my little sister has just turned 13 and i have just found out that she slept with her boy friend! she is now regreting it and is getting called all sorts of names on the street! she cryes her self to sleep every nite! what do i do? do i tell my parents?
2006-12-21 22:24:18 · 47 answers · asked by natalie g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes tell your parents and make sure the boy she slept with gets in trouble. I think your sister has learnt her lesson the hard way and I'm sure she'll behave herself in future.
2006-12-21 22:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sianny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as im sure you are aware 13 is to young to be sleeping with someone. im happy to here that she regrets it, but i wonder if she regrets the act or the fact that she is being called names because of it.i think that i would talk to her, see why she regrets it, if it is because of the act it self then i would talk to her and tell her that what she did can not be changed that now she needs to learn from it. but if the reason is because of the name calling then i would try to get her to tell your parents and if she wont then i would. the reason for this is because she is not bothered by the fact she had sex at such a young age and it is wrong. so that would lead me to think she would do it again.now for this kid she slept with.how old is he? i think if i were you, i would confront him about it. i dont know if your a male or a female, but i would let him know that him sleeping with her was a big mistake but talking about it to others was an even bigger mistake and that he had better watch his back.put a little scare into him, if he is 16 or older i think no mater why your sister is upset i would tell your parents because it is against the law for him to have had sex with her. but after confronting this kid, right in front of his buddies that he was bragging to,i would say something like { i dont know why your bragging, she said you dont have much, so you should not be bragging, or she said you were not that good any way, or say the next time you decide to brag to anyone about having sex you should hope that you can last for more than a min.. or say the reason my sister is not bragging about it is because you did not have much to work with so why bother bragging.lol see how he likes that.
2006-12-21 23:26:00 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's mature enough to bump uglies with the local rat boy, she's mature enough to deal with the local rat girls. I know that sounds harsh, but she has to learn to deal with the problems *she* makes...
Don't tell your parents though, I think the poor thing's suffering enough! She does need someone responsible to talk to, and if you grass her up she will never trust you again! At least if she sees you on her side, she will listen to your advice... However, would telling them she's being bullied be enough for a change of schools? A new start may be just what she needs. Make sure she has the number of the local family panning clinic as well, unless you fancy being an aunt...
2006-12-21 23:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your little sister has made a mistake and she regrets it.(That is a big part of growing up) She will learn from her mistakes and she'll wait longer next time before she has sex. This is something that she is just going to have to live through. We've all lived through things like this!
I suggest taking her to the health department and getting her some condoms and other birth control, and having some councelling from the health department or planned parenthood.
Good Luck
2006-12-21 22:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Apparently her boyfriend ran off at the mouth bragging about everything. He's rotten. needs a beatin.
Try to help your sister by talking to her. Parents could go ballistic and cause all sorts of problems for her. She could deny she did this and just ignor the people making the comments.
After awhile they will find they can't annoy her and she can get on with her life. But for sure watch over her, talk to her often. if all else fails in a week or two talk to your mom about this.
But above all else be kind.
2006-12-21 22:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
To be honest I think it would be of no help at all to tell your parents, after all everyone in life must make their own mistakes and learn from them. She is also probably upset anough as it is and doesn't need further shame.
Be kind. Take to her about how she is feeling, does she feel she did the wrong thing? Has she spoken to her boyfriend about this? Its most important that she can get her feelings clear now and be able to communicate with him about them. Maybe she doesn't want to have sex again for the moment and wants to take a step back and wait until she feels ready. Then if that's the case she must face up to what's happened, be nice to herself, and make a positive decision about what she will or won't do in the future.
Failing that, if she is really messed up about it, she could visit a nice friendly counsellor at your local sexual clinic for a warm chat and advice.
Look after her and leave the parents out of it. It's her life and her future. x
2006-12-22 10:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
no don't tell your parents, your sister should be respected, you yourself can try to be there for her by talking to her about it. the name calling will soon pass and she will get over it but if you tell your parents she may never forgive you for breaking her trust and it may cause all sorts of problems in the relationship between her and your parents.
most people nowadays have sex around that age, i did and many of my friends also. maybe she did it for the wrong reasons through pressure, and this is just a bad experience for her. its no big deal, just be there for her, this is just another lesson in life she will learn from, it will make her stronger.
that so called boyfriend is clearly worth no time at all, and that is also something she will work out for herself.
you seem like a caring sister so she's lucky to have you.
2006-12-22 00:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by sasha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For fear of your parents finding out from someone else I don't think that you should tell your parents I think that she should. Your parents are going to be angry but it will sound better coming from her than them finding out from someone else.
You could be there when your sister tells them, as her support but she should tell them.
The thing is how old was her boyfriend because your parents will want to find out if she was forced into it etc.
But the only thing you can do is be there for your sister be there for her to talk to, stand up for her against these people that are calling her names. But if I were you you should talk to her about telling your parents, you never know once she has told her family she might feel better about things, as mum's have a habit of making bad situations seem a lot better
2006-12-21 22:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did she really want to sleep with him or did he coerce her into it? How much older than her was he? If he was considered of legal age you might want to tell your parents because that's statutory rape as your sister isn't legally old enough to give consent. You should also see about helping her get some couseling. Do your best to support her during this time.
2006-12-22 00:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by Laoshu Laoshi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt tell, you sister is going through enough stress at the moment, without your parents on her back telling her what she has done is stupid. I think you should help her out, but dont tell your parents. She will feel worse and it wont help the situation. Be there and support and stick up for her.
2006-12-22 01:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋