A few months ago, I met someone who literally took my breath away. I have never felt this way about anyone ever before. All was well but then he didn’t call me (he even said he was unreliable) when we were supposed to meet up & I told him that I was hurt. Ever since then, he hasn’t been calling me. He says he still wants to be friends, but he hasn’t done anything about it. He’s in the middle of starting up a new business so I know he’s busy, but I know it’s really b/c he is no longer interested. I don’t know what to do with myself. I can’t stop thinking about him. I can’t stop calling him. I am making myself look like an absolute fool & while this alone should make me stop, most times I don’t even care. I’m not one to “fall in love” easily, but I know that at any moment, if he wanted me, I would be there. I want to love him, take care of him, be with him, make sure he’s happy & doing well. How do I move on? Does anyone think there’s even a possibility of a relationship? Thanks.
2006-12-21 17:30:53 · 15 answers · asked by Krysta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to tell you this, but men don't like women who throw themselves at them. It takes the "inborn instinct of courting" out of his hands. It also makes you look too easy, needy, and suffocating. Don't stalk him. Don't be there at his "slightest whim". It is like a hunter shooting a deer in a cage! He may really be into getting his business going, and cannot deal with the distraction of a personal relationship at this time. Men are better at focusing on one advent in their lives at a time. I'm pretty sure you scared him. Most men get turned off by "pushy" women. Do what he says and just be friends for now. If you push him, you will most likely alienate yourself from him.
The only other alternative is to meet someone new. The only way to move on is to put one foot in front of the other! Time and distance also help!!
2006-12-21 17:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your infatuated with this guy. Sometimes things just don't click, and all this calling and looking for him is only making it worse. First of all, you are a valuable person and deserve someone who can see that. It's just not meant to be with this guy. Find things to occupy your mind and make a list of qualities you would like in a man that would make it worthwhile for you to have a relationship with. You are in the position of choosing who you want, but if they don't want you back then you need to respect that.
Good luck
2006-12-21 17:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by serval25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definately need to move along, it's a hard thing to do, but, he has no respect for a relationship with you. I'm sure there is someone out there that would love to have you pamper him and show him how much you love them. But you have to find someone that will return all of the same to you. Good Luck.
2006-12-21 17:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you could do is give it up right now. He is obviously not interested, and for you to continue hoping seems kind of desperate. I don't mean to be coldhearted. I've been there too. You need to have more self-respect than this. You'll find another love, and it will be just as wonderful.
2006-12-21 17:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by littlechrismary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think no.... coz if he likes u then u probably calling u by now.... bussiness is not an excuse... And pls stop calling him coz he wud think that r u deperate to be with him... so better find a ryt guy for u... theres a lot of guys in the world that is meant for u...
2006-12-21 17:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by churva_char_chenes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait because you are involed with that boy deeply intelligently girls always take decision in consciousness.If that boy loves you he will definitely come back to you.Even he want to do some thing on his own,ple help him in his work and be with him ,see to that nobody take chance on him automatically he will fall in love with you.Nobody knows when he/she falls in love with other,that is the beauty of love.LA GA RAOO,ALL THE BEST.
2006-12-21 18:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He ALSO knows that the minute he wanted you,you'd be right there.Trust me,he KNOWS this.Now,do you still like smug little him?Does'nt sound like he's beating on your door.Drop it,drop him.
Then you'll begin to feel better about yourself.Don't be his fool anymore-just cut him out.POOF!
2006-12-21 17:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its obviously ur stalking him and it will reflect bad on ya cuz he might complain to others and that would be sooooo embarassing
so i advice u to stop it all now before u get seriously hurt.
guys know what they want never assume they dont know.
2006-12-21 17:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by aishah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men like independant women and your probably driving him away because your too needy and clingy. not an insult its just reality do your own thing and if it was meant to be he'll come around.
2006-12-21 17:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by miss_kiki4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the answer to the question is break up ... then you could be a whining out of love person
2006-12-21 17:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by tonkatruk_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋