How do I end this relationship? I have been with him 5 years off and on, more off. He has been to prison for a sexual offense before I met him, has 8 kids, much child support, no job, no car, no money, he's receiving food stamps and general assistance. Just got out of prison June 2006 from our domestic violences. Now he's off drugs, lives with his mom cause he can't be around me. But, this is the killer, he always wants to come over and does spend the night, and some weekends, be intimate, then I have to drop him back at his mom's. I feel like he is using me, how could this be love? Does he really care? This cycle is really stressing me. I feel like he is blocking me from meeting someone who is worth while. I know this is not a good situation, but my feelings are involved. I feel so used and horrible once he is gone. It just disgusts me. Any advice?
2006-12-22 02:12:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girlfriend, let's be real...now close your eyes!!! now think back to when you were a little girl, was that the dream guy you had in mind?? you deserve so much better than that!!! Using you??? you are his doormat and he has no future.... he leans on you cause you let him... of course he's in the way to block all others...if you had it that good wouldn't you? A jail-bird, mama's boy who comes by to get laid and go back to mama's.
work on your self-esteem, you are worth far more than rubies!!!
Don't let anyone degrade you...you are valuable and deserves the best in life but you have to want it for yourself
2006-12-22 02:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mary S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may genuinely have feelings for you but yes everything else makes it very hard for you to see it. But honestly if your already disgusted by the situation then i suggest you bail out. Sounds like you need a restraining order on him since it has already gone violent before. Becareful and be smart. Try to put feelings aside and be selfish here. I think you deserve it and it will probably save your sanity. Good luck
2006-12-22 10:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by Evilish13 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel so little of YOURSELF, that you can't find anyone any better than a man (The word Man is used Loosely) that beats on women, has unlawful sex, in & out of jail ? HE should Not be your Boyfriend or anybody boyfriend, He should be living at the far end of the earth where he has no contact with human life!!!
If he is not MAN enough to take care of his 8 kids, Why do you want him? If He can't Feed them Don't Breed Them !!
You Knew he was using you, leave him alone before he steals you blind, or worst Kills You !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! RUN RUN
2006-12-22 10:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by 520 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My gawd woman...what are trying to do to yourself???? Get away from this situation before the dude has 9 kids that he can't and won't support. The guy is total loser, don't let him drag you down into the gutter with him.
2006-12-22 10:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by slick chik 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a horrible relationship. Worry about fixing yourself--you cannot fix him.
2006-12-22 10:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
baby you stupid first of all you let him hit you damn you dumb and second dat aint love he using you for what you got which probley aint alot and you dumb and still ******* him wow wow wow is really all i got say to you for really i will pray for you but no that aint love that is lust his hornmonies are very high since he just came home and he is gonna get all da pussy you gonna give him to make up for the time when he was locked down
2006-12-22 10:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by SUGA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not an environment for a relationship to work. get out find a better man. if it is meant to be it will work
good luck!
2006-12-22 10:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop picking him up, make him put forth some effort. If he can't do that then he's really using you.
2006-12-22 10:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by FF Geek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think before you first step
2006-12-22 10:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by nazir M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him......if u don't do anything now, then it may get worse....
2006-12-22 10:18:41 · answer #10 · answered by Shay. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋