Why is there such a big push for the bigger is better ideology when buying engagement rings? Growing up I loved my mom’s engagement ring/wedding ring and wished for one from the man of my dreams. It’s simple, small, beautiful and symbolizes something so pure. Most my friends mom’s have small carat size engagement/wedding ring. But these days there is such a push for huge rocks. People bend over backwards to buy engagement rings. That’s so silly to me. If you can afford it go for it, but what happened to the simple days?
2006-12-22 02:09:38 · 21 answers · asked by sarahalyse 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just to clarify...diamonds are beautiful, big or small. I just don't understand why so many people bend over backwards to buy a ring that isn't in their price range. Plus, I really don't understand why any girl who is in love and just got proposed to would be offended because of the ring size. Sure every girl is worth it, but sometimes "it" isn't affordable.
2006-12-22 02:26:24 · update #1
I agree with you. It's what the ring symbolizes that's important, not the size of the rock. I have heard so many women say that they want to pick out their own ring because they want a certain shape, size, design, etc. What happened to the romance of a man going shopping and picking out a ring for his girl to surprise her? It used to be so romantic but now it is all about the ring, the wedding, the honeymoon, how big the house is, etc. I think the divorce rate would go down if we went back to the simpler days when what mattered was how much 2 people loved each other and a ring was a symbol of that...not a showpiece. I bought my wife a simple engagement ring...it was all I could afford, but she loves it and when I told her that one day I would get her a bigger one, she said "no way are you ever replacing this ring"....it made me feel so good because what mattered to her was what it stood for not how much it stood out!
2006-12-22 02:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't think people should go into debt to buy a huge diamond either. You should buy as good a quality as you can afford, and do extensive research on the different cuts/clarity/color/carats, so you don't get hosed no matter what size you get. My fiance happened to be able to afford to buy me a good size diamond of great quality, but I would have said yes if it had been a bubble gum ring too. I find a lot of the engagement rings that are popular now are a bit gaudy for me. I fear that 10 years down the road, they will be wishing they went for a simpler design. Personally, I love the classic Tiffany round solitaire, in a simple 6 prong platinum setting. No side diamonds, no doo-dads...just a simple sparkly, classy ring. A style that never goes out of style. But anyway...I agree it's foolish to pour tons of money (especially if you don't have it) into a ring, just so you can say "Mine is bigger than yours."
2006-12-22 07:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is why there is such a variation on size and style. Not everyone likes the big rocks. Don't go crazy live within your means and increase if you desire as you go. If you are together in 10 years increase the size if you desire, if 15 increase again.
The rule of thumb is one months salary should buy your ring. And I think that is fair. There are some beautiful bands with one or two stones or stones all the way around. You get an fancy or simple as you are personally comfortable with.
2006-12-22 02:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by kpd2020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule of thumb for this is the man should pay a month's salary for the ring. If he makes $12k a year working at Wendy's, then $1k is what he should spend. I never heard if this was the before or after tax amount, but if you're only making $12k you're likely getting it all back tax time anyway. This makes it affordable enough for anyone no matter how much you make as long as you make some money.
If you want to go cheap, but with lots of meaning and tradition, why not try a Claddagh Irish Wedding ring?
2006-12-22 02:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Geoff S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great question!
People should not put themselves in debt to show off to others. The size of the rock does not directly reflect the size of your love for each other.
I have a friend with a big rock - but it is a ruby. I love it. It is one of my fav's and probably the least expensive ring in my friend group. But it has a neat old world style to it.
Find something that reflects your style and fits your pocket books young couples. That will save arguments about debt later and you can afford down payments for a new house or car without the stress of a big debt load.
2006-12-22 02:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine is very simple as well. My ring has an X pattern across the top and the X is filled with small diamonds. It is flat and I love it like that as my fiance and I do not like the prong setting.that is all that I have for my engagement ring.I love it because he put so much meaning into when he asked me to marry. I knew that he loved me and the size of the 'rocks' did not matter.
2006-12-22 02:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!! I'm sorry to hear that your fiance lost her first ring. However, the ring you selected sounds very nice considering the cut will only show minute inclusions in the stone. Also, the color is almost colorless being an F. I hope you got a great deal because diamonds of that nature tend to be expensive. Keep in mind that an emerald cut will show flaws more so than a round stone- because of the cut. So, you may see black inclusions when you take a closer look at the ring. It's normal to see those in an emerald cut. Good luck!!!
2016-03-29 03:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand that myself... If you find out, let me know!
My husband and I just got married. My engagement ring was blue topaz, because I love the color... It was only $400 or so. I could think of so many better things to do with thousands of $$ that could potenitally be spent on some huge diamond (we took several trips abroad this past year, including a honeymoon cruise, and had a ton of fun). To me, it is the symbolic value of the ring, not the size of it, that is important.
2006-12-22 05:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are more wrapped up with the "trappings" of marriage. Look at weddings, they're getting bigger and more and more expensive. Our parents were satisfied with cake and punch at their mother's house, today brides want a $5000 gown, 7 course dinner, video, dream vacations, dream house, etc., etc., etc. The jewelry industry doesn't help much, by telling guys that they should spend 2 months salary on an engagement ring. That's about 15% of their annual net salary, for crying out loud!!!
2006-12-22 04:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of women want huge rings because the other women they know have huge rings. Like it's a competition. And some women think that the size of the ring somehow indicates how much the guy loves her.
2006-12-22 02:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋