my father remarried 5 years ago at the age of 73, my new stepmother is manic depressive and dad gave her power of medical attorney ,yesterday she took away the right of all of us children to get medical info on my father from hospice because of a simple power struggle she has going, she refuses to notify any of us about anything that is going on with my father, mu father fell and broke his ribs and she notified none of his children
2006-12-21 23:18:51 · 14 answers · asked by rainey77200 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Can she do this, yes. But you can contest this in court, I would.
2006-12-21 23:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-28 11:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to an atty TODAY! He may never recover. Because she is his wife, she can REFUSE treatments for your dad. She can sign a DNR order and let him pass, if his condition is that serious. Until you get the atty in action, consider speaking with the facility's pastor. He might agree to speak with her on your behalf and diffuse the current situation. If it does, keep working with the atty. I see this happen in the ICU all the time. Make sure the charge nurse is aware of your situation. She can't change anything, but she needs to know your side of what is going on. This time it sounds like you have time to act, next time you might not. Pay attention to the meds he is taking. Look online at why someone might be getting those meds. Once your father gets home, make sure you are all calling or going to see him every day. Work together to make sure you know he is well and where he should be. Most of all, when speaking with your stepmom, remain calm. People will usually mirror your reactions.
2006-12-21 23:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a touchy situation where she somehow got under the wire on you all. I would get an attorney with all of you responsible, a class action and present this to a judge, this may open it up if you can prove she mentally depressive IE: she's getting or going for treatment, then she cannot oversee someone else that's oppressive naturally. Everything may have to go through the court after this.
2006-12-21 23:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the single most important piece of information already -your dad is dying. He is so near death that he is in hospice. What else do you need to know? Your problem is not a lack of information, it is a lack of acceptance of a gruesome fact - your dad is going to die very soon. It's far easier to be snotty with his new wife than it is to deal with the pain of a dying father. Sounds like you "children" took the easy route.
Stay out of a power struggle that you will lose. Call the hospice, tell them who you are and just provide information. They cannot tell you anything, but you can tell them a lot.
Go visit your father. Spend as much of your time as possible loving him instead of competing with his wife. When you see her at the hospice, be nice to her. She is the one he chose.
You are allowed to have childish feelings, but you must display adult behavior - compassion, courtesy, service, duty, honor, etc.
2006-12-21 23:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she can, but it is true you can fight this in court, but you would have to do it fast, it is obvious there is not much time, because hospice is now involved. i think i would talk to a lawyer, even it is to late to know much about his medical issues, she can keep any of his family she wants to from attending his funeral as well. beside the fact if he has any property or things like that there is a good chance that none of his family will see that stuff either. so you had better get the ball rolling now because this could take time. good luck. sorry that you are going through this.
2006-12-21 23:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be that your new stepmother somehow tricked your dad into giving her power of attorney privilages. So yes, I would most definately talk to my attorney RIGHT AWAY if I was you.
2006-12-21 23:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, she has the right to do this. By law she's his wife and he appointed her his power of attorney.
2006-12-22 01:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As his wife, she has every right. I went through something very similar.If you feel she is not mentally capable of handling this get an attorney.
2006-12-21 23:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by shyone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she has the legal power of attorney, i would ask that question to a lawyer. you may be able to fight it. good luck.
2006-12-21 23:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can fight this. Just contact a lawyer (you can at least get a free consultation).
2006-12-21 23:29:53 · answer #11 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋