i was in line at meijer and this fat 18ish looking guy with his mom is first in line. i was third. ANYWAY lol, his mom was paying and he went to go get something, and when he comes back, he just looks at me to get through, and doesnt say EXCUSE ME or anything, and then the other person's cart is next to me blocking his way, and all he does is laugh and smirk and doesnt say excuse me again. i wanted to punch him. also, one other time, this cute guy behind my dad and i in line was only buying protein mix, and we had around 12 items, and the cashier's sweating and taking forever to pay for the crap, the guy behind us is giving this weird vibe and look and tapping his finger loud pretending it's MY fault. the cashier was the one who needed a price check. and why do teenage boys like making scenes, like how the scream and other people for no good reason. im done ranting. sorry, i suck at telling "stories". lol but why doesnt anyone have respect anymore?!
2006-12-22 01:17:06 · 12 answers · asked by yrsosketchy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think its how kids are brought up. You don't hear kids saying please and thank you, or yes sir any more. You have to teach them respect and manners. If you don't than they will become rude and dis repectful adults.
2006-12-22 01:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by miss lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this is very true and very sad. You can blame parents for not teaching their kids morals and values! Too many parents are busy working, leaving the child rearing to day care, babysitters and schools! They feel that as long as their child is fed, clean and doing well with their ABC's and 123's things are fine. There is much more to raising a child than that! Unfortunately this is resulting in a world of rude, disrespectful people. Manners and politeness should be taught to a child by the age of 3!!
My advice is to just ignore it.....even though you might want to comment (believe me I have wanted to say a few things too).
2006-12-22 09:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by pamomof4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you have hit the nail on the head a lot more than you realize. It all has to do with attitude: how we perceive what others are doing & thinking & how we judge ourselves. Was that a smirk or a painfully shy grin? And just who was that cute guy drumming his fingers at & for what reason? Why did you describe one guy as fat & the other cute? Why poke fun at the cashier who was doing the best she could under trying circumstances?
Manners begin at home, meaning within ourselves. When I am judging others, I am describing my attitudes, not theirs. Calling that kid fat was a way for you to feel superior to him. Saying he was smirking was a reflection of the way you reacted to him, & the way you think of yourself. Picking at the faults of others keeps us from thinking about the poor image we have of ourselves.
My guess is you are upset at me at this point. Guess what? I don't care what you think of me. I may be exhibiting poor manners, but I am showing respect to you by being honest about what I think. You don't like yourself, & that is a shame. Regardless of what others do, when I give respect (deserved or not) I gain self respect because I know I am doing the right thing. When I don't, I don't like myself much. When we judge others less, we like ourselves more. I wish you the best. Learn to quit kicking yourself & Good luck.
2006-12-22 10:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by bob h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general, young people don't have the manners or courtesy that previous generations have. Unfortunately, my generation has raised a bunch of spoiled brats who are only interested in themselves and say "to hell with everyone else!"
You will only find a few courteous children at church on Sunday, then only a few.
I weep for the future...
2006-12-22 12:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mother is obviously classless as well. The parents teach manners to the children---and in this case, the children are reflections of the crappy parents. My mother would NEVER have tolerated that sort of behavior!
Generally, I find that talking to folks in line helps. I have yet to find anyone who didn't enjoy a quick chat in line.
2006-12-22 09:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by Danagasta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do. As others have said it is all in the upbringing. If they have had no training in the home then the TV has been the trainer. and according to what is cool today, it is not cool to care about anybody but your self and the amount of bling you have.
2006-12-22 09:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Commonsense 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It goes back to their parents not teaching them manners. I have a 2 year-old son and when he farts, burps, or wants to get down from the table he has to say excuse me. He is already getting better about saying it without being reminded.
2006-12-22 09:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If ya wanna Blame someone , Blame the Parents. They dont teach Kids respect anymore. My Girls however have been taught Please , thank you , Excuse , Yes sir. , yes mam. I will be damned if my girls turn out like some of these little Brats I see now a days.
2006-12-22 09:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with "Ryan's mom", has much to do with upbringing but practicing throughout your life what you have learned, proper manners, values, affection, etc. Others around them influence also. I still have to remind my 24 yrs old to say "excuse me" and "thank you", etc. to set a good example for her son.
2006-12-22 09:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people still do , but I think most teens don't because there parents don't ( so they never got to learn them from their parents)
other people are SOOOOOOOOO into themselves that they could care less about how they treat others, sad, but true
2006-12-22 09:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋