All of my life, my parents and I had these fights and arguements, and they all end up with them saying that I don't understand anything. Also, they all end up stating as to what my mother says; that I am a messed up kid with no goals in life. You can all see why I don't want to cause and make trouble for anyone with my experience of being a screw up and a mess up all at once.
2006-12-21 23:45:10 · 15 answers · asked by Louise Smith 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your parents love you unconditionally, and they are looking out for your welfare and what's best for you.
Your parents want you to be happy and successful in life, so you should listen to them.
Hopefully your parents also praise your good qualities!
Perhaps they see the potential inside of you, and are worried about you.
My dad always told me that the older I get, the smarter he will seem to me and he was absolutely right!
Remember, your parents are people, too, and we all have our faults.
No one is perfect.
But out of all the people in the world, your parents are the only people who will love you no matter what!
2006-12-21 23:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by ghostwriter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother used to say "You can't" do so many things. I believed that for a long time, but finally I realized it was because she was unhappy with her life. I pushed forward and got my degree. Now I have a great job in a foreign country. I travel a lot. I have friends from all over the world. Don't listen to your parents. Look towards the future. Do your best in school now so you can go to college and prove to yourself that you are not messed up.
2006-12-22 08:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by Laoshu Laoshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be able to answer this question without knowing the reason(s) you're parents say you're screwed up. With that, I suggest you work on whatever it is they have a problem with. Really do the best you can and if you truely feel that what they're saying isn't true, try not to let them get to you. I hope you find the answer(s) you're looking for. Oh, and talk to your parents, ask them what it is you don't undertsand and how they can help you understand it.
2006-12-22 07:54:59 · answer #3 · answered by miss_lady404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of this is part of growing up. I don't know of any teenager who doesn't argue with their parents, but it is how you resolve those issues that is important. Your parents job is to raise you to the best of their ability and to teach you the steps to take through life to help you acheive your goals. Listen to your parents...they have already been through what you are going through and they're alot smarter than you think they are. They are trying to protect you and keep you safe. Try saying the words "I'm sorry" to them. Those 2 words can be very healing. It would be the mature and the right thing to do. Try apologizing and asking to start fresh. This would be good for all of you.
2006-12-22 10:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a teenager, I went through the same thing with my parents. I am now 28 years old and actually I know quite a bit about life. Be yourself and make yourself happy dont let them put you down because its too painful. Think positive about things. I have always been the one to prove my parents wrong, every time i would be told that i was worthless and wouldnt amount to anything, i tried my hardest to show them that they were wrong. Dont let it get you down, its only going to make you stronger in the long run.
2006-12-22 07:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I listened to my parents ***** and moan about me for 10 years after i graduated from highschool. I had come to believe i was as worthless, dumb and rotten as they said i was.
Then, I distanced myself from them, started college, with a social work major degree as my goal. After the first semester, i was shocked that i passed in the upper 10% of my classes.
I was jazzed by this, could hardly wait to start the next semester, continued working harder every semester and graduated with a 4yr degree in less than 3 years.
After graduation I found employment using my degree, but didn't stop pursuing my education. 2 years later I earned a masters Degree. When I received my masters, I was promoted at work and became my former boss's supervisor.
I continued my educational pursuits for another 5 years earned my Doctorate Degree. I have a great job and i'm happy with what i've done with my life.
My parents never had a clue what i was doing with my life over the years. They thought i was working some menial job of one kind or another because, I had had very little contact with them over the years.
This past thanksgiving I visited with my parents and siblings, my mother who is great at making people feel bad, opened her loud mouth and said all the kids but Debbie (me) have done something with their lives. Then she asked me when i was going to get a life and do something useful.
I just started laughing at her. I excused myself went out to my car and grabbed all my framed degree's and brought them in to show her and dad. Told everyone what i'd been doing with my life and where i worked.
If they didn't believe anything i said about my career and current life they could call the hospital and verify this information. After about an hour I left and went home. Just a 20 minute drive from my parents home.
For the first time in my parents life they were SPEECHLESS, i haven't heard a word good or bad out of their mouths since that day. Although i've had alot of conversations with my brothers and sisters who haven't been close in very many years.
Parents are often more trouble than they are worth, i wouldn't take to heart everything they say. Above all else don't let it stop you from believing in yourself.
2006-12-22 08:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parent should not tell a child some thing like that they r the one that messed up and u r the one that to prove them wrong and try to find some one that u LOOK up to and go and talk to them and let them help u with you problem OK
2006-12-22 07:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is a screw-up. Lots of young people haven't decided what they're going to do with their lives. Maybe a school counselor could help you with this. And you may be able to get the encouragement you need and deserve from other adults, perhaps at church. Hang in there.
2006-12-22 08:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly I don't know you, and you didn't give any info on yourself. My question to you is...Have you ever given this accusation your mother accuses you of some thought? Do you understand her? Do you have goals? What are they? If what she is saying is untruthful, try explaining your goals, if you can't get another adult involved who does understand you to explain it to her. Someone she respects. Communication is so hard, and sometimes us parents just don't understand where you are coming from. Give her a chance.
2006-12-22 07:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by lkjsigns1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents like to nag and it lowers their kid's self-esteem. Just ignore it. They're just words of anger. Go get into a really good college to show them you DO have goals and will succeed in life.
2006-12-22 07:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋