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i mean he's the sweetest guy, but my parents are totally against the whole dating thing. i might even love him. should i give him up cuz of my parents?

2006-12-21 17:06:59 · 16 answers · asked by Mei 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

okay my parents are totally against the dating thing,but the guy has already asked me out and he chose me over some other girl whom liked him. no one including myself didn't see it coming. he even bought me a birthday gift and wrote me a card that said the most sweetest things ever. the way i feel around him is still indescribable. we've only been together for about 2 weeks and he already told me he'd give me the moon someday. lastly, he is very shy and he stepped out of his shyness and did this for me. should i still give him up?

2006-12-21 17:30:44 · update #1

16 answers

Unless you have extremely over-protective parents I presume you are either still quite young or from an ethnic background where the culture is you don't have as much freedom as western girls.

Either way dating behind your parents back will only cause you big problems in the long term - if you care about your parents, which you obviously do otherwise you wouldn't be asking the question - the strain of deceiving them will soon tell on you, likewise if they find out they will be both hurt and angry.

If it does not work out with your boyfriend it will be your mum and dad who mop up your tears.

Going out with someone for 2 weeks isnt long enough to know whether you love them or not. He sounds like a lovely caring person - talk to your parents and suggest they meet him so they are not worried - nothing heavy just invite him to pop in to perhaps help you with homework / drop you off after a date / lend him a CD and let him come and collect it.

Sounds corny? Maybe but at least if you make the effort to try with your parents you can go out with your boyfriend knowing you have done your bit. Good luck

2006-12-21 20:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by PMF 2 · 0 0

If you are still in school you should do what your parents wish. You are still living in their house and they make the rules. Try talking them into the dating thing. If you are 14 or older I would think you are old enough to date. Try gently talking them into a chaperoned date like the movies or skating. Something where they can come along and stay in the background. Do not fight with them, that will make things worse. And if this guy is really sweet then he will not have a problem with your parents around.

2006-12-22 01:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by JJ 2 · 0 0

well your parents just want you to wait until its the right time, even though you feel differently.. but i myself wouldn't do something they don't like behind their back, they will lose some respect for the guy which might make the situation worse. if you both like each other a lot, and possibly even love each other, then i would just wait some time until your parents feel its right, and if you still have these feelings for each other then it will make the relationship even more meaningful anyways. if you both love each other then the relationship will definitely eventually work even if you have to wait a little longer, and the guy should totally understand if he really likes you, and he should be willing to wait if you really likes you. :) well i hope i could help, and that everything works out for you!

2006-12-22 01:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by Alexandra 2 · 0 0

Your parents know what's best. They've been with you since birth. They love you unconditionally. Following them is part of the Ten Commandments.... BUT try explaining it to them first before you obey. Be open. Know your responsibilities.

Besides, you could find whole lotza other men, but you only have one pair of your parents. Hihi. Merry Christmas!

2006-12-22 01:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by InfoDeficient=c 2 · 0 0

if u love him then im sure in time ur parents will get over it and if they dont well 2 bad... but if u dont love him then i think u are just causing a huge arguement 4 nothing... so figure out whether u love him or not before doing anything drastic... GOod luck

2006-12-22 01:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by becstar 3 · 0 0

This is tough. How long have you known this guy? Is he worth causing strife with your parents? I guess the question you should ask yourself is 'Do I really love him?'. If your answer is yes (and I mean truly) then it is your fate, you need to decide.Remember, only you (and obviously God) will decide your future. Take care.

2006-12-22 01:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by idfg 2 · 0 0

As long as you live under your parent's roof you must follow their rules. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you - don't worry about the opposite sex yet. Once you're out and on your own - then you can date anytime you wish.

2006-12-22 01:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

If you love him, why would you give him up for your parents? Every decision you make impacts your life not there's. You can just try and explain to your parents and if they don't understand, well just don't talk to them about him.

2006-12-22 01:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by curiosityreincarnated 3 · 0 0

i agree with pmf! ( good anwer btw!) yup start casually introduce him to ur parents n to make it less suspicious u cud invite ur frens too so that ur parents know that ur not up to sumthg else. but dun lie to ur parents k. theres still other ways to communicate with him like thru chatting or calls?? neways wish u all the best! enjoy the moment!!!

2006-12-22 05:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by little lulu 2 · 0 0

To like a prsn is difft to love a prsn.if love u them u go.if u dnt then its ur dicission. pasnd to hum sab ko karte hain per love bhi karna chahien so go 4 it. u convince u r parents. to make sure that he is good.and he also loves u. so go with him.make sure he is gud like u.or if u r parents is always help to decide ur dicission then yake help from ur parents.

2006-12-22 01:22:48 · answer #10 · answered by sweetu 1 · 0 0

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