thing thats happening to me! i like this one girl and now we're together and now other girls are attractive
2006-12-22 03:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋