You have all the right to get jealous. When you love someone with all your heart, you cannot help but feel that you want them all to yourself and just for you... So when it comes to your fiancee talkin to people of his / her opposite sex... if true love really existed between the two of you, you will have to feel uneasy about the whole ordeal and maybe even a little jealous. It's human nature to feel that way... it is after all... a derivative of love... and its presence (jealousy) only ensures that your feelings for him are true.
What to do in this case is... talk to your fiancee. If you are his fiancee and he is yours, I am sort of wondering if you ever really talked about such matters. I mean to have gotten engaged means to have gotten to know each other well also, so I'm wondering why you hadnt mentioned this to him earlier.
If this whole jealousy thing is new, and recent... then thats okay as well. You need to sit him down and ask him how much he loves you and how much he cares for you. When he answers you with the musical notes to which your heart will flutter its wings, smile and tell him... well baby... there are a few things that you do that hurt your baby (referring to yourself in the case he called you his baby ;) )... and go on to explain that its not that you dont trust him, or dont love him... DONT let him delude you from your argument if he claims " oh you dont trust me! " etc...
Tell him that its not abotu trust... but that you love him, and want to see how much he can do for you as well. Explain to him that love is all about the two of you... 1+1=2... and if one is aching... then he is not carrying the full weight of his ONE in the equation and it will cause problems...
Communication is key in any relationship... just make sure that have fiber-optic cables hooked up to your server-brains and ensure that the best type of communication is always present between the two of you. Issues, small or big, need to be talked about... Sometimes they can be overlooked... but not when they are affecting one of the two people involved.
2006-12-22 00:21:08
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answered by kmanevil 2
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You should try to understand that he has friends too. Do not get jealous as that will destroy your relationship. Sorry to say this but it shows you are a little immature and you do not have a good self esteem. Give it some time and it'll get better. After all he is YOUR fiancee, so he's promised his love to you ONLY.
2006-12-22 00:14:08
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answered by capnemo 5
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Realize that being too insecure in your relationship will eventually destroy the relationship. People have a tendency to believe that their signifignant other should be their "everything", but you need other relationships (meaning friendships) to develop as a person. Therefore having something more to bring to your own relationship. Friends of the opposite sex help bring a different perspective to ideas.
He is your fiancee, not theirs, they are his friends. He picked you. Good luck!
2006-12-22 00:20:41
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answered by Jen G 1
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Jealousy really is a hard thing to manage. But one thing is sure, jealousy is a relationship killer. Some jealousies however exist for a reason. I think that the only way to manage jealousy is by resolving personal insecurities by doing things that could promote your sense of self-importance. This is one of the most important things that one must have before marrying, a sense of self-importance. If your jealousy bothers you that much, step aside for a while. Don't look when he's with his girl friends. And busy yourself with other things that could make productive. If you can manage it, much better. If you think you can't and it's really bothering you... a talk with your fiance might help. Be honest to him how you feel when he does it and how you are bothered by some of his actuations.
2006-12-22 00:20:08
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answered by terra 4
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Jealously is an expression of insecurity. If you continue on this road, you will destroy any possibility of finding happiness with this man and your fear of losing him will certainly come true. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are worthy of your fiancee's love and stop allowing petty jealousies to ruin your future.
2006-12-22 00:29:14
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answered by Anonymous
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Are you coming up suspicion (that a functional person would see) consisting of a while and conversations consisting of your ex? Do you, the ex and your spouse ever go out for beverages/food together (even consistent with risk with the ex's new SO)? that should help out. there is not any way in hell i'd ever kiss off the guy who helped me by a existence-changing experience like maximum cancers, till i replaced into presently having romantic emotions for (or worse, action with) that person. Your fiance sounds very insecure. different than to truly reassure her and verify she and the ex are able to get to appreciate one yet another, you do no longer would desire to teach something to her. it particularly is her activity to be person sufficient to make certain the ex for who she is: a stable pal and helper. why would you supply up the friendship consisting of your ex for the jealousy of the fiance? I advise you re-verify your prefer to spend something of your existence with this fiance, as long as you already know your motives and strikes are on the up-and-up.
2016-12-15 06:08:27
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answered by ? 4
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why not get involved in the conversation once in awhile. there is no reason that you cant get to them too. when they talk about old times and things you don't know about don't get mad, remember he is there with you. just listen and if it is funny then laugh about it. you don't need to stand there during the whole conversation either. show him and the girl that you are confident with your self and your relationship.during the conversation, you could say it was nice meeting you and tell your boyfriend that you see so ans so and your going to go and talk to them. this shows that your not afraid to leave him talking alone with her. try it, before long you will see this jealousy thing will be a thing of the past.
2006-12-22 00:18:31
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answered by here to help 4
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make an effort to be friendly with them as well if you're around at the time,it will be forced at first,but if you try you can do it and after a while you will feel better and not feel intimidated.If your man cheats on you ,it's not because you're not good enough and some other girl is better than you,a person cheats because that's who they are and that's their character and has nothing to do with you not being good enough.If Halle Berry's man can cheat on her the rest of us may as well realize that some men are just cheaters.
2006-12-22 00:22:27
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answered by punkin 5
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honestly if you think about it he's your man, and no one elses. He got down on one knee for you. You just have to have a postitive mind of state. There just other girls, friends. Your his main girl, his everything, the one his going to spend the rest of his life with. You already got him so why worry. His goin home with you. Or you can knock a heffa out...haha joking!
2006-12-22 00:17:24
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answered by Kay M 1
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stop being so clingy or it may lead to the end of ur relationship. and dont talk 2 him about it cos he may get upset .just join in the conversation or look away and take deep breaths.
2006-12-22 00:13:27
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answered by cassandraajufoh26 2
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