I'd been seeing for over a year and he had just moved back to his hometown in September for a job. He told me he wanted to keep in touch, but the last time I talked to him was in October. So...since November, about a month now, I hadn't contacted him at all...now he just called me, 2 months later....
Uh..I don't know whether to be sad or happy...He told me that he was driving home from a bar and put in a cd to that was one that we always listened to. He said it reminded him of me. So we got to talking, he wondered how I was doing and everything. Then he started telling me that he met a girl after he sold her a system (ADT) and they've been going together for a few months. HUH? Why would he say that to me? Was he expecting me to be happy about that? I didn't understand that, especially after I haven't heard from him in 2 months. Was he trying to rub it in my face or something? Why would he be calling me then? Just to keep me in the picture...just in case? I held back, and pretty much changed the subject. Then he asked if I had talked to my uncle about Colorado, and I told him I'd be seeing him for the holidays, and that we might go this April. He sounded excited, but asked about deer around his property. So I said, isn't there a season for that? And he said yah it's from August-November. And then I said they have good fishing out there. So he told me to keep him up to date with it. So..why would he want to go on vacation with me & my parents for that matter, if he thought he was going to still be with this girl? He said he hooked up, so I don't know if that means it's just for sexual purposes or what. I didn't want to ask though. Anyway, we were ending the conversation and he was telling me that he was thinking of me so he decided to give me a call, and I told him thanks for calling and it was nice to hear from him, and he said the same. Then I said, well I wish we could talk more because I miss ya, and he said yah, but it is what it is. UHHHH why, why does he say that? Then he said, keep your chin up, good luck with your job, and call me if you need something. So what's up with that? I don't understand, I just don't. And it breaks my heart at the same time. What does he honestly want from me? Like I said, after I don't contact him for awhile, he always comes back. And it happened again, this time. I'm glad that I told him that I missed talking to him, but I wasn't really expecting that response. He also said, after he said it is what it is, that we live apart now. Well no kidding, but that shouldn't stop you from keeping in contact. Is he pretty much telling me that there is no chance because we live apart now? I hope after he talked to me, he thinks long and hard about me. It's actually just bringing more memories of me by calling me tonight. Well at least I know that email about my pill addiction didn't seem to phase him. But I'm not going to email him that letter now, because I just talked to him. And again, I'll leave it be for awhile. I don't know how I should approach things now...=( Does he still have feelings for me? What is going on?
2006-12-21 17:53:14 · 5 answers · asked by f a s h i o n i s t a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow I didn't realize it was that freakin' long! sorry =(
2006-12-21 17:53:47 · update #1
the is what it is part came from us just having a casual relationship. But still, he knows I have feelings for him.
2006-12-21 17:59:49 · update #2
After the part that said " he met a girl and they've been going together for a few months" nothing else mattered. Move on. He's not that into you. He met someone else. Stop talking to him. He's a waste of your time. He doesn't care about you that way.
2006-12-21 17:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time with this jerk! I think he just wants to keep you on ice just in case he comes back to your neck of the woods. You watch, if he comes around again he'll try to hook up with a booty call and that's all he wants from you, or anyone for that matter. I was the same way for a while until I realized I let to many wonderful women get away. I'm married and very happy now. My suggestion to you is don't take **** from any man, and don't get really attached and let him prove to you that he isn't going to do the same thing this one did. good luck!!!
2006-12-22 02:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by dave m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very very tough one i've read it several times and came up with various emotions and what he could be feeling he sends mixed signals thats for sure. Honestly i think he mentioned the girl just to see how you would react to it. Or to see if you have anyone new in your life.To me i'm 86% sure he has more feelings for you then what he's letting on but i'm not sure how close of friends you were etc. he could just love you in the big brother way because i'm definately seeing strong feelings for you in that conversation and alot of interest. If i were you i assume you love him as well if you do i'd come out and ask him next time you talk if he has feelings and what ones for you. then take it from there otherwise your just going to wonder over and over each time he calls.
2006-12-22 02:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by Casanova 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex do that to me twice after she dumped me. Once 2 years after and once 4 years after. No idea why cause she was kind of a b*tch both times.. I think she just wanted to screw with me or rub something in my face, which I don't really understand cause I never did anything to her.
If I were you and you know that you would like him I would just confront him with it and make him tell you if he likes you or not. And if he doesn't then just tell him to beat it.
2006-12-22 02:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably cheating on you...
2006-12-22 01:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by Bloody Hearts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋