I wasted a good few years on a guy who basically had me on a string/ overly attached, now I feel I'll never have that certain "connection" with any guy. I've tried dating, but it just didn't work out. The words "damaged goods" come to mind and I can't help feeling depressed every time I think of my situation (It's been several months since the break-up).
2006-12-21 18:36:23 · 10 answers · asked by cloudyskies 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 29, male, and still haven't found the right one, and I'm also not sure I will. I'm not stressing over it, though. I have enough other things I have to worry about in my life first.
What you need to do, though, is get yourself back together. Do you want to get married? Not everybody does, and people frequently change their mind. I have a male cousin who I saw one year at a family gathering, and my mother, in her typical fassion, asked him if he was seeing anybody. He responded that he wasn't, and he also said that he didn't think "seeing anybody" was in the cards for him. I didn't hear from him for several months after that. The next thing I know, I get an invitation inviting me to his wedding. The first thing I said to him when I saw him was, "The last time I saw you ....." to which he responded, "but then I met my wife." So these things do happen.
One thing to remember, though: You are not "damaged goods". You might have a damaged heart, but find the right guy and he'll be able to help you heal that heart of yours into something beautiful. Keep looking, and if he doesn't find you first, I'm sure you'll find him.
Good luck.
2006-12-21 18:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by G A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's always someone special in our lives. I'm sorry to hear about your failed relationship but you shouldn't let the past affect your future.
Connection is a form of trust. What you need to do is to start believing in love, yourself and guys. While it is also true that there are a lot of guys out there who are just basically dogs, there are still a few good ones available.
Don't put yourself in the frame of mind that you're a "damaged good". Now that you have been through a failed relationship, reflect and think about what you have learnt. If anything at all, you should have came out of the relationship wiser. At least now you know what love feels and means to you. You would also have been through the typical problems of a relationship. You know how to adjust when the "honeymoon period" of the relationship is over.
What you need to do is to get over it and move on. Be yourself and it's only a matter of time before you find someone who accepts you for who you are. Feeling down and depressed after a failed relationship is normal but you shouldn't stay in that state for too long. All the best and have faith.
2006-12-21 19:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by Bjorn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not damaged goods--maybe a little thunder struck, but welcome to the real world. You'll survive.
Your next relationship of consequence will not be a co-dependent one. You'll feel more yourself. Yeah, you are only 17 and while having a boyfriend would be great, you need a little time to decompress and get your bearings.
I do believe that there is a "right life" for everyone and in that life is the person you are looking for. At this point in time getting the "right life" is a good place to start and all of a sudden you will have a number of years that were not wasted, but spent in getting to know you and getting to know better what you want in a guy. You will be fine.
2006-12-21 18:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you say your only 17, things may seem this way to you now but everything could change in a heartbeat, a Look form someone, a phone call, chatting to someone at school, anything. Get involved in a club, take up karate something that will empower you and strengthen your self esteem. I hope this helps!
2006-12-21 22:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by gbgnick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't give you only one "right" person on the whole planet and say "now go ahead, go find him/her. You have lots of time to choose the right person for you. Stop concentrating on only finding a guy and think about enjoying life and having fun with friends and family. You will know the right person when it happens, you are too young to be thinking such serious thoughts for marriage.
2006-12-21 18:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by smily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 easy steps to success
step one- get a job at abercrombi
step 2- work your way up the company
step 3- become a model
step 4- meet another madel
step 5- break up with him do to unresolved past issues
step6- get back together with the first boyfriend
step 7- break up with him
where was this going you tell me?
2006-12-21 18:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by JuliusRomans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 30 before I found the "right" person for me. I went thru alot of relationships and even one marriage before I actually found the "right" person. I've been with my wife 18 years now. Sooooo, don't rush things or think there is a set age to be "In love" or have a commited relationship. It happens, when it happens, whenever that is.....Usually, when you least expect it, *POOF*.....
2006-12-21 18:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by slavetofs 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are only 17 and while you have been disappointed in love there will be someone for you in the near future.Make the most of your lifewhile you are young and free.
2006-12-21 18:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well its really up to the person. [me i dont believe in love,so i cant say anything]..but everything comes in its perfect time =]
2006-12-21 18:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by freek<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look this time you are so young. so dont think about it just focus on your carrier. and you have your elders to think about ur marriege.so leave it on them. trust me they will look for a nice guy for you.
2006-12-21 18:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by kashish d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋