we have lots of friends but she met someone recently and has pushed me out of her life im angry but i dont know if im over reacting,they have only been seeing each other for a couple of months and she had practically moved him into our home i had to put my foot down,was i wrong
2006-12-22 01:28:25 · 25 answers · asked by thedrovers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If he is practically living there, just ask him to help with the bills. It sounds like you're jealous, and there's nothing wrong with that. But, put yourself in your sister's shoes. Be supportive and be there for her if it doesn't work out.
2006-12-22 01:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong at all this guy is coming into your personal space, even though it was originally shared with your sister. If the flat is for two of you, then thats how it should stay, tell your sister that ur a bit annoyed by this other person taking ur place in a way, i'm sure she'll understand.
You also have to remember that your sister has her own life aswell, she can make friends with who she want, you just need to give some input into whether or not they are a good person to be around or not, thats what family do, look out for each other.
My answer to your problem is just to tell her exactly how you, feel, and that you dont want this person staying in ur flat/house as its not letting you live happily, and there may also be the money to consider too, maby he just wants a free ride- in a money sense i mean lol
hope my opinion helps:)
2006-12-22 09:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by Mike M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your sister share expenses and live together and all of a sudden she brings or allows this guy to practically move in on both of you then you have every right to complain and say this is wrong unless he intends to carry his share of the load. She sould have talked over the situation with you first if this is the case. If I were you I would continue to let her know of your displeasure at her doing something behind your back and also tell her that she has not been considerate of your feelings. You are not wrong to have put your foot down if this is the case.
2006-12-22 09:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will both be starting life without living with each other, that is the hard bit that you don't like, you will meet someone and fall in love, you can still be her friend as well as her sister, if thing's don't work out for her I'm sure you will still be there for her and give her you're support, as you should be doing now that she has found someone, don't be jealous be happy for her. Have a Merry Christmas life is too short!!
2006-12-22 09:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by braveheart321 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a Little bit as you may have done this thru jealously , but she should have discuss this move with you before bringing him into the home you both share. I expect that you should find some else to fill the space in the meantime and try to stay friends with her in a calm way as i suspect that they may not last too long anyway.. but if they do the they were meant for one another. If the tables were turned you may have brought someone in yourself and you may have wanted her blessing ! just stay calm and find new friends to enjoy time with as she may be fully booked from now on xx
2006-12-22 09:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anthony B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, she has not pushed you out of her life...she's met someone who she likes and she wants to spend time with him, we all part ways when we meet someone new, it does not mean we want to abandon you, she's happy so be happy for her, she still lives with you but she has a life too, if you don't like the idea of her b/f being there too much just tell her to have him over about twice per week and not every night, because you need time with her, i am sure she'll understand, don't have a lad come between you and your sis's friendship.....your not being unreasonable about her fella staying but maybe you can just ease off a little when he's there or suggest she stays with him once in a while just so you can have the place to yourself...love your sis....
2006-12-22 09:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were not wrong. She should have talked to you about your opinion about the guy moving in or coming over alot first. She did not think about your feelings and thoughts first, only herself. She is not wrong for having someone but just respect the person that she's living with.
2006-12-22 09:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Mizz.Purdy♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah you were. just b/c you are like best friends, live together, etc...doesn't mean that she doesn't have a life outside of it. she is not your entire life (although it seems that way) and you are not hers. tell her you miss the time you had with her and would it be possible to set aside some time for you. if she didn't talk to you about him coming over or "practically" moving in, then you could have asked her about it and talked..and in that case no you were not wrong...hope that made sense..lol
2006-12-22 09:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a terrible thing! If the home that you and your sister share is "both" of your...then, I would suggest that you sit down and work it out with her...she's your best friend and your sister..and your coming to strangers for advise??? Why are you so against your sister finding happiness? Your afraid she's gonna leave you...don't be selfish!
2006-12-22 09:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by Shelly B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you share a house she has to take your feelings on him moving in that's only fair. Try and suggest that you go out together on your own for lunch once a week for girly time, or all three of you go out with as many friends as you can get together so you can all get to know him. Make him feel part of your group then you ll see her as well.
2006-12-22 09:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by *♥* donna *♥* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋