My nephew just found out the truth about Santa…and he is taking it hard. Sleepless nights, no eating, constant crying. He is just having trouble believing the truth and is going to great lengths to prove his theories of Santa correct to both his parents and the other kids at school. His parents don't know what to do as they are confused by his behavior. I want to dress up as Santa, stop by his house and tell him that "Santa does exist". The kid will be in middle school next year, so I figure that he'll HAVE to know the truth by then. One more year of Santa shouldn’t hurt…can it?
2006-12-22 02:54:05 · 14 answers · asked by Yeeeeezzzzz 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
So this child is what, 10 or so? He should be old enough to handle it. I'm surprised he didn't know already, I knew when I was like 6. The behaviors you are describing sound "off" for this situation. There is something more going on. I'd ride it out and if he's still this upset about it in a few weeks get him to a shrink.
2006-12-22 02:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by tabithap 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow, that is a tough one. The behavior is somewhat expected. A change in beliefs like that can be traumatic. I think I would approach it like this. First off, do not dress up like Santa and prolong the belief that there is a physical existance of Santa Claus. Instead, I think you have to sit down with the child and explain to him that Santa Claus and Christmas are a way of feeling and exist in spirit. I would even go so far as to tell him that Santa Claus did exist a long time ago, which is true, and that this person would dress up and bring presents to everyone etc and that people still celebrate his memory and good will by doing the things we do for Christmas. I hope that helps.
2006-12-22 03:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jeffrey H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One more year COULD hurt. He's too old to still believe in Santa, and you prolonging the inevitable will just make it harder once he finally comes to terms with it. If he's having this many issues over it, he's got some deeper issues to deal with. It sucks finding out, but sleepless nights and constant crying are NOT par for the course. This kid needs some counseling, but he DOESN'T need someone keeping up the delusion.
2006-12-22 15:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is heading down the pathway towards a serious jam addiction! The toast is just a vehicle for the jam, or a "gateway" if you will. Boysenberry or any of the so-called "mixed berries" are notorious offenders. Has she professed an unusual interest in canning or home preserves lately? Other warning signs include waking up early to get a jump on breakfast, sticky residue on her hands and face, or an unusual amount of butter knives getting washed. (In all seriousness though, if you are being serious, she's probably just being silly and "random". When I was that age I thought 'mongoose' was the funniest thing I had ever heard in my life and I went around saying 'spoon' like a moron for something like a year and a half)
2016-05-23 15:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by Evelyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree...your nephew should be told about the real Saint Nicholas, the history of Santa Clause, and the true spirit of Christmas...good luck!
2006-12-22 03:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by serenitybrooke00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 and still believe in the magic of Santa Claus. I am teaching my daughter all about him and his wonderful sleigh of toys. However, he is your nephew. It is parents choice how they handle this situation, you can only make suggestions.
2006-12-22 03:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by katherinernilson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well maybe he is confused as to whether there will be presents and such. Let him believe what he wants to and remember most children realize the reality much younger than him. Reassure him that presents will still come and that whatever he chooses to beleive is ok.
2006-12-22 03:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW SAAAAAAAAAAAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I dread the day that my kids start finding out and our oldest is going on 9!!!
I wish I knew what to say? His parents really need to sit down and talk with him. Ask him how he feels and go on a BIG shpeal about "the spirit of Christmas". Man, that's a hard one!
2006-12-22 02:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Santa will always be alive for my family
2006-12-22 03:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by gator7008 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im in 8th grade and i dont believe in SANTA!!!!!...my parents didnt tell me...friends from school told me and i was lil and didnt care...as long as i got some presents!!!!
2006-12-22 04:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋