I work at a daycare my 10 yr old also attends, boss did something that upset me, how do I handle it?

Question

After asking my son 3 times (nicely) to calm down, my boss picked up one of his toys on the counter,threw it at him & when it hit him she said "now I have your attention"...I'm upset by this but don't know how to approach her without losing my job OR her long time friendship, any suggestions ?

Answer 1

As a daycare worker as well, I would of made it business (and approached it on a personal level in private away from parents and other children).

No matter if that was your child or another child, that was abuse and should be reported. She has no business throwing items at a child and expects that an educational way of getting their attention.

Especially if your child could of recieved 1) a black eye 2) a bruise 3) cuts and 4) Emotional pain.

Those are all abuse.

Allow her to know that was not acceptable and you are approaching now out of shock. You will not stand for this and if she tries to fire you, you then will file a suit and sue her in court.

Friendship? Who cares about the friendship? She abused your child. That is your focus. Not this "friendship" that you feel she has with you. No friend will do such a thing to another friend's child and expects it to be "okay".

I had to approach my ex boss (that I left the place for) on similiar situations. She knows better not to cross me and I had no problem disclosing this to parents of the child if she didn't. By law, I had the right and she knew how smart I am about law, since that was my first major.

While filing a report....place him and find another daycare.

She did this to your son. Guess how many other children she did it to as well...

I don't care if he was 2 or 12, under no curcumstance did she have a right to do this.

I was the school age teacher once the children got out of school. I understand how we can get tired of repeating or raising our tones for them to hear over there own higher tones. I complety understand the fusturation. However, I have never ever raised a hand or thrown any objects to get their attention. That is unacceptable and lack of teaching skills for her to do this.

Your son needs to be talk to as he is also at fault for his own behavior. He should be only told once. I can understand twice when sometimes hard to hear or really focused. But any more, she should walk to him, touch lightly on his shoulder and say his name and repeat one more time. If he does not listen, then she should come get you (as they would call on the phone if parent works out of the facility) and discuss the issue to take further action.

Answer 2

why is a 10 year old at daycare. Is it after school?
you are the parent of this child and it is your job to protect him from harm. You tell the boss you do not appreciate that she threw something at your child and in future if there is a problem to come talk to you and you will deal with it. If you won't protect your child then who will

Answer 3

I've taught preschool for years and have worked at several schools. It's strange but for some reason the directors have always been hard on my kids. If my kids do something wrong they would come directly to me instead of handling it themselves like they normally would. My advice? If you want to keep your job with no hard feelings, put your child in a different after school care! It is very difficult for the children of daycare workers to have their own children at the school.

Answer 4

#1 she had NO RIGHT acting acting like a child> #2 she is your boss--not your friend (when working) so go and tell her how you feel. #3 I would have told my son "ONE " time and one time only--a kid does NOT have to have things repeated over and over again at the age of 10; maybe at age 2 or 3; unless he/she has a learning disability. I am talking about a real disability, not just being a misbehaving spoiled brat.

Answer 5

One: I would write a report to the Local Department of Family and Children Services. I would ask for an investigation into this persons activities in his or her position. What this person did is not only wrong but it's criminal.

Two: I would get a good lawyer and sue them for emotional distress and I mean not only for you but also your child as this is not a good message sent to your child.

Three: This person is acting worse then your child and it demonstrates that they have no business in this profession as they don't have anger control and are emotionally unstable. Also could you look for another job. I would hope you would not want to continue to work for this person.

Answer 6

Get your son into another daycare. And you start looking for another place to work, too. If she does something else to some other child, it could reflect on you, too.

Consider reporting her. Daycare people should not solve problems by throwing things at children.

Answer 7

I, personally, would be more concerned over why your son took being asked three times to calm down? She sounds like she got frustrated and maybe because you were there and maybe you should have been trying to step in and help her. I am in no way defending her,she shouldn't have thrown a toy at him. I wouldn't try talking to her until you first talk to your son. She needs to find another way to handle things. Being physically abusive to kids is never right.

Answer 8

1. Tell Him to Stop Nicly
2. Bug your Child
3. When He Come's Back And theres somthing on the Tape
Confront Him kick his *** and sue

Answer 9

Woah! She was WAY out of line! If I ever found out that my child had a toy thrown at them I would file a lawsuit and own that place. That is abusive behavior. I wouldn't worry about your job, she should worry about hers. Report her to corporate.

Answer 10

Your son should've had more respect if he's 10 years old and at his mother's work place. Why are you making your 10 year old son hang out in a daycare with you anyway? Your boss was probably right for wacking this brat whos old enough to be wacked and I hope she wacked him hard. If your big baby acts like this in public now I'd laugh to hear what he'll act like in 3 years. Ha.