we have been going out for seven months and ever since the beginning of our relationship he and my little sister have been talking, like when im on the phone with him he'll be like "hey can I talk to your sis?" I work all day and when I get home I get online to talk to him but he always has to go, but then I look at my sisters myspace and see that they were talking right before I got home. and then he told me that he loved her and she was very pretty but he loves me more. am i just being paranoid and jealous? I dont want him to love her, I'm his girlfriend, not her, i dont mind if they are friends but i think there is a problem when he'd rather talk to her than me. I dont want to lose him but I dont know what to do.
2006-12-22 01:14:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
gosh! that is really a big s**t!!!
what is his purpose by confessing that to you? i just think he's trying to show that he is more interested w/ your sis... he just not want to be really look like a total bad boy & he has no guts to tell you frankly, so he's trying to convince you that he loves you more... but what is that? the mere fact that he also loves your sis... that's the most absurd things!... & it's not healthy w/ your relationship w/ him or your relationship to your sis!!!
About your sis... is she aware that your bf loves her? what is her feelings to him? if she loves your bf too... a big problem!!! i guess, she will deny it! but wait, even your sis never love him, it still not good!
Talk to your bf, tell him your real feelings, that you are upset because of that, that you are not angry but only confuse & never understand why he have to love both you & your sis. Ask him, "how do you see yourself w/ me?", "am i still your gf?", "do you see yourself being w/ my sis?" "is there something wrong w/ me that you never like that's why you have to love my sis?", "dont you think that i wasn't hurt knowing that you love my sis?" Ask all that without being too harsh on him, ask as if you were trying to ask that to a kid... hahaha!
If he can't answered that directly, there's something wrong! And, if he can be honest w/ you, that if it would turn out as a real heartache... im sorry to say, but he needs to think it over, give him time.
As for your sis, are you close to her?... try to find out what kind of conversation she is having w/ your bf... do a little spy! or ask her plainly "what do you think of my bf?", "do you think he is honest w/ me?", "do you think he really loves me?", "do you think there will have a big problem will come in our relationship?", & "would you be concern to my feelings if you see me breaking w/ him". Don't give her any hint that you are jealous of her. Just ask as if you were pertaining about other problems or other 3rd party that is not her...
You were thinking if you are being paranoid. Don't worry, you have the right to be jealous, you are his present gf & he hurts you unreasonably!!! any girls who will be put in your shoes will also feel the same.
Go girl! hope it will really solve for the best!
Goodluck!
2006-12-22 01:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by ayu 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even keep him around? He is a JERK. And As for your sister, why would she even talk to him if he is YOUR Boyfriend? It sounds like you have your hands full, but, no matter what, get rid of him and find a real man, not a little boy, that you can trust.
BTY If you want proof, put a keylogger on your computer (that is if your sister uses it too) and see what they are saying.
You can download a free keylogger at www.tucows.com KGB logger is the best. You can hide it and unless you give out the password, they will never know.
2006-12-22 09:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you need to let this one slide. He seems like he is using you to get to through to your sister which is cowardly and wrong. You should tell him why you are dumping him and let things play out between him and your sister. Just remember not to tell your sister off because she's family and he's just a fleeting blip on the radar. I guarantee that she'll be around long after he's come and gone.
Good Luck with that!
2006-12-22 09:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you don't want to hear anything about "menage a trois"... I am joking... You could date some other guys and see if he likes that. Or just say to him: I date John or whatever name you like and see what his face will look like. If he loves you, he will ask you a lot of questions and be jelous, yell at you and so on... If not, then he's a jerk and you will feel sorry you didn't go out with "John" or whatever name...
I'm sorry.
Good luck.
2006-12-22 09:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by iDontKnowWhatToDo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
end the relationship, it could only lead to disappointment. dont worry about loseing him he's not worth have you. there are many guy, you will find one.
leave him and wait and see if he and your sister are getting together. you should also talk to you sister and find out how she feels and tell her how she is making you feel
2006-12-22 09:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing both of you and probably like the drama of you two fighting over him as it boosts his ego; you and your sister need to stick together and both need to eliminate this loser user from your life.
If she won't, then you should and he is likely to gain respect for you for not being a doormat that will put up with whatever crap he dishes out. If he doesn't, there are plenty of men that will.
2006-12-22 09:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Demand to know what's going on, or you'll split up with your BF. And talk with your sister. If what you think is going on is going on, just tell her how you feel, and if she doesn't care, she isn't a good sister.
2006-12-22 09:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO HIM dear!!! and seriously. ask him how would he feel if you started interacting with another another guy just like hs is with your sister. Ask him what if your sister doesn't think the same way as him? tell him not to make it more complicated.
2006-12-22 09:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anju 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to be upset..he is dating you not her. i think that he is hiding something from you in the fact that he would rather talk to her...from what you said....he does have feelings for her and whether it's a crush or not...they both need to be confronted. i would end it...because your the one who is going to get hurt in the end.
2006-12-22 09:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by hrt 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like they got a thing going on and they don't know how to tell you. So, they are showing you.
2006-12-22 09:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋