Met for a first date last night. Have been married twice, two very long term relationships and never cheated. I slept with him, first date and I screwed up badly. What must he think of me. Be gentle on my soul please, am I on a path to self destruction. The rejection I suffered with my ex leaving, is that what it was all about?
2006-12-21 21:35:08 · 24 answers · asked by Andrea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Andrea sweet punkin pie you need to start closing your legs and give yourself sometimes to heal! Your going into one relationship after the other, well what your doing is setting yourself up for failure, sweety, you need to do some soul searching and find yourself, not in no guy nomatter how good he looks, but focus all your attention on your needs, give yourself at least two or three years for your next relationship, your tooooo dependent on men, cutie,, ok, you live in a population where its infested with males and you choose any guy you want, so dont worry about if their will be any single men if you decide to give dating a rest, ok...
2006-12-21 21:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave him everything he wanted. He thinks you're a cool chick. You didn't screw up. Don't let anybody else tell you otherwise. I wish all girls were like you, but you have a problem maintaining a relationship.
You need to take a good look at yourself and see what you need to change in yourself to maintain a good relationship. Yes. It's you. What was the common factor in your previous marriages? It's you. What made both of them leave you? Find a common factor, and stop doing whatever it is that made them leave.
Also, another important factor that most women overlook or ignore are physical traits. If you put on some weight, lose it. If you cut off your hair, grow it back. Try to look nice and be a desirable woman, even after you get married.
2006-12-21 21:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a question of what he thinks but rather what you think. You can not hold yourself responsible for character flaws, yours or theirs, regarding your past relationships.. If you gave your all and it did not work out so be it. Some men are not meant to be in a life long relationship. If you begin by worrying about pleasing him it is doomed to fail. Start by being you. If he is interested ok. More importantly be happy with yourself. If sex is what you are after then again so be it. Somewhere down the line the right man will be there for you. As you already know many relationships are just a small part of life long journey. You will continue to hurt and question why. That is just a part of your makeup. Just don't give up because others are not willing to give their all.
2006-12-21 21:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all make silly mistakes hun. You've been through some tough times and psychologically you probably didnt even realise what the implications of your actions would be.
if you feel this bad about it why dont you text the guy from last night explaining that you dont normally behave like this and you're a bit embarrassed and hopes he doesnt think youre too easy etc - a genuine guy will reply and put your mind at ease immediately - if he was only out for one thing then you'll know by his response.
Good luck xx
2006-12-21 21:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be the start of something great- is it better to sleep with someone on your 8th date and then only see each other for a couple more or sleep with someone your first date and have a long relationship.
Chill and go with it. Could be the best move of your life.
2006-12-21 21:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by hugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont beat yourself up, he was probably just as nervous and is wondering now. I know I have felt like that in the past when I have been with a new partner, always wondering afterwards. Chill out dont stress and see what happens, life is to short and things will work out fine.
2006-12-21 21:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself. Didn't you enjoy each others company? If he is any kind of gentleman, he will think you are even more wonderful than you were to him before. And if not? You just had a great night in good enough company but not good enough to go any further with you. What's for you will not go by you (good old granny words). Be kind to yourself, it shows on the outside.
2006-12-21 21:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by rondavous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel so bad about it its not like you do it all the time you've just been out of the dating game a while and sounds to me like the last relastionship you had you felt like crap
you probably love3d the attention you got and got carried away dont worry about it your not the 1st just put it down to experience and if he doesnt call back hes the looser not you ya never know what will happen in the future so just have fun but be careful
2006-12-21 22:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you screwed up so what? Andrea, don't put yourself down, there are millions out there that will do that for you. I bet you both had a great evening that ended in showing your love for each other in bed. If he's anything like a gentleman, he'll call you and want to see you again.
I bet you are a great girl to know. He'll call believe me.
2006-12-21 21:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by The Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad about it. I did the same thing when I left my first husband. Yes I think the rejection had a lot to do with it and it did for me to. There are better days ahead for you just try and take it slower and build a good relationship with someone. Good luck, I will be thinking about you.
2006-12-21 21:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋