I have a small dilemma. I have 4 Christmas dinners to attend. Three of these are my family's and one is my boyfriend's family. I live in a house that my grandparents remodled and my boyfriend still lives at home with his parents. He is in the process of building a home, but it isn't livable, yet. The dilemma is that I want my boyfriend and I to open our gifts for each other at MY house. That way it will be more like it's just the two of us. He mentioned that we open gifts together at his parents house with them. This really irritated me. I have never asked him to open "our" gifts at my parents house, so why should we open them at his parent's house? We have a place that we can be together.......alone. However, we will have to wait til Tuesday, because of our busy schedule or open them this weekend one morning. He agreed last night that we would come to my house, but am I being fair? I want to do the right thing for both of us. What do you think?
2006-12-22 01:38:25 · 11 answers · asked by Gretta 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Opening them at your home is very fair... it is neither at your parents or his.. You are fine.. If he is really hell bent on his parents.. then take one gift of his over there to open and one for you..
This is such a minor situation... dont make more of it than what it needs to be.. Just enjoy each other this Holiday... and be greatful!
Merry Christmas and God Bless you!
2006-12-22 01:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by Esther J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spread all the presents out, for each house , some here, some there, and some for when your alone, make it fun, a fun game to where before you go to the family's you each get to pick a gift for each other (anyone you want) even if you know its gonna be a gag gift or what ever but as long as you both agree I mean, but I think that could be alot of fun, you can tease each other about how embarrassed he's gonna be when he opens that one in front of grandma or mom or ect... I mean what else can ya do? it's the holidays you don't want to make it a bad one because every year after that then you will both have to remind each other of what you both had to do and how you didn't want to..Pick names out of a hat if you have to or something. I have faith in you girlfriend, and I do know how our other halfs can be! yep yes I do! LOL anyway I'm no abby , Just trying to come up with a solution for the both of you. Hope I can help Merry Christmas! sunnydays
2006-12-22 09:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by sunnydays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have always had a little private time before all the family stuff to open our presents to each other alone. We usually do it on Christmas Eve before going to her family's house for their get together and then we drive 4 hours on Christmas Day to be with my family. I think it is important to have a bit of quality time together to open presents to each other. We have been doing this for 6 years ever since our first Christmas together. I think your idea is the best. It's a nice way to relax and just enjoy some time together before all the family activities.
2006-12-22 09:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The key word in your question is "small". If you really care about this fellow, and are trying to build a lasting relationship, do what he wants. Some guys are really close to their family and would want to share their Christmas experiences with them. Yes, more than being in private with you. It is a fact of life with some guys and unfortunately you are going to have to live with it. But, if there is a bright note, it would be that at least he treasures family values and his family. That is not a bad trait in a guy. Tell him that you slept on it, and you so very much appreciate his willingness to open packages at your house, but in all fairness to him and his family, you want to be with him at his parents house. It will take you a long way with him, believe me.
2006-12-22 09:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Charles & Elizabeth C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your wanting to have some special time with him. Exchange a gift or two together and alone and split the rest up among the family homes this way everyones happy
2006-12-22 09:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not open them at his parents! Do it Saturday or Sunday morning at your house, just the two of you!
2006-12-22 09:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should open them alone together. you can open presents from your parents and your parents house he can open presents from his parents at his parents house and you can open the ones to each other in private. i always like to open presents from my bf alone. i think it is more special that way. the only reason i can think of that he wants to do it there is that there is a special present and he wants everyone to see him give it to you. hint. hint. idk.
2006-12-22 09:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by mel2430 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a slimeball, who says they wanna open it as his parents house, with my girlfriends presents, i can only receive them alone!
2006-12-22 09:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by doctorslapnut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open in the bathroom, then others will not see the disappointment will not show on your face.
2006-12-22 09:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by victorschool1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go to all four how well just stay like 1hour at you're boyfriend and 1hour at you're friend and the rest at you're family .
just tell them that you can't stay to long because you have to visit you're family.
Good Luck !
2006-12-24 14:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋