We dated for almost 3 years now & this year has been really tough. In the beginning of the year I wasn't really into him and I wanted to be away (bc he wasn't doing enough & so I had a crush on a guy [friendship only]). I didn't want it to be like that or more but he wasn't showing me affection. I told him what was going on and I NEVER lied to him about it. Even though my feelings wasn't the same I stay with him and walked away from temptation. Bc I love & cared about him & his feelings & what we est. within our families. Now, near the ending of the year he is doing something similiar to what I did to him but worse! He LIES and tries 2 cover things up. He's having his cake and eating it too! Tells me he wants 2 work it out later tells me he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now but still wants 2 be with me in the future. He wants me 2 come for xmas so does his family. He's not messing with that girl anymore. But hurt me a lot. Get him a gift or not? What kind?
2006-12-21 20:22:15 · 10 answers · asked by simply_complicated 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And all I really want from him is for him to realize that what we have is important bc I did. I just want him to show me that he cares with affection; I don't care about gifts. Although he already got me something. We got in an arguement today and his dad got mad at him for making me mad. I really don't want to be there on xmas day if he keeps playing with my emotions. But his family expects me to be there. I already bought him an inexpensive t-shirt that he already knows about compare to last year gifts. I really don't think he deserves a present but I don't want him to think that I don't care about him.
2006-12-21 20:32:22 · update #1
everyone deserves a gift. the cost depends on love i spose!
If its small love $2. if no love make him somethin!
2006-12-21 20:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a simple person, and I believe in being a good person no matter what other people are like.
I think that you shouldn't hang around with this guy.
But if you choose to go to the Christmas dinner with his family, get a gift. One thing is to gift a gift for the whole family, so it is not for any one person.
2006-12-21 20:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by flingebunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he's hurting you this bad, and making you so confused, and if you had it in you to want to leave, and by the sounds of it still do hunni, go get someone who will show you the love you deserve... Your honest, caring, loving, and you seem pretty damned devoted, don't worry about the Christmas presant, unless it's something that you feel you sooo need to do....
Maybe give yourself one, by leaving that part of your life behind, and starting a new...
Hope this helps,
Merry Christmas.
2006-12-21 20:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remove the cake & he can't do that anymore.
It has nothing to do with Christmas, that's just playing on your emotions.
How much more of your heart and your time do you wish to invest in this behavior?
You deserve better, leave him. It will hurt, but it will be the kind of hurt that brings healing, not the kind of hurt that tears you down and never goes away.
Take good care of yourself for Christmas, no one else can give you that.
Saying a prayer for you to see clearly and value yourself in this.
2006-12-21 20:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by gettin'real 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 02:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by lemanski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him, til he made up his mind of what he really wants in life and how he really feels; then call me. Don't go along doing whatever he wants like a puppet. You'll be sorry.
2006-12-21 20:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear....
Sounds like a polyester necktie with Red and White Stripes to me......
Namaste,
--Tom
2006-12-21 20:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you should get him one, something with a lot of meaning so he knows just how much you care about him,
good luck ( ;
2006-12-21 20:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no gift for him! if you are going to stay with him, that should be gift enough. he owes you.
2006-12-21 20:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by i♥sf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes no no no yes no maybe no no what no again no
2006-12-21 20:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by Sean 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋