It is a shame to see kids suffer with out love and dicipline no a days. Like little animals , unthankful, angry , no manners no self control no rules ! God help us because this is the generation that may be fighting for our country tomm. and tending us in a nursing home ect..Thank God for parents who still care to rear good children YEA ! Give yourselves a pat in the back.
2006-12-21 19:24:30 · 13 answers · asked by sunshine 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
it's hard - good parenting does not come natural to many. We want to be gentle and fair, but it's hard to do that and still create structure. It's something that needs a lot of effort.
Thankfully there are great resources like Gordon Neufeld's book Hold On To Your Kids - give it a read!
Hang out with families who have great kids - their parenting will rub off on you in a good way, and your kids won't pick up nasty habits.
2006-12-21 19:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by sheila 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I hear where your coming from. I don't think you are being a snot at all. Good manners are important. In fact, I tend to notice that kids that ask/thank tend to have less conflicts with other kids just because they communicate well. The ones that just take stuff are the ones that seem to cause the upsets. My daughter is 17months and my son is going to be 3 y/o next weekend. They are very well mannered. It is easy for them to pick it up because I make an effort to be polite and use good manners in the appropriate situation. It makes me laugh every time I think of when my son was almost 2 y/o. He sneezed and he says, "excuse me mommy". My daughter makes me laugh as well because she will be into something she shouldnt be and hold the item she has up and say "please mommy". I think my kids do it just so I will laugh at them and they won't get a time out lol. I think the biggest thing that baffles me is not so much the kids carrying out the bad actions, but the parents finding it is acceptable. Last December when we were in the mall doing some Christmas shopping, my husband took my son and daughter to the play center to have some fun. He couldn't believe how some of the kids treated the other kids, and he couldn't believe even more that the parents thought this was ok behavior. I had to explain to him that it is typical to have parents that are just oblivious to their kids actions. He couldn't get over it lol.
2016-05-23 14:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of people want to blame it on young parents. i am a young mother of three and all of my children know their manners because i have made them do it how hard it it to say please and thank you or to respect others i think it is all of the new thing company's are coming out with and parents just buy and kids tear it up parents don't make kids work for what they have any more i think that is crazy if they had to earn the money for it they would respect it more its Christmas time and i am sure that some parents are going all out way would you care if some one got u every thing u want
my five year old told Santa that he wanted Dr. Pepper shirt OR the cars movie and my sis could not believe that was it (cuz they go all out ) but i am glad at least he is learning that he can't have it all
2006-12-22 02:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by bird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now a days people think chatting with your child and trying to reason with your child is better. I was raised getting my butt spanked and know the consequences if i didn't listen to my mother or father. I have respect for my elders and everyone else. The only trouble i have ever been in is unpaid traffic tickets. I am a sharing person!! I raise and discipline my children the same way with a little differences!! My children are respectful and do as they are told from my 6 yr old to my 1 yr old, but i show my children love and care and try to spend as much time with them as i can as a single mother!!!! I am not going to lie they are typical boys and get in trouble but they know where the line is!!!
2006-12-21 20:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by noramom4life101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, people still try and teach their kids manners. The problem is many parents or adults in general lack manners themselves and the kids are just learning from how they see adults behave.
People have a tendency to think that it should be "do as I say not as I do", this is a fallacy because the best teaching tool is to lead by example.
2006-12-22 03:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer V 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A lot of parents today are not your typical parent. A lot of young parents that haven't even graduated from high school. More broken homes than what there used to be, causing the parents to fight or win over their children. They then forget the real reason as to why their parents. A lot of parents don't know how to disipline and or may be afraid that it may turn into something that its not or should be (like spanking). Some are drug and alcohol addicts. Such a shame to put these kids through that. My son is 4 and you bet he knows how to say please, thank you, your welcome and so forth. He opens the door for me, cleans up after himself, and just a joy to be around. A lot of parents keep their kids home, not exposing them to an environment that teaches them how to react to such influences or dilemmas. It's a mixture of lack of respect for themselves, selfishness, depression and lack of motivation and knowledge. They're lazy, insecure, and rude. TV is also a reason. A lot of parents use that as a form of babysitting. I don't know. It's a lot of things, lets just leave it at that.
2006-12-21 19:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by born2bfree 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Too many parents these days are concerned with being their child's buddy or best friend. A child needs a parent to teach them "Thank you", "Please" and I teach mine to say "Yes Ma'am".
I've sent packages, even money to people and never gotten so much of a "thank you" and sometimes I wonder if they even get the thing I've sent! It's rude.. it really is. I don't go along with blaming on how you're raised either.. I wasn't raised to say "Yes Ma'am" but I do it now myself because it's proper. Common sense needs to kick in at some point.
2006-12-22 00:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by Momto2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree, my daughter is 15 months old and she can say Please and Thank you, she is a very good mannered little girl. My husband and I were just talking last night about how children are rude and mean and dont listen to their parents. But manners is one thing that our daughter will have. I think its important.
2006-12-22 00:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some parents just don't care or are afraid to spank their kid s cuz they will go to jail well you wont go to jail if ya don't beat them that's a fact let someone try to tell me i cant spank my child if shes acting ridiculous because she cant have a toy but my child knows better and i don't even have to spank her never have!! but I'm sure there will come a day i know what you mean they rule their parents I'm only 21yrs old mom at 16 and another on the way i can honestly and proudly say we are good parents and we do discipline her when needed!!
2006-12-21 19:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you a parent? What age of children are you talking about?
I think a lot of those kids you are talking about are teens. And they are all mostly like that because they are hormonal, alien beings. Early 20's they straighten out and most will become the productive members of society their parents raised them to be.
I like to have a more positive view of humanity. I think MOST of the kids out there will grow into kind, caring people. Give them a chance!
2006-12-21 22:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by avalonlee 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋