I recently met a guy at a bar, and he lives 7 hours away. We exchanged numbers and he said he would call when he was back in town. A month and a half later he called and we got together for dinner and spent 3 hours talking and having a great time getting to know each other. He said that he definitely wants to get together again when he comes back into town in about a month. We just hugged goodbye, and kissed on each cheek (he's Italian). He then text messaged me the next day. Can I pretty much just count on friendship? Can he be thinking anything else? How do guys think?
2006-12-21 17:20:40 · 12 answers · asked by serval25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be on your guard with this guy ,,,, What does he do for a living ,,,, Where has he been and with whom ,,,, Hell for all you know he could be a mobster or a hit man and have a whole string of girls he sees who in turn probably see who knows how many other guys from where ever ,,,, Keep your eye on these possibilities ,,,, Guys who let their glands do their thinking for them are capable of saying or doing anything ,,,,If he's willing and wants to have sex with you then you have to realize that he's probably doing the same thing with only who knows who else somewhere else ,,,, It's ok if you continue going out with him for a casual dinner or something like that but don't let it go any further than that ,,,, Keep it casual and avoid any kind of relationship that may involve sex ,,,, It's not much to base too much of a relationship on if he only shows up something like once every month or two ,,,, Sailors usually have a girl in every port too you know ,,,,so it's not a realationship really ,,,,, If you are single and looking then you should look closer to home ,,,, Find some one that is fun and exciting to be with that has no mystries and comes trouble and problem free ,,,, They are out there all you have to do is look ,,,,, In the mean time if you get hungry then let the stranger take you to dinner ,,,, Don't look for anything more than just a friendship situation with this guy ,,,, From what you said in your post you haven't much to base a closer relationship on really ,,,, Use your head and don't let yourself be used ,,,, Personally I get a bad vibe when I consider your post ,,,, tread wisely here ,,,,, You only have one life ,,,, Yoda said this
2006-12-21 17:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think (especially if he is an italian) he is married or has a permanent gf at the place where he leaves and in each town he visits for work. he just wants u to be his gf in this town where u live. he will visit it once a month, u will have nice dinner and then go to bed for having sex. next day he will leave for his town and his wife/gf. maybe he will give u some presents(not expensive ones). if it is suitable for u - go for it. but do not expect anything more. if a man likes a woman he won't wait for a month to meet her. he will walk all night by foot just to say her good morning
2006-12-22 01:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you trying to over analyze this?
You just met him and have spent a whopping 3 hours with him.
Not all guys think the same.....He's thinking..... he just met you, enjoys your company and would like to spend more time with you when he is in town. He's being a gentleman and taking the relationship one day at a time.
Did you expect him to jump your bones on your first date?
Geeze, give it a chance and some time. Do you even know his middle name?
2006-12-22 01:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by Riviera_ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As much as men say women are complicated, they are just as bad. It sounds like he's definately intereseted in something. As far as what, one can only guess. A couple more conversations or meetings might help decipher this puzzel. The best advice I can give you is to wait and see. If he wants to get together again, then do so. Don't rush anything. No matter what, every relationship has to run it's own course. Good Luck.
2006-12-22 01:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by gamegurl8504 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think u should really take it slow. dont get ur hopes up to much. just look at at as a friendship for now bc he does live 7 hours away. but if u think u can handle a long distance relationship then go for it but make sure he's not dating someone else in his hometown and that u r not his girl of the moment when he gets in town. just be cautious!! but it seems like u really like him. just trust yourself.
2006-12-22 01:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by superstar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds scary to me. You do not really know this man. You only know what he has told you. Why doesn't he call you while he is at home? Why does he only talk to you when he is coming threw your town? I see a lot of red flags going up on this.
2006-12-22 01:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he wants to get to know you better first, that's why he wanted to go out on another date....well, it depends on who initiated it first 'cause you never know....but right now, I can't really tell if he's looking for friendship or a different type of relationship right now based on the information given.
2006-12-22 01:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you heard the term "a girl in every port"? That's prolly what he's thinking. Some sort of action when he's in your town. I'm cynical tho'.
2006-12-22 01:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by anecdoteman1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's definitely thinkin' about 'it' the main thing every guy thinks about. Of course they don't have to push out a baby! But he may be sweet. Get to know him.
2006-12-24 17:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by Ginger 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Expect nothing until you get to know him and decide if he's worthy of more than a friendship, or a friendship at all.
2006-12-22 01:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋