Ok, I'm a 20 yr old guy. I feel so depressed and lonley these days espeically with xmas and the new yrs eve coming. every1 around me seems to be spending time wif their gf/bf, going away with friends, going on holidays etc etc..wheras i'm just always just stuck at home ..; S I've always had these kinda feelings but not so strognly as this yr~..Yes i know ..I always try to meet new ppl and open up to them, and help them and just be their good friends..but i never seem to be able to get someone who trully loves me...
I'm not showing off or anythig, but i've heard lots of comments from ppl saying that i'm good-looking and that i'm nice..so dn't think there' anything that i'm doing wrong to others..
But why isn't anything happening for me? why am i always feelings down ?? is it just matter of waiting? am i destined never to b happy? i've waited and waited but i just can't seem to be able to take it anymore.. ; S
2006-12-21 19:15:34 · 9 answers · asked by KKK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude, you're only 20. I'm 21 and also single. Right now, I'm really not in the position to look for a girlfriend. My living situation sucks and I'm a college student too. But anyway, as long as you have that attitude, you probably won't find a girlfriend. You have to realize you don't NEED a gf, you want one. You need to be happy with your life before you even consider looking for a gf, because most people will not want to associate with you if you are depressed all the time. Repeat this over and over until it sticks: "I like myself no matter what anyone else thinks of me." That should help a bit. And don't give up so soon. Unless you're a celebrity or something, you will probably get rejected 90% of the time. You have to be able to handle that much rejection! Good luck!
2006-12-21 19:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of us are probably meant to be loners. Lord knows I am. I'm 29 and only just now even trying to start the whole "dating" thing.
If you really want something to happen, though, you have to make it happen. You can't expect other people to do that for you.
One theory I've read recently, as I'm doing my own research into this area, is that "nice=desperate" and "desperate=not attractive to women". I don't know if its completely true, but it seems to hold some level of water, at least. If you put on an aura of "This is who I am, so either take me or leave me," you'll have a lot more success than simply being nice, at least if one is to believe these theories.
If it works for you, let me know. I'm still trying to decide if I like the idea.
Good luck.
2006-12-21 19:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by G A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey!!! Christmas is the time of hope and love. Yeah, i got many guy+girl friends around me, but i spend my time alone usually too. May get lonely, sure. Yet, let's not lose hope! Many said that you were good looking and nice, so why worry? You are not that old, c'mon! You say that you are old when your like late 30 or 40?
Cheer up!!!!! Everything takes time that is going to fruit great!
2006-12-21 19:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not suprised because I have experienced this recently last year too. All you have to do is talk to a person and become friendly and yes I agree that it will take quite some time to find a person who truly loves you. don't hesitate to call up some friends over to your house and be polite and hospitable and make sure that when you are around, they are happy and joyful.
2006-12-21 19:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by Albert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont say that at age 20!! Youve got decades of love ahead. Maybe youre not really ready for a relationship. Try just enjoying your friends happiness. dang i wish i was only 20yrs!
2006-12-21 19:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeze --you are 20 don't tell me that all of your friends are all married and sticks in the mud--Go out and have fun with your friends--Go to school or finish school get a great career going ,drive a hot car, buy a house in a wonderful location--Then just see what flocks your way---
2006-12-21 19:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the pointy hood thing is a turnoff?
2006-12-21 19:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are suffering from depression get help. you sound like my son actually.
2006-12-21 19:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is call depression. everyone goes through it. maybe it's not you. it's them
2006-12-21 19:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by deallin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋