If you had a family member who married into 'millions' call you cheap...?

Question

for gifts you gave them how would you respond?

This IS A REAL SCENARIO so only real answers please. I need assistance.

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Answer 1

Wow once they married to rich family and forgot about his/her own root.
I say you can forget about such person, when you visit them, they might think you want to borrow money "again".
My respond will be "I don;t need to take **** like that just because you got yourselve a golden "hole/sausage".
I don't need such family member, if I run into problem these people won't help you any way.

Answer 2

OMG! You have a real stinker of a relation on your hands. This person sounds superficial and two-faced.

If this came as a shock and you previousely thought that the two of you got on reasonably well then causing a huge scene would not benefit you or the rest of the family. I would raise the gift-giving topic in a conversation you guys have in future when there are others there too. Allude to a similair situation as yours and then comment on how "some rich folk actually look down on others who can't afford gifts to their expensive tastes". She (or He) will obviousely say something like "Yes, that's awful" or "it's the thoughts that counts" but they will know that you are on to them and they will feel like a pile of steaming ****. Make them squirm...

If you have always detested the person along with everyone else then confront them directly and tell them that you think they are trash and that they have zero class. Then never talk to the person again. The way this person is acting, I doubt they will be in the family much longer anyway...

Answer 3

It should not matter what they say to you, remember you have worked hard to pay for the gift you have given which to me says that thought had gone into the present and not just cash.
I think they are the sad one and if there is anything that splits people up it is money, either the lack of it or the fact that you have so much that your old friends are no longer good enough, once he/she gets into their "rich circle of friends" they will be like a fish out of water.
Live your life in the knowledge that you are at your level and happy with it no matter what happens, they are one sentence away from being back at your level "i no longer have feelings for you and i want a divorce" Then just see where they land.

Answer 4

Not everyone is in a position to afford to splurge on expensive gifts, and this new rich family member should more than understand that, especially since, she/he herself/himself, was not rich before marrying....its the thought that counts, so just ignore it, and give gifts from the heart whether it costs 10.00 or 1000.00 dollars the value is in the thought the person had for you.
Merry Christmas, and don't worry about people like that, let them talk, that shows you just where their hearts are....

Answer 5

well this is a intresting question, first let me say that if they said that to you are cheap, then next christmas buy a bag of charcoal and give them that and on the name tag put their name on it and from the cheapie. People get so ignorant over the holidays about gifts that they get. I would tell that family member that your present wasnt as cheap as her/his attitude was, and if he/she dont like the gift,thats on them, it was you that went out and took the time to think about getting that person a gift from your heart and if they cant accept what you did for them, thats something they have to live with .....not you.

Answer 6

Don't buy them anything any more. Crap like this is what I hate about the Christmas season. Those ungrateful bastards should be glad anyone gives a **** about them.

Try spending Christmas watching someone you love suffer from cancer. Spend Christmas in a house with no thermostat. Both are very real and both happened to me. After situations like that you begin to forget about material crap.

To be honest I can't think of one thing I want from anyone for christmas.

Answer 7

I have an uncle who's rather well-to-do, and he's a great guy and all -- but one problem with him is, because he has a lot of money, he seems to assume that everyone else has a lot of money too.

Maybe something similar is going on with your family member.

Depending on how long ago he/she "married into millions," he/she may have forgotten what it's like to be a normal working stiff with a normal-sized bank account.

I would low-key it, and just say something like, "Well, it's not much, but I hope you like it."

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Answer 8

There are no cheap gifts (there are inexpensive) BUT there are cheap people. Now a cheap person from my point of view is the one who sacrifice his values for more expensive toys. After all presents are a gesture of love and not a competition of "who spent the most". And a last thing my friend. If you check the persentage of your income you spent for his present you will definately see that you spent a lot more than he did for your present. Cheers.

Answer 9

I would say that it's the thought that counts. If that doesn't work, just say that you couldn't afford anything more expensive. If you could but just didn't want to because you think their should be some kind of sliding scale for the price of the X-mas gifts you buy someone based on his/her income, just be honest with him/her.

Answer 10

There is nothing you can do.
People who get a lot of money,soon forget that not everyone else is as fortunate & should be ashamed!
I pray i always remember where i came from if I ever win the big lottery,& follow through with my dream of giving homes to poor folks.

Answer 11

1. Don't listen to gossip anymore. It doesn't make anyone happy.
2. Forgive the person who said that about you. It appears that they just don't understand. Having a lot of money doesn't make you a good person. But you can be a good person despite the fact that you don't have millions.