why do women say go out with your friends and when you come home they flip out?

Question

I had a few gf's who said go on out with your friends have fun when one would call. Mind you it wasn't all the time. I wasn't cancelling any plans and would invite them to go. Then when I came home they would be total bitc#s. Are they bored and need drama? Are they just trying to pick a fight for the make up loving? This was a few years ago I learned from it minute they start to nag kick them to the curb!

Answer 1

I guess you're between girls right now, and need to reminisce to feel "normal", huh?

There was a lot more to it then you're saying. Admit it, or stop nagging. (By the way nagging IS revisiting old issues, instead of allowing them to die a natural death. Like you're doing here.)

Answer 2

What are you doing when you go out? Any woman with reasonable intelligence knows the fastest way to lose, or even just discourage a man is to make him feel "trapped"by not givivng him some freedom. However, he must be trusted. If he is, there should never be an issue. Chillin with friends and coming home, no prob! Cheating and/or misbehaving will cause a well deserved screamin at! If you're not doing anything wrong, which seems to be the case, then you're absolutely right to bounce them out, asap!! Good Luck, keep up the good work!

Answer 3

She says: She really means:
Fine : This is the word women use at the end of any argument when they feel they are right but can't stand to hear you argue any longer. It means that you should shut up. (Never use "fine" to describe how she looks. This will cause you to have one of those arguments.)

Five Minutes : This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so women feel that it's an even trade.

Nothing: Nothing means something and you should be on your toes. Nothing is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down and backwards. Nothing usually signifies an argument that will last Five Minutes and end with the word Fine.

Go Ahead (with raised eyebrows):
This is not permission; it's a dare! If you mistake it for permission, the result will be the woman will get upset over Nothing and you'll have a Five Minute discussion that will end with the word Fine.

Go Ahead (with normal eyebrows):
This is not permission, either. It means "I give up" or "Do what you want because I don't care." You will get a raised eyebrow Go Ahead in just a few minutes, followed by Nothing and Fine and she will talk to you in about Five Minutes when she cools off.

Loud Sigh: This is not actually a word, but is still often a verbal statement. Very frequently misunderstood by men. A Loud Sigh means she thinks you are a complete idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over Nothing!

Soft Sigh Again: not a word, but a verbal statement. Soft Sighs are one of the few things that some men actually understand. It means she is momentarily content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe in the hope that the moment will last a bit longer.

Oh : This word - followed by any statement - is trouble. Example: "Oh, let me get that". Or, "Oh, I talked to him about what you were doing last night." If she says Oh before a statement, run, do not walk, to the nearest exit. She will tell you that she is Fine when she is done tossing your clothes out the window, but do not expect her to talk to you for at least two days. (Oh as the lead to a sentence usually signifies that you are caught in a lie. Do not try to lie more to get out of it, or you will get a raised eyebrow Go Ahead, sometimes followed by acts so unspeakable that I can't bring myself to write about them.)

That's Okay : This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can say to a man. That's Okay means that she wants to think long and hard before deciding what the penalty will be for whatever you have done. That's Okay is often used with the word Fine and in conjunction with a raised eyebrow Go Ahead. Once she has had time to plan it out, you are in for some mighty big trouble.

Please Do : This is not a statement, it is an offer. The woman is giving you the chance to come up with an excuse for what you have done. In other words, a chance to get yourself into even more trouble. If you handle this correctly, you shouldn't get a That's Okay.

Thanks : The woman is thanking you. Don't faint and don't look for hidden meaning. Just say, "You're welcome."

Thanks A Lot : Thanks A Lot is dramatically different from Thanks. A woman will say Thanks A Lot when she is really ticked off at you. It is usually followed by the Loud Sigh. This signifies that you have hurt her in some callous way. Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the Loud Sigh, as she will only tell you Nothing.

Answer 4

Maybe when you come home you are drunk and act like an ********.

Conflict like this probably symbolises other problems in the relationship. They are finding a time when they feel you have less right to argue back to have an argument.

Personally I would probably do something like send them a text-message while I am out and say hi.
or
When you are going out, plan another day with your girlfriend. Like, hey, I am going out tonight, but tomorrow, lets go and see a play, movie, dancing, walk in the park or something.

Answer 5

depends how far into the relationship u are. Maybe they just want to impress you so they say go out - have fun, but don't really mean it in their hearts. Also depends on whether u take advantage of the situation or not. 'Go out with your friends" doesn't mean go and have fun and flirt around and come home in the wee hours of the morning.

Answer 6

In a way, you're correct! They should have been honest with you about going out with your friends. But, did you get home really late and drunk too! maybe, if they are bored than you should take your gf out more often!

Answer 7

It's a test, "Does he love me enough to give up something he really wants to do, and stay home with me instead?" Unfortunately, you never had a chance. It wouldn't have mattered
if you came home at 11:00, or 3:00, she didn't want you to go to begin with.

Answer 8

Probably started to worry about what you were doing... and probably didn't really mean it to begin with... sort of like, "Fine, go out with your friends"- and then thinking, "I can't BELIEVE he's doing that"... don't think most of us mean to be that way but it can be pretty scary if you don't feel secure where you are...

Answer 9

YOU MUST NOT BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT...ARE YOU MAKING THEM FEEL WANTED AND MISSED....DOES SHE FEEL THAT YOU THOUGHT ABOUT HER WHILE YOU WERE GONE? INVITE YOUR NEXT OUT WITH THE GUYS, WHEN SHE FEELS THAT YALL ARE OUT HAVING HARMLESS FUN SHE WILL NO LONGER WORRY AND WILL PROBABLY JUST NOT CARE ANYMORE AS LONG AS YOU COME HOME AND LET HER KNOW HOW SPECIAL SHE IS....SMALL THINGS MATTER MOST...

Answer 10

They had no lives outside of you and they were very needy. Beware a woman who stops seeing her friends when you guys get together.