Okay I've been dating this guy for almost 6 months without either one of our parents finding out that we are actually dating. His mom who is completly against us dating only for the fact that she thinks i'm too young for him (i'll be 17 in three months and hes 19). Last week i tried calling his phone to talk to him and it turns out she answered the phone because she took his phone away (he still lives at home because he is going to the community college here in town) and she started yelling at me and told me that i need to never talk or see him ever again because i'm too young. Now what i'm wondering is should i just ask him if its okay if we just sit down with her and try to talk about our relationship and if she is ever going to change her mind about me? I'm so depressed and unhappy because i never get to see my boyfriend or even just talk to him and i just have so much that i want to say to his mom to try to just make her understand our age difference isnt that big.
2006-12-21 16:59:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The legal age of consent in my state is 17. ive already checked on that. and i know for a fact that neither me nor my parents would ever press charges against him even if we all hated him with everything we have. So i'm not worried about that. however i think thats what she is worried about. so how should i go about talking to her about all of this because i am just so fed up with not being able to see him ever. i mean i only get to see him about once a week at the most and for only a couple hours.
2006-12-21 17:29:03 · update #1
BAd start, but no biggy, she is right but take it with a pinch of salt. You did the right thing sometmies you ahve to keep out of their way. Mothers protect their sons because they feel they are being taken away from them, they guard them jealously, so it's not that she doesn't like you but like any good womadn she doesn't want to share her son.
If your friend is wise, he will look for other safe opportunites to see you, otherwise he will lock up and hope a bold girl will come his way.
You did your part, it's now for him and it shhould portray wht kind of a man he is.
2006-12-21 17:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation 20yrs ago. Nobody knew anything until later as time went. We even married (few years later) without my mother knowing. Now they talked now and then but eventually I had to move out of state. I learned that is scriptural that a mother and her daughter-in-law will not get along. You can try, but if it doesn't work, just realize once you marry someone you separate from the parents and it's okay not to get along with inlaws. If you do, it's a bonus.
2006-12-22 01:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Mom and my son is 17 and wanted to date a 15 year old. I didn't approve of it either for many reasons. He later realized she was too young in her mental/emotional development for him and left her alone on his own. The problem here is you, or your parents, could send him to jail if the two of you went too far. That may be what his Mom is afraid of. Wait until you are older and just be friends for now. Of, agree to only see him when either you parents or his are present.
2006-12-22 01:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his mother is right. You are still jail-bate and he could go to jail because of you. The legal age is 18. And he is 19 in college and his Mother is taking his phone away!!!! that does not sound right either. Why hasn't he called you???? Do you think he could have someone else and his mother is covering for him?? Too many questions for you to ask. Time to move on.
2006-12-22 01:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is probably paying for his college and does not want him to get distracted. The fact that your are 17 yrs old, she may not want to take the chance of her son getting into trouble in case you come up pregnant. There are probably circumstances there that you do not know about and he will never tell you, so I would leave it alone and see what happens. If he wants to talk to you, trust me, he will find a way to get in touch with you.
2006-12-22 01:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just when you get the time sit down with your boyfriend and his mom and talk it over with her, make a convincing argument, like about how much you guys really like each other and are right for each other.
2006-12-22 01:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Sydd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are 2 years apart in age. I think you two should talk with his mom, it doesn't seem right for her to be like that, it's not like you are dating her, you are dating her son.
2006-12-22 01:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by maysimay2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.... u need to show her that age doesn't matter........... i mean keep trying to go out with ur bf, ,and see if u want to take the risk and ruin many things between parents... and it also depends on how much he loves u.. and how much u love him. and yes.. after a while, sit down and chat with the mother
2006-12-22 01:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by Addie ~ chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why hasn't your boyfriend done anything to convince his mom? Why hasn't he tried to talk to you?
2006-12-22 01:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by InfoDeficient=c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
email or drop a note to her saying that you love him so much that you'd commit suicide(just kidding,no offense) or something.if it doesn't work,tell your mom or dad to talk her into it.
2006-12-22 01:05:50 · answer #10 · answered by spiritedevil06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋