I was out with my pastor and his wife this evening. There were other's from our church with us. On the way home my pastor's wife started a very racist conversation. Then another person chimed in. I didn't say anything at the time, but it upset me so much. I'm wondering how I should handle this. I don't know if I can keep going to church there now? How should I handle this?
2006-12-21 16:54:17 · 15 answers · asked by chitchenitza 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Ouch... tough situation. Well... what would Jesus do? I personally believe that He he would still love them and certainly not judge them. However, He may also say, "Ye without sin, cast the first stone." Maybe , in a non-judgemental way, talk to your pastor and his wife about it. Tell them how you feel, and see how they react. If this doesn't bring about resolution, maybe you should try out some other churches. That's pretty disturbing...my children are bi-racial. The best thing to do is pray about it.
2006-12-21 17:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really disagree with the attitude of your pastor or his wife, you've probably got a few options.
1. Talk to the pastor. Express your concern.
2. If you're not satisfied, talk to the elders. Racist behavior is not the sort of thing that shows believers actually worthy people.
3. Find another church.
2006-12-22 00:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering that most christians I have encountered are nothing but hypocrits, I am not surprised. That is the main reason I stopped attending church and became a pagan. I would speak with the pastor alone and inform him of your discomfort. Base your decision to stay or go on his reaction to the conversation and his willingness to do something about it. Don't sit back and keep you mouth shut. Remember, even if you only drive the get away car, you are still an accessory to the crime.
2006-12-22 00:59:32 · answer #3 · answered by rhainnedroppe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what faith you are, if you are Methodist you can delight in the fact they will move him before too long. Also she may do him in, if she keeps talking like that.
If she is comfortable talking like this then he too may harbour these racidt feeling, but not neccessarily.
Tell him you were uncomfortable about that conversation and concerned about her comments. See how he reacts. Do not approach confrontationally about it. that's his wife, he is human, he will defend if he feels she is attacked.
If he seems unconcerned and many others in your church appear to be comfortable with racist talk, you probably already know you can't stay.
As ministers we are human and no better or more powerful than you. Our area of expertise is just in a different area. No minister should make you afraid to approach him/her although many can be overly authoritaian and make you feel that way, Don't!
Be polite and calm.
Bu the way, you will find racists and bigots everywhere and in every church. We are Christians, but not perfect or even close.
the Episcopal Church welcomes you! And All peoples!
God Bless!
2006-12-22 01:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the Pastor about it, and also the Pastor's wife. There is no different between any human on earth, all are concluded under sin.
For your complete salvation come to the Kingdom of God
2006-12-22 00:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go to your pastor and bring up what subject was brought up and how uncomfortable and what you thought about that the pastor should speak to those that talk that way make feel that you would want to leave the church because of the hate words. they should keep those type of uncomfortable out of the way of the place of love.
2006-12-22 01:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by clear morning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the pastor about it. If you don't get a REALLY good answer than you definitely are in the wrong church.
2006-12-22 01:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by Alan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't judge him or you will commit the same sin, because the same God who said love one another, also said do not judge. We are all call to forgive one another, if u got scandalize for what he did imagine if u can really see what you are capable of doing...... Only God can love us as we are. Knowing myself i would have told him right there, who gave him the right to talk bad about another person. I am Catholic and if i see a priest doing something wrong i will say something to him, maybe in private, there is no need of making it a big deal. I think you should go back and talk to him, we can run every time something like this happens, nobody is perfect.
2006-12-22 01:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the Pastor.
2006-12-22 00:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by robert m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply leave, stop attending that church. If asked reply with the statement that no person should be allowed to condemn another person because of their race as this woman did. Find a church that truly welcomes all races.
2006-12-22 01:14:43 · answer #10 · answered by Tristam H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋