I am just wondering if its right for an ex-husband to be sending his ex-wife a christmas card but not send one to his new wife.I don't think its right but would like some comments from others out there.
What do you think about this?
2006-12-22 01:25:35 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think that it depends on the relationships involved. Some divorces are amicable and the parties remain friends - this could be very good especially if there are children from the first marriage.
If 2nd wife is uncomfortable or hurt by 1st wife receiving a card she should ask hubby AND herself a few questions.
Ask him why he sends the card - is it because a friendly relationship still exists, or that Wife #1 is mom and he wants his kids to be aware that he respects her and that the relationship is still amicable.
Ask herself why this makes her uncomfortable or hurt - does she feel she is 'losing' something because he sends his card to his ex. Does she feel left out or ignored because he does this without her? Does she feel like he does this 'behind her back'. Is this about insecurity or is there something to worry about?
I think the bottom line would be for Wife#2 to say to hubby - "I know that you are still on friendly terms with Wife#1, but couples send Christmas cards together - from now on I'd like it if we sent this Christmas card as a couple too. Would that work for you?"
Hope that helps!
Jen
2006-12-22 02:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by InstructNut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that you live with your wife a gift, not a card, is appropriate, specifically jewelry no cooking tools. If the separation involved a restraining order, you should not send your ex anything. Your question seems to be about your new wife being left out. A cool gift and a smooch and she will be puddy in your hands.
All relationships begin with some attraction with the other, keeping good relations with your ex is a credit to you.
2006-12-22 01:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by Billy Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have enough trouble with other stuff. Just send them both one. Cards are cheap and if you buy a pack that's making a charity donation then good on ya.
Why would he/you not want to send the new wife one? That doesn't make sense. Does he/you still get on with the ex? I'd personally send them both one, anything for a quiet life. Perhaps while they're reading their cards he/you could nip out and sleep with someone else.
2006-12-22 01:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by Missing Link 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 08:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can a man send a card to the ex but not to the current wife. Is he still in-love with the ex...then why marry the current woman...is he kidding me...someone needs to give him a wake up call...and a hard one too.
2006-12-22 06:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by naomijoan0615 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old habits sometimes die hard. I don't like my b/f receiving cards on many occasions from his ex wife but she is a clinging type person, figures she has to be sociable or whatever because she always asks him for money. When I have my kids with me, I send their fathers Xmas cards from them, sometimes I sign it too. A man should get a special card for his current wife, it is a loving, kind thing to do.I don't think someone should go out of their way for an ex but be polite and cordial to them. They are an ex for a reason(s), they shouldn't behave as if you are good buddies. My opinion.
2006-12-22 01:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, now that is a little strange!!! I would say that some form of communication is to be expected. They have kids together and even though the kids are grown, your husband and his ex will always have a bond. As for the money in her account.... WHAT THE HECK!?!? Is there some special reason that he still feels responsible for her? That would make me feel as if I were living in someone's shadow. Not to mention being disrespectful you your relationship with your husband. The answer is within yourself to find. No one can direct you. The fact that you are questioning his behavior says that you must feel there is something unacceptable with it. Good luck in your choice.
2016-05-23 15:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem with that - but it depends on the circumstances. My partner and myself don't send each other Christmas cards, we're together for Christmas anyway, but we both send our ex's cards as we both have children with them!
I know some people send cards to each other in the same house but we only do that for birthdays so it really depends on your family traditions.
2006-12-22 01:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by libbyft 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is totally wrong, he has no need to send his ex wife a Christmas card. what you need to do is send one of your ex's boyfriend or husband just an ex a Christmas card and see how he likes it. Paybacks are always fair....make sure he sees you doing it.
2006-12-22 01:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Under the presumption that he is giving presents to the new wife, then the card is inconsequential. Hubby is showing decent social graces
A Madly Merry, Wickedly Happy Christmas to all!
Charles "That Cheeky Lad"
Abbey and Angel
2006-12-22 04:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋