Plzz Help me out...I m not sure what to do in this situation??

Question

Hi all, 2 years back i started friendship with one of my classmates.I knew her before but as a classmate only.We became very close frends (U can say I m her best friend among boys).we spent some wnderful moments together..and finally I fell in love with her.She said that she never thought of me like this. she has only seen me as a frend.But our friendship still continues till this date.She herself knows that how much I love her...keeps telling me that I shuouldn't love her that much because I will be hurt later.She knows that I can do any thing for her.She says that she never experience that love feeling regarding me.She tells that inspite of me loving her immensly she is just not able to imagine us as a couple.Sometimes she also feels bad abt it and tells me.I dunno what to do yaar.I have even said that I m ready to marry U whenevr u say,but no answer yaar what to do..She is just not ready to commit myself.btw v both are 24 years old . Plzz advise me wat to do.i can do nething for her

The Point is I even tried stop talking to her..But then she cries and says that what is her mistake if I love her and she doesn't?? Then again only I have to console her and ask for forgiveness.She is so used to my ILUs that if dont speak after ending a conversation she says is there a Problem?? i dont know whether to leave her or be her friend

I dont know but cant find a better girl than her...she's all over my mind and I have never forced her to Love me. btw how can I stop loving her as i almost talk to her daily...its very difficult..almost impossible

Answer 1

I suuport ur friend.
because as she said u will be hurt for this in the future.
If urs is a true love impress as much as u can.

Answer 2

Man !!! Read it carefully and please follow this with trust:
1. When a girl says like that.. this means she does not hv that love-feeling for you. She'll always ask for your help/favor from you but she'll keep looking for a some other soulmate as lover too.. in parallel.

2. She can never say this in clear words.. bcoz she fears that u might get hurt. but she is trying slowly n steadily to let you realise that you are needed in her life but never as lover.

3. Even if she says "Yes" to you in future, that will be just because she doen't find anyone else and at last she COMPROMISED !!!

4. Stop asking her the same thing again n again.. this is degrading your own value in her eyes. Stand up and be yourself, and let her understand that you no longer want to be the "last resort/choice" of her.

5. Start maintaining a little distance from her to let her realise that now you r all set to go away form her life. This may do some miracle. Distances teach us many things.

6. Work hard on your own Market-value : flourish in your career, be wanted by many others, be successful and these things will follow.

And the TOPMOST POINTS:

Girls want to follow boys, who donot follow them desperately, such boys look CHEAP actually.
Girls want those, who are already in demand !! bcoz their market value is high.
If you value yourself, others will value you.
Be SUCCESSFUL in LIFE first.

Answer 3

Well, man, the first thing is to get a solid understanding of yourself. Love yourself first and foremost and you will be able to be loved by others. Also you should get your basic fundamentals down, like spelling. It's discouraging for others to want to help when people don't do their best to help themselves. Little things like spelling, believe it or not will make the whole picture better in the end. That's the same as relationships. If you want a beautiful one, than you'll have to pay attention to the fine details on what makes one another tick.

Love is sweetest when you are ready. Perhaps you'll get there someday. All the best to your future.

Answer 4

Dump her and move on. She is being a manipulative biatch. She is giving you mixed messages when she is really telling you "There is no chance in hell that we are getting together."

You need to start treating her like crap because that's what she wants. If she cries enough for you, then you've done your job, and she will start to do anything she can to please you.

You are psycho for asking her to marry you. You are not taking her feelings into account when you do this. You are just pushing yourself onto her and it's very psychotic. Love should be balanced. You should only consider marrying someone if she has the same amount of love for you. You are borderline stalker and you need to think about what you're doing and what you're saying.

You need to start treating her like crap. Then, maybe she will come around.

Answer 5

Pretty tough situation, the only thing you can do is go for another girl. This may change the dynamic in your existing relationship. The original girl may realize what she is missing out on alternatively she may be happy for you and find a fella of her own. Very tough situation. But if she doesn't love you or think of you in that way there is nothing you can do. And do you really want to marry a women who doesn't love you - can only lead to ruin.
Tough luck pal. Move on-

Answer 6

I hope it wont upset you but I think you have to think twice about this relation ,you shouldnt continue loving someone who avoids loving you or being committed to you ..plz try to find someone to appreciate your love and honesty .She is a nice girl to be your friends but you cant count on her as a very good life partner or lover..
I think she was sincere when she said that loving her would ending up hurting you .

Dont go further and stay out of being a heart broken ,depressed young guy!

Answer 7

I think it is time that u faced the fact that probably nothing will ever happen between yous. she has made her self very clear. if you continue on like this, trying to convince her to go out it will become more and more uncomfortable and you may risk damaging your friendship. If you feel this way about her u have to think do u really want to risk this friendship? it is not fair on both of you and u deserve to find someone who will return that love

Answer 8

Maybe she is just not ready to get into a relationship
If she just sees you as a friend
I suppose you find someone else
There are way better girls out there who will love you
If you really want her then i guess you just have to make her jealous to see what she feels about
Try going out with some other girl and see how she feels =)
Good Luck =)

Answer 9

She is a true friend. Let her remain as a real friend. Understand the meaning of friendship and love. Realise and analise the situation. Don't become a nuisance to her. Search another girl who lover you.

Answer 10

I think you should try to ignore him. After doing so she will try to contact you, at that time donot talk too long try to finish the conversation quickly. As u said after doing so she cry at that time apoloziez and finish the conversation quickly.

Now try to contact him less for eg if u talk him 8 times try to talk him 2 or 3 and to make him jealous try to conversate with any other at the time of conversation in fake ( she must understood that u are talking with any other girl).
Its a challenage she will dismissed the call and talk to you somewhat in rudlymanner.
try this its works.
if its work reply me.

Answer 11

only one think i can tell u. u cant force anyone to love you. you both was good friends. and she wanted to keep the friendship. but you are loving her. if you are loving her then you have to understand her feeling and you have to respect it. even if she is friend also u have to do it. so as she likes you just be a good friend to her. if she loves you in future then u can think about getting marriage or whatever the think you want. till that u have to accept her as ur friend. cos she want to be a good friend to u. and she is expecting only friendship from you. not love. anyway take care of your self. bye