Are you aware that being defensive, shows you, yourself are not really convinced you are correct?

Question

I note that when many questions are asked of one group, the other jumps in and answers. These answers always assume a defensive posture. One who is truly convinced he knows an answer has no need to be defensive.

So my questions is Since you truly do not know, (and r inside aware you do not know),, why are you answering questions when you should be asking some??

I have been taking notes and if a question is asked of one group (addressed clearly to) there are usually about an equal number of answers from both sides, interesting huh?

Answer 1

People who are insecure argue more, as they are trying to convince themselves that they are correct. But it is also interesting to me that you are keeping a tally, because that shows YOU are trying to prove something too. A secure person doesn't give a damn about things like that.

Answer 2

What you say is not always true you know ....
being too defensive might be just because someone lacks the knowledge, there is a void in his mind that makes him be too defensive, at the same time some one who is part of the same group might answer the same question better and without being defensive...

the problem with what you've said that it is too generalized ....

Answer 3

I have read the question and some of the more than 1 line answers, and I would have to say that in general I would agree, but I am a firm beiliever that blanket statements are never 100% true or false. Blanker statements are just another form of steriotypes. And though I believe firmly in steriotypes....not they are not always true.

Answer 4

I guess I should ask you to define,"defensive". I tend to become very annoyed at questions that I see as provocative, and abusive, and I let the Poster know it. I guess some would call that defensive. I will also speak out when someone Posts something I strongly disagree with, I would call this defending my faith. but others may see it as defensiveness.

Answer 5

I would disagree.

People that are defensive are those who feel threatened or attacked. It's just that simple.

People who are attacked frequently will become hypersensitive to attack, often perceiving them when they don't exist (say like my ex-gf, but I digress).

Now, when you start getting people who feel it's their duty or go out of their way to convince you of what they believe, then I would agree. Those are the ones who are so insecure about their own beliefs that they need everyone else to agree so they are convinced they are right.

Answer 6

You mean the 22 guys playing for the defense for the two football teams last night were all wrong? Its going to make the game awfully boring with only offense on the field.

Answer 7

many things plays into this. Not just being defensive or uncertain. Mood plays one part. Power struggle plays another as well as a host of many things. Yes, this can define some of these behaviors but many of these behaviors can be defined as pure rebellion, stubborness, and more.

Answer 8

Very true my brother.
here is some scriptures on strife.

Forbidden.

Proverbs 3:30 Strive not with a man without cause, if he have done thee no harm.
Proverbs 25:8 Go not forth hastily to strive, lest thou know not what to do in the end thereof, when thy neighbour hath put thee to shame.

A work of the flesh.

Galatians 5:20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,

An evidence of a carnal spirit.

1 Corinthians 3:3 For ye are yet carnal: for whereas there is among you envying, and strife, and divisions, are ye not carnal, and walk as men?

Existed in primitive church.

1 Corinthians 1:11 For it hath been declared unto me of you, my brethren, by them which are of the house of Chloe, that there are contentions among you.

Hatred.

Proverbs 10:12 Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.

Pride.

Proverbs 13:10 Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.
Proverbs 28:25 He that is of a proud heart stirreth up strife: but he that putteth his trust in the LORD shall be made fat.

Wrath.

Proverbs 15:18 A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.
Proverbs 30:33 Surely the churning of milk bringeth forth butter, and the wringing of the nose bringeth forth blood: so the forcing of wrath bringeth forth strife.

Frowardness.

Proverbs 16:28 A froward man soweth strife: and a whisperer separateth chief friends.

A contentious disposition.

Proverbs 26:21 As coals are to burning coals, and wood to fire; so is a contentious man to kindle strife.

Tale-bearing.

Proverbs 26:20 Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out: so where there is no talebearer, the strife ceaseth.

Lusts.

James 4:1 From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?

Curious questions.

1 Timothy 6:4 He is proud, knowing nothing, but doting about questions and strifes of words, whereof cometh envy, strife, railings, evil surmisings,
2 Timothy 2:23 But foolish and unlearned questions avoid, knowing that they do gender strifes.

Scorning.

Proverbs 22:10 Cast out the scorner, and contention shall go out; yea, strife and reproach shall cease.

Difficulty of stopping, a reason for avoiding it.

Proverbs 17:14 The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with.

Shameful in saints.

2 Corinthians 12:20 For I fear, lest, when I come, I shall not find you such as I would, and that I shall be found unto you such as ye would not: lest there be debates, envyings, wraths, strifes, backbitings, whisperings, swellings, tumults:
James 3:14 But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth.

Answer 9

wow, mr. science, what a brilliant analysis.... it takes a true genius to make such surprising observations.... who would have known? I mean, seriously - I am just floored that all those behavioral scientists have not seen the light earlier..... thank you, thank you, thank you - Christmas has come early this year for the scientific community....thank you!

Answer 10

I feel the same way about the people I work with sometimes. They seem afraid of saying I don't know. Its frustrating because then they just talk around the subject.