I really liked this guy, but he told my friend that we could never be together. I'm so heartbroken right now. As I'm typing, tears are flowing down my cheeks. I can't believe he played with my feelings.
Why did he have to lead me on?He could have just told me from the start that we could never be more than just friends.
I feel so hurt and upset. I feel like using the guilty approach and telling him myself that I like him and that I'm sorry I ever wasted my time on him. Should I do that?Or just ignore him from now on?
Delete his number from my cell?Lose contact with him?Or what??
2006-12-21 17:53:06 · 21 answers · asked by Jayden 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was in a similar situation not too long ago, and i would say just ignore him completely.. dont let him know that you're completely torn up by it. if you just dont talk to him, dont call or text him at all, then he might come back after youve forgotten about him. wait for him to realize what he's losing, dont let him know he's driving you crazy. they hate it when we play it off like we dont care about them at all
2006-12-21 17:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by lo 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have an ex who was just like that. He told me he loved me but we could never be together because he said, "Jewish people can't marry Catholics." I told him he is wrong. I'm the Jewish one and believe me, my parents don't care what ethnicity I marry. I now feel, if someone can't see eye to eye with you, they should be history. Hun, you deserve so much better. I wish you the best of luck! Honesty I know how you feel.
In my relationship, i showed him examples of how Jews and catholics have married and he didn't give a crap. I really feel that was his way out of the relationship. He knew I was Jewish from the beginning--> in the beginning he didn't care about that.....
I don't know why the two of you can never be together but if it is something on the lines of race or ethnicity, don't feel bad... some people are just cruel and to them that stuff matters when it really shouldn't.
One day everyone will be mixed.
Best of luck! I know things will work out for you!
2006-12-22 01:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by coolchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He already has.
Not all guys "play" with your feelings but apparently this one did. Leave him in your past and don't do anything to "get even"-he's not worth your time.
When you're ready, go out and meet someone wonderful! That will be the best approach. He may never realize what he missed out on,or he may,but either way doesn't really matter. You will be fine,in time, and more considerate of other's feelings because of this experience. Move on! Be happy! Good Luck!
2006-12-22 02:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. Don't even keep him as a friend. Yes, delete his number. Tell him the breakup is mutual (and stress that) and that you don't want to see him anymore too. (He may not even like the feeling of getting rejected!!) Trust me, there are a lot more guys out there--who will love you for who you are and won't mess with your emotions. And don't view this as a waste of time--every experience is valuable, and use it t guide you correctly in your future.
2006-12-22 01:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm, you should have a back up so these things never happen.
Thats the difference so you do not set yourself up on the losing end.
Couldnt you simply say "fine!" be that way, then chalk it up tothe big "U" file, meaning that sorry list of unrequited loves. People still keep those, dont you?
Besides, it was your friend he said it to, not you personally. ARe you brave enough to ask him straight eye to eye about what you heard fromyour friend?
2006-12-22 01:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wasted your time? Were you dating him? What I don't understand is... why did he tell your friend that you guys could never be together? Why did he NOT tell you that? I would have him sit down and have a nice long chat and "put things on the table". Don't get angry at him...he will clamp up. Just tell him exactly how you feel, and that how hurt you are, Don't quilt trip him, just be honest and tell him how you feel about him.
2006-12-22 01:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by rupmsn2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's my story all over again, I went through the same thing with a guy and all I can say to you is for you to delete his number and never talk to him again.. he hurt you because he saw that he could and he doesn't want you because he knows that he can have you.. this is the time for you to show yourself and him that you have way to much respect for yourself to be pathetic to even attempt to try and get him back and that you deserve better.. I'm very sorry for you and I really hope that you find a good guy that isn't gonna toy with your head and rip your heart out, there are good guys out there but stay away from this one :) :) :)
2006-12-22 02:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Lose all contact. That's the quickest way to make it stop hurting. Yes, ignore him. Let it go or you will keeping thinking that there is a chance.
2006-12-22 01:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him at his word and move on. There is no use in you wasting time on him that could be better spent looking for a guy who WANTS to be with just you.
2006-12-22 01:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by mopjky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just ignore him from now on. Delete his number. Lose contact with him. And stop crying.
2006-12-22 01:54:53 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋