my parents are mormon. i am not an entirely organized religion type of a person. for about the last three yrs i have had no loyalty to mormonism and have explored, studied, and gathered knowledge of other religions and phyloshophies in buhdism, wicca, hindu, ancient greek, roman, and egyptian, etc. i also have a boyfriend, which isnt aloud. so how do i break it to them that i dont want to live a lie of mormonism anymore?
2006-12-21 16:43:43 · 14 answers · asked by Ariana Rhiannon 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
First of all, i believe mormons to be Christians and their faith to be valid, even though it is not my flavor.
A lot of this depends on your age. If you are still at home and very young, this could be very difficult and I'd sort of leave out the wiccan stuff for now.
If you are older. closer to college or graduation, perhaps it will be easier, but people with strong convictions to any particluar faith can be very non-flexible and it could be most unpleasent and you might find yourself in front of your local Bishop in a hurry as they try to help you as they see it.. It is their role as parents to do this, and their right, as long as they do not do so through abuse, which I would doubt.
Honestly and being strightforward is the best policy, but you really know them I and suspect you know how they may react.
Whatever, leave the boyfriend at home, his home. Even if he wants to be there, or you want him there, it will just complicate matters and make it all harder.
2006-12-21 16:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to tell them. What do you want from them by telling your condition? You want them to follow your way. Then don't tell them directly. Just try to introduce some good stories from other religions as just a literature. But never tell them you no longer believe in Mormonism. It will hurt them very painful. Saying nothing is better that ' saying i have had no loyalty to the religion you believe in'. In stead of that just carry on your exploration the eternal truth.It's really a great Job. I guess you've already found the fruits and frauds of all religion in certain degree. Accept the fruits and throw the frauds away.
2006-12-22 01:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by doo doo 2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I do not envy you in this position. Secondly, I would just sit down and talk with them about it, just be honest, explain to them how you feel and why. Just understand there will probably be hurt feelings on both sides. Once you talk with them, just be patient with them.
Christianity never felt right to me when I found something that did feel right my family never approved, some still don't more than 10 years later. Now I am married, my husband is Christian as is his family, I am Wiccan and I am pretty sure none of them know, we just never told them, though if you look on our marriage liscence it clearly says husband Christian, wife Wiccan. We have a 2 year old son and have decided that when he is old enough to make the decision he can choose what is right for him, and any other children we have. We plan to expose him to everything so he too can make an educated decision when it is time.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-22 00:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't be easy, but you will need to pick the time and do it. Whether it is when yo uare at home or after you leave home.
One word of caution - don't throw the Bible out with the bathwater. Just because you are not convinced of the suitability of the Mormon church, don't throw out the Bible. It is true and it stands no matter what happens to the Mormon church.
2006-12-23 05:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what religion you follow every child under their parent's authority should respect their parents. One shows respect by being honest. Therefore, I would suggest for you to first tell them you are having doubts about your beliefs. This should open up dialogue with your parents and perhaps you will learn more about why they believe what they believe. This will give you time to reassess your beliefs and still keep a good dialogue open with your parents. Having good dialogue with your parents is far more valuable than trying to prove any points at this time in your life. As you get older and are out from under their authority and you no longer believe like they do, that would be the proper time to tell them.
2006-12-22 00:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by it_was_julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, you just described my life except I grew up Catholic. I took my stance when I was supposed to get confirmed (get up in front of the church and profess my beliefs). I told my mom that if she forced me to do it I would say "no" to all of the commitments in front of everyone and embarrass her (my real motivations were not embarass her or punish her but at the time(16 yrs old), I thought that would let her know I meant business). She didn't make me do it and no longer made me go to church with her. I know that Mormonism is a lot more "hardcore" than Catholicism but your parents will have to accept that you'll have to make up your own mind about God and spirituality yourself. Let them know that they have taught you to be a critical thinker and independent and right now, you have doubts about this being right for you. They can disagree with you but they can't MAKE you believe something you don't (even if they MAKE you go to Church)
Good luck!! and I mean it :-)
2006-12-22 00:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, this was a problem for me too. My mother is hindu and wants me to be hindu. But the best thing to to is come straight out with it. A closed mouth doesn't get fed. The worst they can do is not accept it but in your world, in your mind no matter what they say, you will believe whatever you want to. If they don't accept it, just let them know that you're not going to change what you believe in. They won't be able to do a single thing about it.
2006-12-22 00:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by Mizz Franchise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having a look at Lutheran, I think you'll like what you see.
You really don't give enough information for me to answer your basic question. How old are you and what do you think your parents will do when you let them know you don't want to be a Mormon? It might be much easier for them to understand if you convert to a conventional religion like Lutheran, than if you join a strange cult. God Bless!
2006-12-22 00:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be honest. Parents, yes even Mormon, are to love. You have the free will to practice any religion or non-religion you wish.
2006-12-24 05:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by Bored With This 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a wicca religion that i lead also.and the fact that my family are all christians makes it not a pleasant site to be in.i told my mum about it and she seem to accept the fact that i am a witch and have supernatural powers.i told her all about wicca how we believe in the two deities as being the all,and she seemed to understand and didnt have much problem with it as long as it didnt have nothing to do with evil.and i told her that the evil aspect is not even a part of the wicca tradition,that we dont believe in evil.as for my other side of my family,i havent said nothing yet.but my point to you is dont be afraid to tell what religion you want to live your life in.it so happens that any religion is a religion of faith in the law of the us order of religion of the law.we are free to believe now what we want to .as long as we dont jepordize any others in their beliefs.i hope that you have the courage to tell your family that you believe in one way or the other.May the Goddess be with you in your hard times of faith in your religion.
May the dark Goddess bless you.
Blessed Be,
The Morrigan)O(
2006-12-22 00:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by Hecate's_witch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋