So I'm in love with this girl who likes me back, but we don't admit to being more than friends. Long term it can't work because she is 9 years older, and is done having kids, and I am only 24 and I havent started with kids, and I think that's important to me.
So I might go to counseling. Should I try to move past her and stay friends? Or should I stop being her friend? Or should I try to take it to the next level?
2006-12-21 16:18:58 · 12 answers · asked by JoeIQ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My emotions are making my life kinda tough right now. I try to bury them but it is very hard.
2006-12-21 16:20:00 · update #1
probably move on. just for the kid thing though. you are still young with alot of life ahead of you. you should find someone who can give you what you want or you will feel misplaced. or just do her and give her what she wants. Im sure she doesnt want a long term somthing either. counseling is for dorks.
2006-12-21 16:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by fuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have this conversation with her...No I would definitely move on to someone that wants the same things as you do. Kids are a good thing, but I doubt she will want to start all over again. The age difference seems to be an issue between you. I think you are in a safe range, but i really think you need to find out what her wants are for the relationship and if she sees herself with more children. Talk it out with her.
2006-12-22 00:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by MARY L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe life is to short to live someone elses life. if u do futher things with her, youll be living he life and not your dreams. since your young u want to have kids but that wont happen, i think u should only be freinds and find someone who is interested on kids and starting a new life togethor. Someone times people dont want to change their life becasue theyre comfortable but im sure if u decided to make a chage u will be happy and find someone in your range. good luck
2006-12-22 00:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey young blood just practise safe sex and go on getting a little experience after all at that age you could do with some and then move on because a man without children doesn't have any proof of existence
2006-12-22 00:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by shallah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO MOVE ON, YOU AND THIS WOMEN MAY
HAVE FEELING FOR EACH OTHER BUT YOU ARE AT
A STAGE OF YOUR LIFE THAT YOU WANT CHILDREN DOWN
THE ROAD, SHE BEEN THERE DONE THAT, SO IT WOULD
BE NOT GOOD TO BE WITH HER, THEN YOU WILL START
TO RESENT HER AS TIME GO BY, TIME TO MOVE ON
AND FIND SOMEONE THAT WANT THE SAME THINGS
AS YOU, IF CHILDREN ARE SOMETHING THAT YOU WANT
THEN DONT SETTLE FOR LESS. YOU WILL REGRET IT.
2006-12-22 00:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her your kinda confused on what to do. shes already had kids and dont want anymore and you want kids and still young just tell her the truth
2006-12-22 00:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by hotcakelaugh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's 9?
2006-12-22 00:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by Lexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, be honest and tell her everything that you are thinking and wanting from life.
2006-12-22 00:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Love is love. Age difference doesn't matter.
2006-12-22 00:25:15 · answer #9 · answered by lmiitsoslx3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in my opinoion i think u shouldjust be friends
because youre to young for her
2006-12-22 00:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋