We had been dating for about two months. There was an incredible physical attraction and the sex was phenomenal. I was also falling in love with him. Well I tried to take our r/ship to the next level and he said he likes me a lot but can't see us having an exlusive r/ship mostly because we live about 2 hours apart. So I broke it off. Now he says he is sad it ended because he was really enjoying what we had and he does like me. Did I do the right thing? Do you think he would have come around?
2006-12-21 19:00:06 · 20 answers · asked by Sweetgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The answer is no.
P.S. I didn't have time to read your details. I'm speed-answering.
2006-12-21 19:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ya' know when two people develop great sexual chemistry and feeling that they are falling in love, the issue of geography should not be a major obstacle. Good for you that you wanted to raise the bar and bad or him that he's worried about logistics. Logically you did the right think, but you didn't follow your heart and that is not good. Yeah, he would have come around if for no other reason then you guys were lighting up the night sky between the sheets.
2006-12-22 03:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No telling if he would have come around, but its plain as day that he wasn't interested in what you were interested in. Thats usually reason enough to break things off. If both people don't want the same thing from a relationship, there is bound to be trouble brewing around the corner, so unless he decides that he wants what you want, then yes, I think you made the right decision. Would he have come around? Who knows, but you obviously had reason to think not the first time. What makes you think that he might now? If nothing has really changed other than him still wanting you, I think you'd be wasting your time getting back together with him.
Good luck.
2006-12-22 03:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though the 2 of you reallly like each other but want 2 different things. In my opinion/experience relationships like that never work - u did the right thing. Consider this - if the sex was so good - he may just be sweet talking/buttering u up so he can get some more. But always remember - true and lasting relationships are never built on just good sex.
2006-12-22 03:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by Tequila Sheila SA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i think you did. I mean c'mon he's not ready to have a exclusive relationship with a 2 hour barrier but he's ready to have a sexual relationship with the 2 hour barrier. Basically means..he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Of course he's sad he's no longer getting the great sex you two were sharing. I'm thinking when your not there he's maintaining other relationships. Possibly he is already committed. I dunno. too many possibilities. Most guys are not that quick to come around when they are getting the milk for free. Go out with some friends and keep your eyes open for someone who's not trying to use you. Anyhow Good luck!
2006-12-22 03:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, he wanted to remain "friends with benefits." Two months is moving really fast to go to 'the next level'. Maybe you just scared him off-but if you're not getting your desire to be in an exclusive relationship fulfilled-why waste your time and energy? He might have 'come around', but wouldn't you have rather found out sooner like you did, than later? I think you did the right thing for yourself-not letting yourself be used like that.
2006-12-22 03:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you did the right thing- he's missing that phenomenal sex that you talked about that's all - I mean what is two hours was he walking to see you. Even if he only likes you that is not to far to see a good friend is it?
2006-12-22 03:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing. Guys that do not want an "exclusive relationship" really mean to say, "I'm only with you to use you and I don't want people to know that I am using you. They do not want to make it public, nor make a full commitment. Move on. The world is a big place, you WILL find someone who will appreciate you.
2006-12-22 03:05:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u did the right thing, long (kinda) distance relationships are hard, and if he is not commiting to anything you will always be wondering if he is being faithfull, what he is doing, and who he is with. (it can make you sick to your stomache)
You have ended it early, before it gets too messy and you end up with a broken heart. If you really were falling in love with him I don't really see it having a happy ending.
Sounds like you have your head on right, and know what is best for YOU, don't let his sadness, make you change your mind, and beware of empty promises.
Good for you and good luck in your next relationship.
2006-12-22 03:05:24 · answer #9 · answered by jrnwy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless all you wanted from him was sex, because that's all you would get. If he's making lame excuses for not being faithful to one woman, it's because he just isn't a one woman kind of guy. When he says he was enjoying what you had that means having all the nookie with none of the responsibilities. Is that the kind of guy you want?
If you do take him back, please always use a condom because he will put you at risk for std's.
2006-12-22 03:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why did the sex come first...then emotions? My, that is a bit odd. You totally did the right thing though...he just wants to sleep around no strings attached. If you want a relationship...find someone who wants the same.
2006-12-22 03:04:42 · answer #11 · answered by *Harley* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋