what would you do as i really love him but his family will never let him marry a non muslim girl i dont really understand muslim reglion and would like to speak to someone about it.
2006-12-21 21:21:47 · 40 answers · asked by Jane F 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Jane, honey, listen to me very carefully.
First of all, I'm guessing this guy is an immigrant, who needs to get a green card. He'd be sucking up to you for everything, right now.
But, once he gets what he wants, he'll become a very different person, believe you me.
If you want to test it out, tell him, very firmly, that you can't change your Religion and think that if he really loves you, he can do that, instead.
You'll find out, soon enough how little he loves you.
Islam's not for you, Jane.
We are culturally too different for you to get on with it.
Take my advise and move on in life.
Some day, you'll thank me for having told you this.
Merry Christmas!!!!
2006-12-21 21:31:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 7⤋
Muslim men can marry Muslim women, Christians or Jews but it is preferred that they marry Muslim women or if they marry a non believer that the non believer become a Muslim as the children belong to the husband and will be raised Muslims.
2006-12-22 05:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by robedzombiesoul 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a lot of good answers here, but I'll throw in my two cents.
First of all, if you want to know about Islam, you have to know what THEY say... and then you have to know what they MEAN.
visit http://www.faithfreedom.org
Islam can be a scary religion- definitely do NOT convert and only agree to marry him as long as the children are NOT raised muslim. If he loves you, he will agree.
2006-12-24 19:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi jane. i am a muslim woman living in london, UK. First of all, according to quraan, you dont have to concvert to islam so that he marries but its his parents that want so, so that he wont fall in cultural problems and then when raising the kids. you need to ask him that if he really wants you and that you ereally both love each other and have the same vlues and ways of thinking then u can go on and inshallah(in god will) no problems wil there be. but its maybe he doesnt want to make his parents angry.... you should understand this,.. but if he is really willing to marry you, then go with it... you have to know that according to quraan, no person can MAKE you to become a muslim, its only GOD who can enlighten someone path.. plus it sould be from within you, your heart your mind who want to convert... not just cz he wants u to do so....
anyway think about this deeply, and if u have any question email me at ramhi2004@yahoo.com
love and peace
2006-12-22 05:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by hib hib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right. You shouldn't have to change who you are to be accepted. If you want to find out information, go to someone who isn't Muslim, but knows about the religion. That way there won't be a hidden agenda from the person you are speaking with. Really be sure you want to change religions before you jump into it.
2006-12-21 22:15:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you want correct advice and proper guidance consult somebody who knows the religion. If you ask a general question, biased people will speak against and many may advise favourably. So take your own time and get expert analysis of the religion from the experts in the field and if you are then satisfied go ahead. Love knows no barriers of religion, border, caste creed etc. Yet you seem to be sensitive and decide after full satisfaction.
2006-12-21 21:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by khayum p 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen to these people about slaves and all that. I really don't know what advice to give you, but if you don't have a problem with it, then I don't see the problem in converting. Nothing is going to change, it's just easier for his family if you do. It would make everything more easier. But this is all your choice. Just think about this. I don't think anyone should tell you what you should do.
2006-12-22 11:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply because religion Islam to Muslims is the only true religion,
the old folks will never allow a muslim to marry a non muslim.
If you really love him, no harm convert to muslim. Trust me ,you will never regret it.
2006-12-22 00:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by S.K. Chan46 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are many sites that offer advice on how to become Muslim. Try Google.
But to answer your question I would say no, don't do it. Presumably you are in the UK and over 16 - then there is nothing to stop you from being legally married without his or your parents' consent.
I sounds like your boyfriend isn't as strict as his parent otherwise he wouldn't go out with someone who isn't Muslim in the first place. What does he think? Does he really need to live by his parents' ideals?
Hope it works out, but remember it is a strict religion that treats women as second-class citizens.
2006-12-21 21:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mad Professor 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
A Muslim man can marry a Muslim, Christian or Jewish woman. If his family forbids him to marry a non-Muslim woman, then they are not practicing Islam properly.
I am married to a Muslim man and I am treated very well. I moved to his country and I am free here, I have rights and I see no misconduct towards women here.
If you want more information, email me anytime.
2006-12-21 23:19:48 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Where do you two live? In western world, it's a free country and if he wants to marry you, his family can't prevent this to him. If he has to, let him break connections to his family and start living by the western virtues - this will also be a good guarantee that he won't treat you like his slave and one day kill you because you look at another man in a wrong way.
2006-12-21 21:35:33 · answer #11 · answered by Ymmo the Heathen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋