The saga begins..?

Question

My BF and I have been together for 4.5 yrs. We live together,no kids and 5 yr.age difference Im older and I've just recently went from 150mg of effexor to 75mg. hasnt even been 6 weeks yet. This arguement all started when for the 3rd yr. in a row I have not had anything to unwrap on Christmas Day. his sister says Doesnt he do enough for you throughout the yr?.Of Course he does! Never would I think or say otherwise.But C'mon would a gift at the dollar store kill him? I never ever asked for an expensive gift, Im not like that.But he has paid the bills throughout our time together including car ins. & my credit card bill with both of purchases on it.Give me an empty box but at least wrap it first..

Answer 1

You have every right to feel let down--again--by no Christmas present. But this isn't a new problem and the indications are that, while it bothers you, you accept it and need to vent and that's fine too--this is a good place to do that. I'd judge there is resentment toward you on the part of the sister and maybe the guy too. Looks as though there are, in the popular parlance, "issues" that you all have (we used to call them "problems") that need to be aired and settled.

Answer 2

You have accepted this for years, although you don't like it by staying with him, you have given him the message that's it's okay. If it means that much to you leave him, but think about the real meaning of Christmas. It's not about a lot of presents

Answer 3

You are working yourself up over something you cant and he WONT change so you should find something else to be upset over.You should feel fortunate that he helps you thru-out the year considering all the guys who sit on their butts and suck their girlfriends wallets &/bank accct's dry.....besides it isnt whether you get .........it's what you give that matters.