My dog Molly, a yellow lab, won't come near me at all unless she HAS to! It gets so frustrating after awhile. She only comes to me when she has to pee or poop. She won't even come to me for something to eat. I have to make sure that she eats, and sometimes I have to take the food TO her. Most of the time she comes to her food if I'm not around to see her and af. The moment that she hears me coming to the kitchen to get something, she runs away to the living room or upstairs to avoid me. If I didn't give her food, she'd be dead by now. All she does is stay in her cage and never moves from that place until my mom gets home. Then she's playful and happy, and she's never in her cage. I just don't understand! I've never done anything bad to her! I've only yelled at her a couple of times in the year that we've had her, and that was for big "mishaps" like for chewing stuff up. I'm nice to her and give her lots of treats and pet her, but she's still a chicken and cold to me.
2006-12-21 16:12:41 · 10 answers · asked by Devin O 4 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Sounds more like the dog is clearly attached to his mother, and has separation anxiety.
Its pretty clear he cant handle how the dog is acting right now, so Id sugest calling in a behavioral specialist.
theres many ways to break the anxiety all youll be doing is training the dog to accpe that shes leaving and will be returning.
Giving her a specific toy everytime your mom leaves, at the same time have your mom leave and return often for smll amounts of time will do the trick.
And you learning to take the dog for walks will help greatly.
instead of letting the dog avoid you you need to teach the dog that youre one of its masters too. It might be troublesome at first, but eventually the dog will warm up to you.
Id suggest both you and your mom start going on walks together, this way the dog learns to accept you.
Perhaps start out with you walking along wththem, building up to you taking the leash, then you doing it on your own with the dog.
From there learn to add your own fun as you bond with the dog more.
2006-12-21 16:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by writersbIock2006 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you are trying to be nice to her, offering her food and petting her, but she in fact feels threatened by those actions. By trying to gain her attention all the time, you are frightening her even more. No matter what initially caused the mistrust, the remedy is the same. You have to stop any interaction, stop noticing her until she decides that you are not a threat. As far as food goes, leave it somewhere where she can see it and go without as much as looking at her. (Direct stare is a threat as well!)
This is going to be like taming a wild creature. But if you want her full trust and not just forced interaction (where she would remain scared of you), this is the only way. Whenever an animal is scared, it should be left alone, not petted and "reassured". Wait until she approaches you.
Even when you see the signs of her "coming round", don't overpower her with your attention. Do not tower above the dog with your hand extended. As far as animals are concerned, this is not friendly, it's threatening!
Reassess your body language. Maybe you are naturally loud, gesturing a lot? Do you move rapidly? If so, try to be a bit more gentle and quiet in the way you act, even if not directly around her. Don't expect rapid results. This one is going to test your patience, but if you try to tune in to the way she thinks, you may start to understand what is happening. Animals can teach us a lot of stuff....
2006-12-21 18:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by babs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know how old your Molly is from your mail, but if she has been with you since she was a puppy, maybe you just did not show her enough love rowing up and your couple of times of yelling might have done it to her. I have a friend who owns 2 German Sheperd, and because of the way he yells at them for every little thing, they are petrified of him and they only play with me and not him.
Like someone suggested in an earlier answer, obedience school might do the trick, but more importantly, I think you need to watch what it is your mother is doing right with the dog.
2006-12-21 22:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dog remembers your yelling at her. It's not so much what a human says to a dog, it's the tone of voice and feelings imparted at that time. The dog probably still senses your part-time niceness and part-time anger mixed with your frustration over her not wanting to come to you. The only thing you can do now is close the cage and put the pad from inside it next to where you sit in your relaxation time at home. She will eventually be comfortable with your love and attention.
Labs are very docile, loving animals (I have a black, male lab). They are particularly sensitive. It takes a sincere effort to win them over to be your personal pet, but after you do, they adore you.
My beautiful lab, "Cowboy," has diabetes. He lets me give him a shot of insulin twice daily. I lean over to tell him he's a good boy and I'm sorry I hurt him...he lifts his head and gives me a kiss.
2006-12-21 16:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by TexasStar 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi. Perhaps your mother has played with her a lot more so that she has bonded with her. You may be viewed as the disciplinarian.Get some treats and toys and play more with the dog.Give it awhile. She'll come around. Roll around on the floor with her. Have a dog gone good Christmas.
2006-12-21 16:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some canines basically dislike the loud steel sound. i've got heard some clickers that grated on my ears besides. you do no longer ought to apply a clicker to get a similar outcomes. Use another sound it quite is unique to that subject, one that would not startle. i exploit my voice, which I constantly have with me, and use "specific!" to mark the habit. it works basically besides and that i've got by no skill had any canines spook at it. For deaf canines we use an on/off flick of a flashlight somewhat of a clicker.
2016-11-28 03:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to obedience school with her. They'll help you learn what you might be doing to scare her, and that will force her to be in contact with you and learn to work with you. You don't say anything about her history, so if she's a pound dog it's possible that she had an abusive past owner that you remind her of, and simple time will help you gain her trust.
Good luck!
2006-12-21 16:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by zandyandi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she was abused before you got her.or she senses somthing wrong with you.
2006-12-21 16:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by nenet 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she has associated you with fear,and your mother with security.Try petting her with your mother present,and feeding.
2006-12-21 16:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by siaosi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe because you are very ugly??
2006-12-21 16:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋